Kukoma mtima m'dziko lamakono kuli ndi mbiri yoipa. Chimakhala chimodzi mwa makhalidwe abwino achikristu, koma ife, komabe, timadandaula. Nthawi zina zimawoneka kuti kukoma mtima ndi kusagwirizana ndi moyo wabwino, ntchito, kuzindikira, ndi anthu abwino ndizo zophweka zomwe sangathe kusamalira zofuna zawo. Moyo wopambana nthawi zambiri umagwirizanitsidwa, ngati osati ndi ukali, ndiye molimbika, "kuyenda pamutu" ndi "kukankhira mitu" ya anthu ena - koma kodi china chingapezeke bwanji mu mpikisano wa dziko? Pa mtengo tsopano ndizowawa, nkhanza, kusokoneza, kusakhala ndi zizindikiro. Komabe, tonsefe, mosamala kapena ayi, tikufuna kuti dziko likhale labwino. Tikufuna kuyankha maganizo a anthu ena moona mtima ndikusonyeza kukoma mtima pokhapokha. Tikufuna kuti tisamadalire tokha, tikufuna kukhala otseguka, kupereka opanda lingaliro lakumbuyo ndikuthokoza popanda manyazi. Tiyeni tiyesetse kupeza njira yowakomera mtima, kuchokera pansi pamtima.
Chifukwa chiyani ziri zovuta kwambiri?
Choyamba, chifukwa ife tikuganiza kuti zoipa zina zonse zimakhulupirira ndi katswiri wa maganizo, katswiri pa kuyankhulana kosagwirizana kwa Thomas d'Ansembourg. Koma pamene nkhope zawo zimakhala zozizira komanso zosasunthika, pamene sazilandiridwa, nthawi zambiri zimangokhala zotetezera kapena kusonyeza manyazi. Zokwanira kuona chithunzi chanu pawindo la msewu kuti mutsimikizire: timayenso kuvala maski. Chodabwitsa n'chakuti, koma makolo, amatikakamiza kuti tikhale okoma mtima komanso okoma kuti tikhale ndi ubwana, tisonyezerani kuti ndizolakwika kuti tithe kuyankhula ndi anthu osadziwika, kulankhula mokweza, kuti sayenera kukondana ndikuyesera kukondweretsa. Kutitenga ife, motero, nthawi yomweyo amafunafuna kuti tisasokoneze kwambiri, musazengereze, musasokoneze. Choncho kuti tisasokonezeke. Kuwonjezera pamenepo, malingaliro a chilungamo omwe adalimbikitsidwa muubwana amakhala ngati kuti muyenera kupereka zambiri zomwe mumapeza. Tiyenera kuthana ndi chizolowezi chimenechi. Vuto lina ndiloti pamene tilunjika pambali, timayika. Zolinga zathu zikhoza kutanthauziridwa molakwika, thandizo lathu likhoza kusiya, malingaliro athu sangakhoze kulandiridwa ndi kusekedwa. Pomaliza, tingathe kugwiritsidwa ntchito, ndipo tidzakhala opusa. Zimatengera kulimba mtima ndipo panthawi imodzimodzi kudzichepetsa kuchoka pa ego wanu ndikupeza mphamvu yakukhulupilira nokha, ina ndi moyo, m'malo momadzitetezera nthawi zonse.
Kusankha mkati
Psychoanalysis ili ndi chifukwa chake chomwe chiri chophweka kukhala woipa mwanjira inayake. Mkwiyo umayankhula za nkhawa ndi kukhumudwa: tikuopa kuti ena adzawona kusatetezeka kwathu. Zoipa ndizosakhutira anthu amene amachotsa kumverera kwa vuto, kuchotsa malingaliro oipa kwa ena. Koma mkwiyo nthawi zonse ndi wotsika mtengo: umatulutsa maganizo athu. Kukoma mtima, mmalo mwake, ndi chizindikiro cha mphamvu zamkati ndi mgwirizano: zabwino zimatha kuika chiopsezo chotaya "nkhope", chifukwa sichidzawononga. Kukoma mtima ndiko kuthekera kwa kukhala kwathunthu pambali pa wina, limodzi ndi ena, kumvetsetsa nazo, amati psychology existence. Kuti izi zichitike, tiyenera choyamba kubwezeretsana ndi ife eni, "kukhalapo mwaife tokha." Timakhala okoma mtima kwambiri, chifukwa chifundo chenicheni sichigwirizana ndi kusadzilemekeza kapena kuopa anthu ena, ndipo mantha ndi kudzichepetsa ndizofunikira kwa ife nthawi zambiri. Kudziteteza tokha, timagwiritsa ntchito kudzipereka, luntha, kufooketsa. Choncho timayesa kuti sitingathe kuteteza choonadi, tchenjeza za ngozi, kulowerera, pamene ena akusowa thandizo. Kukoma mtima kosatha, osati chikondi chenicheni komanso kuloweza pamtima, kumadyetsa chimodzimodzi amene akufotokoza, komanso amene amavomereza. Koma kuti tibwere ku izi, tiyenera kuvomereza lingaliro lakuti sitingakonde wina, kumukhumudwitsa, kuti tifunikire kumenyana, kuteteza malo athu.
