Kawirikawiri zimachitika kuti mwamuna akuwoneka akumuuza mkazi wake wamtima kuti amamukonda, koma kwenikweni iye amasonyeza malingaliro osiyana komanso amamuchitira molakwika. Kodi chifukwa cha khalidwe ili ndi chiyani?
Amuna ambiri amavutika ndi maofesi omwe anawasokoneza ali mwana. Ndipo kwa zaka zambiri izi zimamera vpsihiku mwamphamvu kuti kuti apite nawo mwina mwanjira inayake kukamenyana, anthu ayamba kugwiritsa ntchito omwe ali nawo mbali. Nthaŵi zambiri, anyamata akudzidalira pazinthu za amayi omwe amawakonda. Poyang'ana mayi yemwe ali wokonzeka kuchita chilichonse kwa mwamuna wake, mnyamatayo amayamba kumva ngati mfumu komanso Mulungu. Ndipo ndikumverera kumene iye akusowa nthawizonse. Poyamba, munthu woteroyo amakhutira ndi chikondi cha hafu yake. Koma m'kupita kwa nthawi, ayamba kufunafuna kupembedza kochuluka, monga momwe maofesi ake amayamba kukula. Ndi anthu amtunduwu omwe anganyoze akazi awo powaopseza ndi kupatukana. Ndipo akazi omwe, kwenikweni, akuwakonda kwambiri anyamata awo, amakhala akapolo, okonzeka kupita kulikonse, kuti asachoke. Zikatero, mowonjezereka mkazi amayesa kutsimikizira chikondi chake kwa mwamuna, makamaka pamene amadzilola yekha. Pamapeto pake, chirichonse chimene akunena ndi kuchita, adzachiwonetsa cholakwika ndipo sadzalola kuti awonetseredwe ngati munthu. Muzochitika zoterozo, maganizo oipa amakwiyitsidwa ndi atsikana okha, ngakhale osadziŵa. Amuna sangaperekedwe ufulu wowonongeka, komanso, kusonyeza kuti simungathe kukhala opanda iwo. Poyamba, zimakhala zovuta kumvetsetsa ngati pali zovuta zoterezi m'banja kapena ngati munthu wamba, wokhazikika ndi wokwanira. Choncho, kuti mukhale otetezeka, yesetsani kuti musalole kuti anyamatawo akhale oposa kuyambira pachiyambi. Mwamuna akakhala ndi nsanje mopanda manyazi pamene amalira nthawi zonse ndi mkazi wake, amanyoza ndi kumunyalanyaza iye, ngakhalenso, akhoza kukweza dzanja lake, ndiye chikondi chake ndi chinyengo chabe kuti adadza ndi iye yekha, ndi ena. Koma kwenikweni, amafuna kuti agonjetse maofesi ake, koma sangathe kuganiza moyenera chifukwa cha izi, chifukwa amagwiritsa ntchito munthu wofooka ndi wachikondi kuthetsa mavuto ake a maganizo omwe akhala akufunikira kwa katswiri kwa nthawi yaitali.
