Anachotsa zolingalira zokhazokha. Masks ndi choonadi cha munthuyo zimachotsedwa siziwonekeranso kwa maso. Gawo lachitatu ndikumenyera mphamvu. Ngati simugwiritsa ntchito bwino gawo lanu, mukhoza kukhala m'dera lapafupi. Pankhaniyi, osati chikondi chimenecho, koma ngakhale mnzanu wa chibwenzi simupeza.
Mutapambana mwamuna, muyenera kukhala mofanana ndi inu, kuyesa kumugonjetsa, osati momwe mumakhalira. Kotero ndikulangiza alangizi a maganizo akamafikira kuti awathandize. Kugonana pakati pa mnyamata ndi mtsikana ndi chimodzi mwa nkhani zovuta kwambiri zodzidziwitsa nokha. Mulibe gawo lina la moyo waumunthu muli miyala yambiri yamadzi pansi pa madzi monga mwa kugonana. Ubwenzi wa anthu opanda kugonana siwogwirizana. Mawu akuti "osagonana", omwe amatanthauza "popanda kugonana" anabwera kwa ife kuchokera ku Chingerezi ndipo adagwiritsidwa ntchito mwakhama m'makambirano pa zamalonda, pa intaneti, kuphatikizapo madiresi okhumudwitsa.
Kudziletsa kapena kusagonana, m'miyoyo yathu, vesh sizodziwika, koma mofanana ndi zovulaza, kwa amuna ndi akazi. Kwa amayi, chifukwa cha kuchepa kwa magazi m'magazi, mavuto okhudzana ndi matenda a amayi komanso nthawi zonse amayamba ndi mavuto osagwirizana ndi maganizo. Amuna, kusintha kwa prostate gland, kuyendetsa m'mitsuko, zomwe zimapangitsa kuchepa kwa mphamvu, n'zotheka. Kudziletsa nthawi zambiri kumabweretsa mavuto, kukhumudwa komanso kusokonezeka maganizo. Monga Freud adanenera, "kuzunzika konse ndikumva zowawa zimakhala zochepa pazinthu zina za moyo."
Zifukwa za kudziletsa kugonana zimatha kukhazikika, kutopa, nkhawa, matenda, mtunda. Koma nthawi zina zonsezi zimawonongeka ndikufunanso chisangalalo cha pulayimale - kugonana. Amati akazi ndi ophweka pa nkhaniyi, chifukwa ntchito yogwira ntchito, makamaka ndi ya amuna. Ndipo mumadziwa bwanji kuti mnyamata sanakhale ndi chibwenzi kwa nthawi yaitali? Chabwino, poyamba, izi zikuwoneka mu khalidwe. Chachiwiri, anyamatawa atatha nthawi yaitali kusiya kugonana ndi maubwenzi ambiri, ngati pali chikhumbo chachikulu, koma sichigwira ntchito nthawi yomweyo.
Chifukwa chake ndi chophweka - monga othamanga omwe anasiya maphunziro kwa kanthaŵi, sangathe kuwapanga maina awo. Nthawi zoterezi, amuna ali pachiopsezo kwambiri ndipo amafunikira kuthandizira kubwezeretsa mphamvu zawo zakale. Iwo angathandizidwe kokha ndi mtsikana yemwe amamvetsa, amakonda, koma ayenera kukumbukira. Kuti muzochitika zotero n'zosatheka kufulumira. Mnyamatayo amafunikira chitonthozo cha thupi ndi maganizo. Kungakhale koyenera kukhala ndi chakudya chamakono ndi makandulo, ndi kukambirana kwambiri. Monga kale, mankhwala ophera tizilombo amafunika kwambiri, koposa nthawi zonse. Ngakhale ngati nthawi ino palibe chomwe chachitika kwa mwamuna, usakhumudwe. Dzidzimangirire nokha, konzani zizindikiro za misonzi ndi zonyansa, zonyansa ndi zopanga zonse zomwe zikuchitika vuto. Pakadali pano, palibe choopsa chochitika. Lero sanagwire ntchito, limatanthauza kuti lidzakhala mawa kapena mawa. Chinthu chachikulu sikuti tipewe vuto pa izi. Koma kodi mtendere ndi chimwemwe sizingakhale zopindulitsa?
Ngati psyche ili mu dongosolo, nthawi zambiri ndikofunika kuganizira za thanzi labwino. Kwa mawu akuti "ndipo mtsikanayo analibe mtsikana wautali nthawi yaitali bwanji" sanadziwe. Ndipotu, kudziletsa kapena kugonana, pambuyo pake, nthawi zambiri kumabweretsa kugonana kawirikawiri, ndipo nthawi zina ngakhale chikhalidwe chosokonezeka. Choncho sankhani nokha!