Zimene mungachite ngati wokondedwa wanu sakuitana

Kukonzekera kwakwati ndi maphunziro ovuta a chikhalidwe. Monga momwe akudziwira, banja ndi gawo la anthu. Komabe, choti muchite ngati zikuyamba kugwa. Ngati mwadzidzidzi ubale wanu umayamba kufooka, muyenera kuchitapo kanthu mwamsanga. Mayi atangoyamba kubereka mwamuna, amasiya kumuitana. Tiyeni tione chitsanzo choterocho kuchokera ku moyo. Panthawi imodzi mumakumana ndi munthu wokondweretsa, wochititsa chidwi. Madzulo onse amamanga maso anu. Patatha nthawi yaitali, inu munasankha kudziwana. Amakhala pansi patebulo lanu, amamuuza kuti asamangokhalira kudya mowa, ndipo amanyansidwa ndi nthabwala zokondweretsa. Mumayankhula naye za moyo. Poyamba, zikuwoneka kuti munthu uyu sali wosangalatsa kwa inu. Komabe, pang'onopang'ono mumayamba kuzindikira wina ndi mzake kuchokera kumbali zatsopano.

Mukumvetsa kuti zofuna za munthu uyu sizongonena za atsikana, kumwa, kugonana. Amakupsompsonani mwachidule, kenako mumadziwa kuti ndi iye yekha amene mwakhala mukuyembekezera moyo wanu wonse. Mukusiya nambala yanu ya foni mukuyembekeza kuti adzakutcha inu ndi kulankhulana kwanu kudzapitirizabe muyandikana kwambiri. Komabe, nthawi imapita, ndipo kuchokera kwa wokonda palibe yankho, palibe moni. Bwanji ngati wanga wokondedwa sakuitana? Ndi malingaliro ati omwe akukuvutitsani inu panthawiyi? Anapeza mkazi wina? Anataya chidwi ndi inu? Ndiyenera kuchita chiyani? Kumbukirani lamulo lofunika: musadumphire kugona kwa munthu woyamba amene mumamukonda.

Ambiri amalingalira chibwenzi mu disco, ngati kuti palibe choyenera, kugonana koyenera. Amuna ambiri mwa chikhalidwe chawo ndi mitala, i.e. Amakumana ndi amayi ambiri osati chifukwa cha kukambirana kokondweretsa, komanso kugonana. Amuna ambiri, pokomana ndi atsikana, ali ndi mabuku apadera, omwe amalemba, ndi amayi angati omwe atha kale kugonana. Komabe, ngati nonse muli okhwima, ndiye kuti kukana kukondana sikungatheke. Ngati wokondedwayo amaletsedwa kugonana, posachedwa adzasokoneza. Komabe, zifukwa zomwe wokondedwa wanu samazitcha sizingowonjezera chidwi chanu. Mwinamwake iye amangokhala wotanganidwa kuntchito. Kodi muyenera kuchita chiyani?

Musamuitane nthawi zonse kuti mum'konda. Amuna ambiri samakonda izo, pamene amayang'anitsitsa maola 24 pa tsiku. Wokondedwa sangaitane ngati mumamuvutitsa. Mukasankha ngati mungaitane kapena kuti musayitane, muyenera kukumbukira kuti mwamuna ayenera kukukondani, mwinamwake mungathe kupeza uthenga wosasangalatsa posachedwa kuti wakupezerani m'malo.

Amuna ambiri amakonda, pamene mkazi amadzimva kuti alibe chitetezo, zimadalira iye. Pewani izi. Mayi aliyense ndi munthu wokwanira. Muyenera kukhala ndi mtima wanu wamkati, kunyada. Ndili ndi inu muyenera kukhala osangalatsa osati pabedi, koma m'moyo. Mwamuna aliyense akufuna kuwona pafupi ndi iye wosankhidwayo, yemwe sangachite bwino ntchito zapakhomo zokha, kuphika chakudya chokoma ndi chokonzedwera, komanso amaphatikizapo kugona pabedi la mwamuna wake, kumusangalatsa. Sizobisika kuti anthu ambiri amavomereza kugonana ndipo amakwiya pamene sakuulandira mokwanira. Amuna ambiri amakonda kupanga ana, agwiritseni ntchito. Kondani mwamuna wanu, nthawi zonse muzigonana naye. Pano pali mwayi woti wokondedwa wanu adzakhala ndi inu nthawi zonse, sadzakusiyani nthawi imodzi. Dzikondeni nokha. Musalole wokondedwa wanu, monga akunena, "Pukuta miyendo yanu payekha."

