Chifukwa chake chingakhale chirichonse, koma msungwana aliyense, pokhala pazinthu zoterezi, amayamba kufunafuna iye, akuyang'ana mmutu mwake zonse zomwe zingathetsere mwamuna. Poyesera kubwereranso wokondedwa, mkazi, mosalekeza, akudzifunsa funsolo: nchiyani cholakwika? Amasiya chilakolako chake, samagona usiku, amamuyitana, pambuyo pake, ataya mtima, koma kuyesa konse kulibechabechabe. Kuitana sikuli kolimbikitsa, kwina kulikonse: kukambirana kopanda pake, mayankho oletsa, kukwiya pamapeto pa waya kapena kunyozedwa - chirichonse chimene mungamve.
Zimanyoza ndi zopweteka. Koma abwenzi omwe ali maso samagona ndipo amayamba kumvetsa chisoni ndi nsonga zachapa zomwe sizolandiridwa muzochitikazi, kapena kungowathandiza basi. Ndipo atagwiritsa ntchito malangizo ena, zolakwa zimangowonjezera, ndipo munthu wokondedwayo amachokapo. Nanga mungalowe bwanji? Kodi ndingayambirenso bwanji ubale wanga ndi munthu, popanda umene moyo umataya tanthauzo lonse?
Chinthu chofunika kwambiri kwa mkazi pa nthawiyi ndicho kusonyeza kuleza mtima. Kawirikawiri, chilakolako chadzidzidzi kwa mkazi wina sizowonjezera kanthawi kochepa chabe komwe kulibe zolinga zenizeni. Chikondi posachedwa chidutsa, ndipo nthawi ya ubale wokondana waubale umalowetsedwa ndi kuzindikira momwe zinthu zilili, khalidwe la mnzanu watsopano likusintha. Ndipo n'zosavuta kusankha momwe mungabwerere munthu wokondedwa wanu.
Izi ndizo, chikhalidwe chachikulu pano ndi kuleza mtima komanso kuthekera. Pakati pa anthu awiri achikondi kumeneko kuli mphamvu yamphamvu, pamene mwamuna ndi mkazi akumverera wina ndi mzake, ngakhale iwo sali pamodzi. Malingana ngati mukumva ululu, mwamuna wanu amapeza mphamvu ndikumasuka ndi mkazi wina. Mulole kuti mumve bwino, musaleke kuzunzika, ndi munthu amene anakukanikani, asiye kulandira mphamvu kuchokera kwa inu ndipo ndithudi akufuna kuti muyankhule, kukomana ndi mphamvu yake yotopetsa. Lamulo la kusunga mphamvu - limagwira mozizwitsa. Pitani mukatenge ndipo muzisangalala, ndithudi, sizingakhale zophweka, koma mukhoza kusokoneza chidwi chanu ndi chinthu china chokumvera chisoni kapena kusintha chilengedwe, ndikupitiriza ulendo. Ngati mukufuna, mungapeze njira zina kuti mupeze njira.
Koma zimakhalanso kuti kukonda mwamuna kumakhala kovuta, ndipo ndi kovuta kupumula ndi kukhala mu boma kwa nthawi yaitali. Kupweteka sikupita. Kodi mungatani kuti mubwererenso wokondedwayo?
Pali akazi omwe amagwiritsa ntchito spell chikondi kuti abwezeretse mwamuna. Ndipo ngakhale pali zotsatira za zotsatira za mwambo umenewu. Azimayi ena amagwiritsa ntchito njira zosiyanasiyana - mitundu yonse yamalonda, yomwe, malinga ndi "ozunzidwa", adawathandiza kubwezeretsa maubwenzi. Koma mu matsenga amenewa pali, mosakayikira, osasintha - munthu yemwe wabwerera kwa mkazi osati mwa chifuniro chake, amasintha kwambiri. M'malo mwa munthu wodalirika, munthu wolimba mtima, munthu wofooka wofooka amawoneka kapena, mosiyana, munthu wansanje ndi wofulumira. Panthawi yofuna kubwereranso wokondedwa, nthawi zambiri amai ambiri amapita ku "matsenga" akuda, osaganiza za zotsatira zake, m'moyo wa munthu uyu ndi wake. Kuonjezera apo, kuti mumagwiritsa ntchito ndalama zanu pa bizinesiyi, palibe chinthu china chofunika kwambiri chimene chidzachitike, osati kupita patsogolo mu ubalewu.
Kodi pali njira yobweretsera wokondedwa wanu popanda kubwereranso?
Musamupemphe kuti abwerere, musapemphe chifundo, musati muwonetsere nkhanza - zidzangowonjezera vutoli. Njira zoterezi zimakhudza kwambiri amuna. Musapemphere chikhululuko, kotero inu mumangodzinyalanyaza nokha. Chiwawa chidzachititsa zomwezo. Akuitana kuti amve ndikukumverani chisoni, apatseni mwayi, amangokhalira kukankhira wokondedwa - sakufuna kumva zowawa chifukwa cha inu. Musayese kubwezera munthuyo, kumumasula.
Sungani malingaliro anu, ziribe kanthu momwe zingakhalire zovuta kupirira nazo izi. Sonkhanitsani chifuniro chanu chonse mu chiwongolero ndi kukhala ndi ubale wabwino ndi munthu wokondedwa wanu. Kotero inu mukhoza kuyankhulana naye iye, chotero, sungani ubale, ndipo, mwinamwake, muwabwezeretsenso iwo mtsogolo. Kumbukirani kuti kutulutsa zonse "mu siliva" za iwe mwini ndi moyo wako kwa yemwe kale anali wokonda sizothandiza panthaŵi yomweyo. Adzakhala ndi chidwi chofuna kudziwa zonse zokhudza iwe. Chikhumbo choterocho sichidzalola kuti maganizo amathera kwathunthu.
Ndipo onetsetsani kuti muzisamalira nokha - iyi ndi njira yotsimikizika yobweretsera munthu wokondedwa wanu. Samalani maonekedwe anu - pitani mabwawa osambira, masewera olimbitsa thupi, ma salons okongola. Khalani okondweretsa kwambiri - phunzirani tango waku Argentina kapena kuphunzira kukwera, kuyamba kuphunzira zinenero kapena kufufuza mayiko ena - zosankha zambiri. Chinthu chachikulu ndichokuti palipitukuko.
Koma ngakhale pambuyo pa kusintha kotereku, zikhoza kuchitika kuti mwamunayo sadzabwerera. Ndiye, mwinamwake, ndibwino kwambiri? Yang'anani pozungulira - pali amuna ochuluka omwe akufuna kukumana nanu! Makamaka mutatha kukhala polyglot, munaphunzira kugwiritsa ntchito mapiri ndi kuphunzira zambiri za maiko ena, kubweretsa zina zatsopano pamoyo wanu. Izi zimatsegula zatsopano ndipo zimakopa anthu ambiri okhutira mu moyo wanu!