Koma palinso mbali ina. Ubale wabwino ndi munthu - izi ndizo zomwe zidzawatsogolera moyo wachimwemwe m'chikondi ndi mgwirizano. Pano pali mkazi ndipo akuyembekezera mavuto ena, chifukwa momwe angakhalire molondola? Bwanji kuti musamaganize, kusankha wokondedwa mu moyo?
Ngati mkazi adzifunsa yekha mafunso amenewa, ndiye kuti mwinamwake amamupangitsa kuti asakhale ndi ubale weniweni. Ndipo tsopano akuyesera kuganizira zolakwa zonse zakale ndikupanga ubale watsopano.
Kodi chiyanjano ndi mwamuna sichinabweretse chokhumudwitsa, mkazi ayenera kumvetsetsa zomwe akufuna kuchokera kwa iye. Mwinamwake wokwatiwa, kapena mwinamwake kukonzekera udindo wa mbuye ... Mu nkhaniyi tidzakambiranabe za chiyanjano ndi mwamuna yemwe ali pa malo owonetsera, ndiko kuti, kutsata banja lalitali ndi losangalala. Inde, mkazi wanzeru ndi wokonzeka kulenga banja, sangakonze ubwenzi wapamtima, momwe iye adzangokhala mbuye wa kanthaĊµi kochepa pamene palibe mkazi wovomerezeka. Azimayi ambiri amakhulupirira kuti kwa iwo mwamuna amachoka pabanja ndikupanga yatsopano - nayo. Monga lamulo, maganizo awa ndi olakwika. Amuna sakufulumira kuthetsa banja ndipo amathamangira kumanga banja latsopano. Pankhaniyi, nthawi zambiri amapeza mndandanda wa zifukwa, kuchokera ku zowawa za mkazi zomwe zimakhala zovuta kwa ana omwe sangathe kusiya. Izi sizikugwirizana ndi ubale wabwino ndi mwamuna womwe ungatsogolere mkazi ku zolinga zake komanso banja lolimba. Zingakhale bwino kuthetsa nokha ndikuletsa maubwenzi amenewa, omwe amabweretsa mavuto, ndipo pamapeto pake, chisokonezo chosapeĊµeka.
Monga nkofunikira kunena za mtundu wina wa chiyanjano, chomwe chimatchedwa ukwati wachibadwidwe. Apa mosiyana pang'ono. Zifukwa zomwe anthu amachitira zimenezi ndi zosiyana. Nthawi zambiri zimakhala zochitika ngati izi zikugwirizana ndi onse awiri. Ndipo kwa iwo, uwu ndi ubale wabwino. Ndiponsotu, zimakhala kuti mmodzi mwa zibwenzi amathetsa banja, kapena mwinamwake achichepere akungosungira ukwati kapena akufuna "kutulutsa" wina ndi mnzake. Koma, zikhoza kuchitika kuti mkazi samangodzipatulira, koma kwa mwamuna zonse zili bwino. Ndiye ife sitingakhoze kuitcha khalidwe ili molondola.
Ndipotu, ngati mkazi akuvutika nthawi zonse akakhala pabanja, ndiye kuti maubwenzi amenewa sangakhale osangalala.
Chinthu chofunikira kwambiri pa chiyambi cha ubale wanu ndi mwamuna, muyenera kuyika zomveka bwino. Kodi muli ndi zolinga zabwino? Kodi mukufuna banja ndi ana? Choncho sankhani mwamuna wosakwatira komanso wokonzekera banja. Inde, simungathe kulamulira mtima wanu, koma ngati mkazi akufuna kuti apeze banja lake losangalala - ayenera kuganizira izi pachiyambi cha ubale wake ndi mwamuna. Tiyenera kumanga mzere wa makhalidwe, kumvetsetsa kuti munthu amafunika moyo. Kenako tiyenera kulingalira ndikuganiza ngati izi ndi zofunika. Mayi aliyense payekha amazindikira "kulondola" kwa ubale. Chimene kwa ena ndi choipa komanso chosamveka, chingakhale chabwino kwa iye.
Ndibwino kumupatsa munthuyo nthawi yomweyo zomwe mukufuna kuchokera kwa iye, kuti asapange zolinga zazikulu komanso osakhumudwa, chifukwa chake. Ngati muwona kuti munthu samangothamanga mu ofesi yolembera ndipo nthawi zambiri amachitirapo izi sikunyoza, ndipo mumalota chovala choyera - ndi bwino kuchoka nthawi yomweyo, chifukwa izi sizomwe mungasankhe. Mukudziwa, pali anthu ambiri padziko lapansi amene akufuna kukwatira ndi kukhala ndi ana kuti akhale osangalala. Musangodzipweteka pazinthu zosautsa ndi zokhumudwitsa.