Malamulo Achilengedwe
Tikudziwa kuti si anthu onse omwe ali okoma mtima. Pa nthawi yomweyi, kuyesera kumasonyeza kuti timamva chisoni kuchokera kubadwa: pamene mwana wakhanda amva kulira kwa mwana wina, ndiye akuyamba kulira. Umoyo wathu monga chirombo chimadalira ubwino wa maubwenzi omwe timalowamo. Chisoni ndi chofunikira kuti tipulumuke monga zamoyo, choncho chilengedwe chimatipatsa luso lamtengo wapatali. Nchifukwa chiyani satetezedwa nthawi zonse? Ntchito yofunika kwambiri imakhudzidwa ndi kukopa kwa makolo: panthawi yomwe mwanayo amawatsanzira, amakhala wokoma mtima, ngati kholo limasonyeza kukoma mtima. Kutetezeka maganizo mu ubwana, ubwino wa thupi ndi maganizo kumathandizira kuti ukhale wokoma mtima. M'kalasi komanso m'mabanja omwe palibe ziweto komanso ochotserako, kumene akuluakulu amachitira aliyense mofanana bwino, ana amakhala okoma mtima: pamene lingaliro lathu lachilungamo likhutitsidwa, ndi kosavuta kuti tithandizane wina ndi mzake.
Chikhalidwe cha mkwiyo wathu
Nthawi zambiri timaganiza kuti tili ndi anthu osasangalala omwe akulota kutilakwira. Pakalipano, ngati mutayang'ana mwatcheru, zimakhala kuti pafupifupi maulendo athu onse ndi anthu ena salowerera ndale, ndipo nthawi zambiri - ndizosangalatsa kwambiri. Zomwe zimachitika kuti anthu ambiri asagwirizane nazo zimagwirizana ndi kuti kugunda kulikonse kovulaza kumapweteka kwambiri ndipo kukumbukiridwa kwa nthawi yaitali. Kuchokera pamtima kukumbukira zowawa zoterezi, osachepera zikwi khumi amafunikira, katswiri wa sayansi ya zamoyo, Stephen Jay Gould, adanena. Pali nthawi ndi zochitika pamene ife timakhala ochimwa. Mwachitsanzo, muunyamata, nthawi zina mumakhala ndilakalaka nkhanza - choncho pali chikhumbo chodzitchula, chomwe mwana sangathe kunena. Kuti nthawi yoipayi ipite mofulumira, nkofunikira kuti mwanayo onse amve wotetezeka, osati kuzunzika, osati mantha m'tsogolo. Ngati palibe tsogolo kutsogolo (akuopsezedwa ndi kusowa kwa nyumba, ntchito, ndalama), ndiye mkwiyo ndi nkhanza zingapitirize. Ndipotu, makamaka, ayenera kumenyana kuti apulumuke, zomwe zimapangitsa mkwiyo kukhala wovomerezeka. Tili ndi ufulu kukhala woipa ngati anthu achifwamba amatisokoneza, kapena tikakhala kuti timadzilemekeza tokha, kutsutsana ndi chizunzo kapena chiwawa, kapena tikamagwira ntchito moona mtima, ndipo ochita nawo mpikisano "amavomereza", amenyana ndi njira zopanda chilungamo. Ngati wina akuchita ngati mdani yemwe watimbana ndi ife, kukhala wofewa ndi wachifundo kumakhala kovulaza: chifundo chathu chidzakhala chisonyezero chakuti sitidziwa momwe tingadzitetezere tokha, sitingadzikakamize kudziwerengera tokha.
Komanso, akatswiri a zamaganizo amadziwa kuti ndi "chilango chodzipereka", pamene chidziwitso chathu cha chilungamo chikuphatikizidwa ndi chilango chofuna kulanga omwe samasewera ndi malamulo. Mkwiyo woterewu ndi wolimbikitsa - m'tsogolomu anthu amapindula nawo. Koma apa zikuyenera kukumbukiridwa kuti mzere pakati pa kulimbikira chilungamo ndi chiwawa ndi wopepuka: ngati tili okondwa ndi kuwonongeka kwa oligarch, sikudziwika ngati tikukhala osangalala chifukwa timamuwona ngati wolanda kapena chifukwa tinamuchitira nsanje ndipo tsopano tiri okondwa ndi tsoka lake. Khalani monga momwe zingakhalire, chifundo sichichotsa kulimbitsa, chimachokera pa kudzidalira nokha ndi ufulu wa mkati ndi moyo wamba sichifuna kuti tidzipereke tokha.
Kukoma mtima kumawathandiza
Ndipotu, aliyense wa ife amayembekeza izi: kukhala wachifundo ndi wachifundo, kuvomereza kukoma mtima ndi kuyankha kwa ena. Mawu akuti "mgwirizano" ndi "ubale", otsutsidwa ndi boma la Soviet, pang'onopang'ono amapeza tanthauzo. Timawona izi pamene pali masoka ngati omwe tinakumana nawo mu utsi wa chilimwe. Timawona kuti chikondi ndi mabungwe odzipereka akuwonekera ndikugwira bwino ntchito. Mipingo yothandizana pamodzi ikuwonekera, kumene amasinthanitsa, mwachitsanzo, zinthu za ana kapena zothandiza. Achinyamata amavomereza kudzera pa intaneti ponena kuti adzikhala okhaokha kapena akupeza malo awo ogona usiku. Kukoma kuli mwa aliyense wa ife. Pofuna kuyambitsa "kayendedwe ka makina", zimangokwanira kupanga chizindikiro chaching'ono: kutambasula botolo la madzi, kuyamika, kudutsa mu mzere wa munthu wachikulire, kuti amamwetulire pa woyendetsa basi. Musayankhe ndi chitonzo ndi chitonzo, kufuula kufuula, nkhanza zowawa. Kumbukirani kuti ndife anthu onse. Ndipo kale, tifunika "chikhalidwe cha ubale". Mu mgwirizano waumunthu. Mu kukoma mtima.
Zonse ziri bwino!
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