Nchifukwa chiyani anyamata samakonda kuti amvetse chisoni? Choyamba, tiyeni tiyambe ndi mfundo yakuti chisoni ndi chosiyana. Sindingaganize kuti mnyamatayo angamve chisoni ndi chibwenzi chake atagona pabedi ndi kutentha kwa zaka makumi anayi. Ndikumvera chisoni mtsikanayo amasonyeza chikondi ndi kusamalira mnyamata wake. Koma, ngati mnyamatayo akuganiza kuti khalidwe lake limamukhumudwitsa ndikumukhumudwitsa, ndikuganiza kuti mtsikanayo adasankha cholakwika payekha.
Ngati, mwamunayu nthawi zambiri amalephera kumoyo wake kapena pulojekiti yake, ndipo ena sangathe kumuyang'ana popanda chifundo. Ndiye, ndiye ukhoza kufotokoza chifukwa chake mzimayi sakufuna kuwamvera chisoni. Pachifukwa ichi, chisoni ndi ena, chimachepetsa kudzidalira kwake. Mnyamata angayambe kumverera kuti ndi cholengedwa chopanda mphamvu, chomwe chiri ndi lingaliro limodzi - ichi ndichisoni. Ndipo kukhala woona mtima mpaka mapeto, sizikuwoneka ngati ayi, anthu amakhulupirira kuti alibe mphamvu iliyonse.
Chisoni chotero, makamaka kwa mwamuna, chimakhumudwitsa kwambiri kudzidzimvera ndi kudzichepetsa. Mwachidziwikire, pamene zikuwoneka kuti iwe umadziwika ngati chinthu chowamvera chisoni, maganizo a izi sakusintha.
Choncho, ngati muwayankha funsoli: "Bwanji anyamata sakumvera chisoni"? Tiyenera kukumbukira kuti chisoni chimatha kusonyeza chisamaliro ndi nkhawa za munthu kapena kufotokozera, mmalo mwake, malingaliro otsika kwambiri kwa munthu yemwe akumvera chifundo. Mu mawonetseredwe oyambirira, chifundo chimangobweretsa zokhazokha zabwino. Yachiwiri ikhoza kukhumudwitsa komanso kukhumudwitsa.
Ndani amene amachitira chifundo . Monga momwe mungaganizire, nthawi zambiri kumverera kwachisoni kumachitika ndi akazi. Azimayi nthawi zambiri amapanga ubale wachisoni. Ndinakumana ndi mnyamata wina ndipo mwadzidzidzi anam'chitira chifundo. Mutu wa mtsikanayo nthawi yomweyo amawoneka kuti ndi chikondi, ndipo amatha kupulumutsa wokondedwa wake ku mavuto onse omwe agwera pa iye.
Koma, chisoni chimene amayi amasonyeza pochiyanjanitsa ndi mnyamata chimadziwika ndi kugonana kolimba m'njira zosiyanasiyana. Mwinamwake izi: Mnyamata wanu amakana chifundo chanu ndi maselo onse a thupi lake. Amakhulupirira kuti chisoni chimanyozetsa kudzidalira, kumachepetsa kudzidalira kwake. Chisoni chiri chokha kwa osowa, nyama ndi ana. Ndipo, payekha, sakuganiza kuti izi zikugwirizana ndi gawo limodzi.
Njira yachiwiri ndi yakuti sakutsutsa chisoni chanu, mwinamwake izo zikuwoneka ngati inu, ndipo mwakhala mukudzipangira zonse. Zowonjezera, munadandaula kamodzi, kachiwiri, lachitatu. Ndipo, nthawi iliyonse mumapeza mawu ambiri omwe amatsutsana ndi vuto linalake. Pamapeto pake, mnyamata wanu amadziwika kuti ngati muli ndi vuto kachiwiri, mukhoza kumumvera chisoni komanso kumulingalira. Mumachotsa udindo wanu pazochita ndi manja anu.
Amuna enieni samakonda kukhala achifundo, ndipo ndiko kulondola. Zidzakhala zosangalatsa kwambiri kwa achinyamata kuti asamvere chifundo, koma thandizo kuchokera kumbali yanu. Thandizo ndi losiyana ndi chifundo chimene simukutsindika kuti mnyamata wanu si munthu wokwanira. M'malo mwake, pogwiritsa ntchito kutsutsa kokondweretsa ndi mau ochepa othandizira, mudzadzutsa mnyamata wanu chilakolako chochita ndi kugonjetsa mapiri atsopano. Iye sangalekerere mlandu pazomwe akuzungulira, adzazindikira zolakwitsa zake, azigwira ntchito zolakwitsa ndikuyesera kudzikweza yekha.