Momwe mungapangire kuti mnyamata aperekedwe kukumana

Nthawi zina ndimafuna kuti maloto akwaniritsidwe kotero kuti omwe ali okondedwa kwa ife nthawi zonse amakhala pafupi, okondedwa komanso kutiyamikira. Mwamuna mu moyo wa mkazi ndi gawo lofunikira, chidutswa cha puzzles, popanda chomwe chithunzi chowala kwambiri sichidzatha ndipo chimwemwe sichingakhale chenicheni. Ngakhale atapambana bwino mu ntchito ndi kukhala ndi anzanu enieni, popanda wokondedwa, moyo umakhala wochepa, osati weniweni. Lucky kwa iwo omwe amalandira chikondi chawo chamodzi ndi chamuyaya popanda khama. Koma pali ochepa mwa iwo. Anthu ambiri amafunika kuyesa, kuyang'ana, nthawi zonse kupanga chinachake kukwaniritsa cholinga chawo. Koma chikondi cha sayansi ndi bizinesi yowopsya, muyenera kudziwa kuti zingwe zingakoke kuti mnyamata akuchezereni ndikusankha iwe kuchokera kwa onse otsutsana ndi mtima wanu. Nkhani yakuti "Mmene mungapangire mnyamata kuti azikumana" imakuuzani za zizoloŵezi zina, zomwe mungakope chidwi cha mnyamata amene mumamukonda.

Chikondi chenicheni sichiri kawirikawiri. Koma, mobwerezabwereza, imodzi mwa magawo asanu a chikondi ichi sungavomereze kumverera, osati kwa iwowo, kapena kwa wokondedwa.

Kodi mungapange bwanji kuti mwanayo aperekedwe? Inde, nthawi zambiri zimachitika kuti timamuwona munthu akulakalaka ife, koma samayesetsa kuti azigonana. Kodi mungatani kuti muthane ndi vutoli? Momwe mungalimbikitsire ndi kupanga, potsiriza, kupanga chisankho? Vomerezani, ndizovuta kuti muyanjane ndi munthu amene mumamukonda, podziwa kuti mutaya nthawi yamtengo wapatali, yomwe ingagwiritsidwe ntchito palimodzi, pa nthawi yopanda pake yopanda pake.

Nchifukwa chiyani munthu sangathe kupereka msungwana kuti akakomane naye? Imodzi mwa mayankho osamveka ndi opanda pake: zikuwoneka kuti iye mumamuwona iye yekha bwenzi. Inde, mwatsoka, anyamata ndi akhungu kwenikweni, ndipo ngati simukumangirira khosi nthawi khumi ndi zisanu pa ora ndipo nthawi zonse samanena kuti mumakonda, iwo sangathe kuzindikira momwe mumamvera.

Mukudziwa, pali fanizo lamakono, kuti mnyamata ndi mtsikanayo anali abwenzi ochokera kusukulu. Nthawi zonse ankamuthandiza, ankamukonda ndipo nthawi zonse ankafuna kunena izi, koma anati: Ndiwe bwenzi langa lapamtima ndikukuthokozani chifukwa cha chirichonse. Ndipo adakhala chete mu moyo wake wonse, ndipo atangomwalira adawerenga kalatayi yomwe analemba kuti amamukonda ndikuyembekezera kulandira kwake, koma sanamvetse nthawi yake.

Milandu yotereyi ndi yowopsya komanso zofanana ndizo zimakhala zambiri kuposa momwe tingaganizire.

Choncho, musatchule mnzanu wapamtima wokondedwa. Tiyenera kumukankhira ku chisankho cholondola. Inde, mukhoza kutenga "ng'ombe ndi nyanga" ndipo ambiri amamuitanira kukakumana naye. Koma, choyamba, zidzasokoneza ulemu wa mbuye wanu, ndipo chachiwiri, abambo samakonda pamene mkazi ayamba kuwayang'anira. Ngakhale malingaliro ake ndi malingaliro ake ali ovomerezeka ndi 100 peresenti, mnyamatayo amayamba kuwakana, chifukwa mozindikira komanso mosadziŵa, kuvomereza mfundo zake zikuwoneka ngati wofooka.

Kuchokera apa tikumaliza kuti mwamunayo ayenera kupanga chisankho. Kapena, mwina, ganizirani ndi zomwe anachita.