Mphamvu ya abwenzi
Mwatsoka, amuna amatha kugwidwa ndi maganizo a anzanu, makamaka abwenzi awo. Ngati azimayi akunena kuti msungwanayo sali wokongola, osakhala wochenjera, ndi zina zotero, ndipo nthawi zambiri amadzipeza bwino, mnyamatayo amayamba kuganizira za izi ndi kukwiya ndi theka lake. Zoonadi, khalidwe ndi malingaliro oterewa kwa amayi sangatchedwe zachilendo. Okwanira mu ubale wawo akhoza kuchita izi zaka khumi ndi zisanu. Pano pokhapokha pa khalidwe linalake la khalidweli lapulumutsidwa ku moyo wonse. Ndipo kuyambira pa ubale wa wina, mwamuna nthawi yomweyo amalandira "kuyankhulana" kwa abwenzi ake, komwe amakambirana za zoyenera ndi zoyipa za atsikana. Ndipo mu makumi asanu ndi anai mphambu asanu, zochitika zimaperekedwa kokha ku deta zakunja. Ndipo, monga mukudziwira, aliyense ali ndi zokonda zake. Choncho, palibe amene angatsimikizire kuti mtsikanayo angakonde abwenzi ake. Ndipo ngati izi zichitika, amayamba kukopa mwamuna kuti ali ndi mwanayo komanso momwe angalankhulire ndi munthu woteroyo. Choncho, mnyamata yemwe amafunsa zakukhosi anzake ngati akuyenera kukonza masewero, ndi munthu wovuta kwambiri. Kumvetsera kwa ana, amatha kuganiza ndi kuyamba kumukwiyira mtsikanayo, yemwe sanali wabwino kwa abwenzi ake. Ndipo ziribe kanthu momwe izo zimawonekera zopanda pake, munthu wotere amayamba kusintha msungwanayo mothandizidwa ndi malingaliro ake olakwika, mkwiyo ndi kukwiya. Koma ife tonse tikudziwa kuti deta yapansi imasintha mosavuta. Ndicho chifukwa chake amuna oterewa amayamba kukwiya ndi kukwiya chifukwa cha iwo okha. Amapereka madandaulo osamveka kwa atsikanawo, amawatcha kuti urodks, amanena kuti amakumana ndi chisoni chokha, ndipo mayi wa onse sali woyenera kukhala ndi munthu wina. Ngati muwona kuti munthu amachitira zinthu monga chonchi chifukwa cha abwenzi, ndiye muyenera kulingalira ngati mukufuna munthu amene alibe maganizo ake. Pambuyo pake, munthu wamba yemwe samapita kukafunsa maganizo a abwenzi, samalola kuti aliyense asamangokhalira kukambirana naye, ngakhale atangoyamba kukambirana. Ndipo pamene mnyamata ali ndi zochepa zomwe zimaloleza, nayenso amavomereza, ndiye kuti ulemu wake ndi ulemu wake sizingalankhulidwe nkomwe. Munthu uyu sangatchulidwe kuti ndi mwamuna, chifukwa ndi amene amamukonda komanso amene amadzikonda yekha, ndipo tsopano akudzudzula chifukwa chakuti sadakondane naye.
Mwachidule akhoza kutenga
Chifukwa china chomwe anthu amayamba kukhala oipa kwambiri ponena za amai ndizoletsedwa kulekanitsa njira. Munthuyo akuganiza kuti sakufunanso kuti akhale ndi mkazi uyu, koma m'malo momayankhula naye, amayamba kuchita zinthu kuti amukwiyire ndikupatsidwa gawo. Ichi ndichizindikiro chachikulu cha munthu wofooka yemwe sangathe kuchita ulemu ndikudziimira yekha zochita. Ngakhale atanena kuti ndi msungwana chabe, si choncho. Munthu yemwe sakhala wotsutsana ndi malingaliro a wina sadzilola yekha khalidwelo. Nthawi zonse amapeza mawu oti afotokoze ndipo sadzanyoza ndi kumunyoza mkazi mwanjira iyi. Ngati mwamunayo akukwiya nthawi zonse, amakwiya, amaitana, ndipo nthawi yomweyo sangathe kufotokoza chifukwa chake, zimatanthauza kuti akuyesera kukakamiza mtsikanayo kupanga chisankho chosiyana, kotero kuti akhoza kusiya ntchito ndi "kuuma."
Pamwamba tidakambirana za momwe amayi sali olakwa pa chirichonse ndipo amuna amachita moyenera mwa kungodalira zokhumba zawo zokha, zomwe sizigwirizana kwenikweni ndi khalidwe la amayi. Koma zimakhalanso kuti khalidwe la mnyamata limakhala loipa osati chifukwa chakuti ali wosasunthika komanso lovuta, koma chifukwa chakuti mkaziyo amamukakamiza kuti achite zimenezo mwa khalidwe lake la mphepo, kulemekeza, ndi zina zotero. Choncho, musanadzipange nokha, ganizirani momwe mumakhalira. Mwina izi ziri kwa inu, osati kuti aganizire za momwe amamvera kwa anthu, makamaka kwa theka lachiwiri. Koma ngati siziri chomwecho, ndiye kuti pafupi ndi inu ndi munthu wophweka omwe mukufunikira kuthetsa ubale mwamsanga.