Muyenera kudzikuza, kudzilemekeza. Kumbukirani kuti ndinu wokongola komanso wokongola kwambiri. Iye sakuitana? Musakhale katundu wanu wokondedwa. Ngati wokondedwa akuumirira kugawanitsa, ndipo mukumvetsa kuti ndichedwa kwambiri kuti musinthe chilichonse, ndiye kuti mukuyenera kupatukana. Kotero izo zidzakhala mwanzeru kwa inu nonse. Ngati mwamuna wanu ali wamanyazi ndi wachifundo ponena za inu, sangakusiye nokha. Chikondi chenicheni chimadziwika poyerekeza. Bwanji ngati wokondedwayo sakukuitanani nthawi zambiri monga momwe tikufunira? Musazengereze, dziyitane nokha. Mwinamwake iye alibe nthawi. Wokondedwa wanu, komanso inu, amafunikira mawu aulemu ndi okoma mtima. Musati muziyamikira pazovomerezeka. Kumbukirani kuti "mawu okoma ndi galu ndi abwino." Khalani wokondedwa wanu ndi bwenzi lanu, ndi mbuye wanu, musinthe mitundu yambiri yogonana. Vuto la mabanja ambiri omwe ali pabanja limakhala mwachindunji ponena kuti pakapita nthawi ubale wawo umayamba kufooka. Pofuna kuti izi zisadzachitike, perekani maganizo anu. Ndithudi, mu mtima mwanu mumalota zokhudzana ndi kugonana koteroko, komwe kwenikweni sikukanatha kusankha. Lembani wokondedwa wanu za izo. Ndikutsimikiza kuti sangakane kukuchitirani zabwino.

Amuna ambiri omwe samakonda kugonana, amagwiritsa ntchito izi, patsani munthu wanu. Dzikondeni nokha, thupi lanu, musakane wokondedwa wanu muchisokonezo. Ngati wokondedwa wanu sakukuitanani, muuzeni kuti mukusowa kulankhulana, chikondi, chikondi, chikondi. Khalani latsopano kwa mwamuna wanu, mutsegule mbali yatsopano. Amuna ambiri amalota kuti akabwera kwawo kuchokera kuntchito, amakumana ndi munthu wotsutsa (mlembi) mumsalu wovuta, wokongola. Chotsani wokondedwa wanu m'njira yatsopano. Yambani ndi zovala zatsopano, kudzipangira, ndipo mumvetsetsa momwe okondedwa anu amafunira chisangalalo. Kondwerani ndi wokondedwa wanu. Nthawi zonse yonjezerani msinkhu wanu wophunzitsa. Musawope kukhala wochenjera kuposa mwamuna wanu. Munthu wanzeru sadzanyalanyaza luso la wokondedwa wake, koma, mosiyana ndi zimenezo, amuthandizira m'njira iliyonse iyeyo. Muyenera kukhala wokondedwa wanu, chithandizo. Ngati wokondedwa sakuitana, mwina pali chifukwa chake.

Kubwera kunyumba mutatha ntchito yovuta, mwamuna wanu ayenera kudziwa kuti apa akuyembekezeredwa, nthawi zonse amalandiridwa. Ndichikondi, chikondi, kuphatikizapo zokondweretsa zosiyana zokhudzana ndi kugonana - chitsimikiziro cha kusungidwa kwa chilakolako cha chikondi ndi chikondi. Khalani chinsinsi kwa wokondedwa wanu. Khalani wokondweretsa nthawi zonse kwa iye. Zosangalatsa zanu zisamangokhala zokha, kuphika, kukambirana za zinthu zapamwamba. Muyenera kugawana zofuna ndi zokonda za wokondedwa wanu, ngakhale simukudziwa kanthu kalikonse.