Mkazi aliyense ali ndi chidziwitso ndipo amamva momwe amamukondera. Choncho, ngati mukumva kuti mukuyang'ana bwino, muyambe kuchita. Muyenera kumuwonetsa kuti ndiwe amene simukukhala naye. Nthawizonse kumbukirani kutanthauza golide. Musati mulowe mwa mwamuna aliyense, kwanilani zonse zomwe mumayang'ana ndikuyang'ana maso ake.

Zoonadi, mumadziwa zomwe mwamuna wanu amakonda komanso sakonda, zomwe akusowa, ndipo amakwiya nazo. Choncho gwiritsani ntchito izi, molimbika komanso mwaluso, ngati mtsikana aliyense wodzilemekeza. Ndikofunika kukanikiza pa levers zonsezi, koma osati mwakhama komanso mosalekeza, koma osadziwika, ngati mwangozi. Mukudziwa kuti amadana ndi zipolowe, amamuuza kuti nthawi zonse amalemekeza amuna omwe amadziwa kuthetsa chirichonse osati ndi zida zawo, koma ndi mawu. Ngati amakonda sayansi komanso alibe masewera olimbitsa thupi, kumbukirani kuti iwowo sadziwa bwino njinga, osatchula olemba, koma nthawi zonse amakondwera kulankhula za nsapato zapusoria komanso zachikale.

Awalandire iwo, koma popanda kutengeka ndi malingaliro a anthu a fukolo thumb-yumba kwa mulungu wamkulu. Anyamata amadana ndi zowona, chifukwa amadziwa kuti sangathe kufanana ndi chithunzi chimene mwasankha ndipo potero, muthamanga. Ndipo simukufuna zotsatira zoterezo.

Kuonjezerapo, wokondedwa ayenera kuthandizidwa nthawi zonse, ndipo ndiwowona mtima. Anthu amadzimva kuti akutsutsana komanso amanama, kotero ngati simungathe kumvetsa komanso kugawana nawo mavuto ake, bwino ndipo musayese. (Mwa njira, ngati simungathe kuchita izi, muyenera kulingalira ngati mukufunikira izo, komanso ngati maganizo anu ayenera kutchedwa chikondi).

Amuna nthawi zambiri amakhala pafupi ndi ena ndikudziyesa kuti akuchita bwino, sasamala kanthu kali konse ndipo mavuto alibe. Zoonadi, izi ndizolakwika. Ndipo ngati mukudziwa za mavuto a wokondedwa wanu, ndiye kuti ali ndi malingaliro anu. Chifukwa choti mutsegule - ntchitoyi si yovuta kwa amuna.

Koma ngati zichitika, muyenera kuchitapo kanthu molondola. Ngakhale ngati ali wolakwika kwambiri ndipo simukukayikira, simukuyenera kumenyana ndi zifukwa zake ndikuumirira kuti mukuyenera. Chitani kamodzi kapena kawiri, ndipo ndicho, sichidzatsegulanso kwa inu. Choncho, choyamba muyenera kumvetsera mnyamatayo, alankhulane, afotokoze madandaulo onse ndi zodandaula, mwina ngakhale kulira (inde, abambo akulira, osati ayi). Atapsa mtima, yesetsani kumufunsa zomwe adzachite kenako, momwe angachitire, momwe angathetsere mavuto ake. Ndipo pambuyo pokhapokha, yambani kulankhula maganizo anu. Ndipo izi ziyenera kumveka ngati izi: "Sindikufuna kuti musasinthe kanthu, komabe ngati ... monga momwe mukuganizira, sizingasinthe ... ine, ndithudi, ndikhoza kulakwitsa izi ndi banja lanu (abwenzi, ntchito) ndipo mumadziwa zambiri, koma ndikufuna kuthandiza, kuchokera pazochitika zanga ndikulangiza ... koma ichi ndi lingaliro langa lovomerezeka, ndipo ndinu omasuka kuchita monga momwe mukuonera, chifukwa ndi moyo wanu. "

Muyenera nthawi zonse kusonyeza wokondedwa wanu kuti simukufuna kutenga malo ake, kumugonjetsa nokha ndi kulamulira zochita zake ndi zochita zake. Mwamuna akufuna kukhala ndi mkazi amene angathandize ndi kumvetsetsa, kugawanitsa, koma samalamulira ndipo nthawi iliyonse amakhalabe wanzeru - koma mkazi yemweyu angamuuze kuti akwaniritse.

Khalani bwenzi kwa iye. Mnzanga weniweni. Mzanga wachikazi, wokongola ndi wokongola. Ndiyeno mwamunayo adzakuitanani kuti mukakumane naye.