Kodi mumandikonda?
Ngati chibwenzi chanu chimakukondani, ndiye kuti iyeyo adzakondwera kukuuzani izi. Ndipo khulupirirani ine, izo ziwoneka zomveka kwambiri kusiyana ndi kudzipweteka pansi pa mphuno "inde", zomwe amuna omwe ali muzochitika zoterozo sizikhala zosiyana ndi "ayi". Chabwino, ngati mutayamba kutsanulira pa iye ndi mafunso monga "Koma munayamba kundikonda liti?", "Kodi mumandikonda kangati?", "Kodi mudzandikonda mpaka liti?" Ndipo kotero, ndiye maubwenzi angamasulidwe mu gulu la "melodrama". Mafunso amenewa ndi zovuta kwambiri kwa psyche yamwamuna, yomwe tsiku lina silingathe kupirira, ndipo idzakhala ndi malingaliro okuchotsani inu, kapena kuchokera ku mafunso anu. Inde, mkazi aliyense amasangalala kumva chidziwitso cha chikondi, koma simuyenera kuyika munthu. Izi zikhoza kumuvutitsa mwamsanga. Ndi bwino kukhala woleza mtima ndi kuvomereza kwa iye mwachikondi nthawi zonse, ndipo yankho lidzawatsatira!
Mukuganiza chiyani?
Funsoli liribe tanthawuzo lililonse, kotero limakwiyitsa munthu aliyense, mosasamala kanthu za chikhalidwe chake. Mnyamata akamagona ndi wokondedwa wake, saganizirapo kanthu, izi ndizoyamba. Chachiwiri, akhoza kukhala ndi mavuto ambiri, mwachitsanzo, mu ntchito yake, ndipo tsopano akhoza kuganizira za iwo osati za inu. Ndipo ngati mukukakamizidwa kuti muyankhe funsoli kangapo, mungakakamize mnyamatayo kuganiza kuti ndinu wopusa pang'ono.
Ndipo iwe sungakonde ambiri, ana ambiri, okondedwa?
Tsopano ngati mukufunadi kumuchotsa ndi kumupha chikondi chonsecho - ndiye funsani ana angati omwe angafune posachedwa. Ndipo ndi bwino kuti iye amatha kuseketsa, mwinamwake kusokonezeka kwa mtima kungakhalepo kapena chikondi chonse mu ubale wanu chidzatha. Ngati mwamunayu sanayambe kukutsogolerani ku korona - muiwale nkhaniyi.
Uchi, kodi umakonda mafuta onunkhira amene ndagula?
Nthawi zina, mwinamwake ndibwino kutsegula ng'ombe ndi chifuwa chofiira kuposa kumuuza mnyamata za zinthu zatsopano zonunkhira kapena zodzoladzola. Mayesowa si a psyche wamwamuna. Ngati mwaganiza mozama kuchotsa munthu wovuta, lankhulani tsiku lililonse za khungu, momwe mungagwirire ndi makwinya kapena chinachake chonga icho. Ngati mutachita izi nthawi zonse, nkokayikitsa kuti chifuwa cha mtima chimenechi chidzakhala ngati masewera achikondi.
Ndine woipa kwambiri, wonenepa, wonyansa ?!
Chisakanizo cha funso ndi kuvomereza.
Ngati mnyamata wanu akumva mawu amenewa, amadziwa kuti pali chinachake cholakwika ndi kudzidalira kwanu. Kumbukirani: mkazi yemwe sadzikonda yekha ndipo sadziyamikira yekha, amadzilemekeza yekha, amayamba kuchita popanda mwambo uliwonse. Amuna samazoloŵera kufotokozera kuti ndizofunika kwambiri, choncho akauzidwa kuti ali achigololo, aluso, ndi zina zotero, amakhulupirira nthawi yomweyo. Kotero amakhulupirira zomwe mumanena: "Ndine woipa kwambiri (wosasamala, mafuta)." Kotero ngati simukufuna kumudziwa zolakwa zanu zonse - khalani chete. Komanso, oposa theka lao chibwenzi chanu sichizindikira, mungakhale otsimikiza. Kumbukirani kuti mafunso ngati amenewa amamuchititsa kukhala abodza. Iwo amayamba kutsutsa zonsezi ndi kunena zambiri zoyamikira. Mukuzikonda, ndipo mumayamba kugwiritsira ntchito tsiku lililonse mpaka mnyamata atatopa ndikumaliza kunena kuti, "Inde, ndinu olemera komanso oopsa!" Pambuyo pake, ndikukayikira kuti ubalewu udzakhalabe wofanana ndi umene unaliri .
Ndiye kodi mungapemphe chiyani? Funsani pamene muli kumapeto kwa chinachake choti mupite pa bwato pa nyanja. Kapena ndi mtundu wanji umene udzasungidweko, womwe udzawawonetsere tsiku lotsatira, kapena ma carat angati omwe adzakupatsani. Inde, pambuyo pa mafunso otero mungathe kumuchotsa. Koma ndiye sali wolimba mtima ngati apulumuka mafunso oterowo.