Ngati simukudziwa kuti kukopa ndikutanthauza chiyani, mungathe kuzindikira khalidwe la anthu awiri omwe amakuonetserani chikondi ngati sakukwanira. Ndipotu, kuchokera kumbaliyi zimawoneka kuti amasonyeza chidwi, koma nthawi yomweyo sanena kanthu za maganizo awo. Ndipo zikuwoneka kuti ife ndife anthu awiri osalongosoka, omwe akuponda pamalo amodzi - kenako iwo amaseka kwambiri, kenako amatsanulira pothandizana. Ndi anthu angati, ndi malingaliro angati okhudzana ndi kukondana, koma kawirikawiri, kukondana ndikulankhulana pakati pa anthu awiri. Kulankhulana kotereku sikukutanthauza mtundu wina wa kupitiriza ndipo kumapangitsa kusintha kusanthana, nthawi zambiri ndi bwenzi lochezeka.
Munthu aliyense amene akugonana amatanthauza chinthu china chosiyana. Aliyense ali ndi lingaliro lake pa nkhaniyi. Pano, mwachitsanzo, chibwenzi chanu chimaphatikiza ndi anyamata ena. Mwa ichi palibe choopsa, ndithudi, ngati sichidutsa malire a khalidwe. Pambuyo pake, dona wamng'ono, kutengeka, amatha kungomanga maso ndi kumwetulira, ndipo wina - mochulukirapo, azichita zinthu mwachikondi komanso amamukonda kwambiri.
Kodi n'chiyani chimalimbikitsa mtsikanayo kuti azichita masewera olimbitsa thupi? Kodi akuyesera kukwaniritsa chiyani?
Taganizirani izi. Wakhala mukuwona chibwenzi chako kwa nthawi yaitali. Mwapita ku mafilimu, mahoitchini, maphwando kwa anzanu komanso kuti mumuchezere. Msungwana wanu amayesa kuyang'ana 100%. Pochita izi, amapanga makongoletsedwe okongola, zodzoladzola, amavala zovala zabwino, amamuyang'ana, amapita ku masewera olimbitsa thupi, amayendera ma saloni okongola. Kawirikawiri, iye akufuna kukuyang'ana bwino. Ndipo zonse zomwe amva kuchokera kwa inu, zochepa "zikuwoneka zabwino"! Apa akuyang'ana mawu okongola ndi okondweretsa poyesezana ndi anyamata ena. Akawamva, adzakwaniritsa kudzidalira kwake, amvetse kuti adakali wokongola ndipo ali ndi "ufa m'matumba". Kenako adzapitiriza kukukondani, chifukwa amakukondani kwambiri, amangoziphonya, amamvetsera mwachikondi, amamuyamikira. Amuna okondeka, mwaiwala momwe mungalankhulire atsikana kuyamikiridwa omwe ali ofunika kwambiri kwa ife, akazi. Okondedwa anu amayeserani nokha. Apatseni mawu okoma, asonyeze zizindikiro za chidwi, adzakuchitirani zonse, ndipo sadzachita nawo zokondana ndi ena.
Kawirikawiri, atsikana ndi osiyana, ndi quirks awo ndi "maphwando mutu wanga." Mwachitsanzo, mtsikana wanu akunena kuti amakonda, ndipo amacheza ndi anyamata nthawi yomweyo. Ndipo amachita ngakhale pamaso panu. Zikuwoneka, chifukwa chiyani iye akufuna izi? Pambuyo pake, mumamuuza zoyamikira zake, mumapatsa nthawi, mumamupatsa mphatso, makamaka, mumakwaniritsa zonse zomwe akufuna. Ndi chiyaninso chomwe akusowa? Kodi iye akusowa chiyani? Komanso, chifukwa cha izi simukukondwera ndi zochitika za nsanje, simukuphwanya mutu wanu kapena nkhope yanu kwa wina, koma mumangodabwa. Kotero ndicho chofunikira cha vuto! Zikuoneka kuti iye alibe nsanje yochuluka. Ndipo akufuna kumumutsa, ndiko kukwatira ndi anyamata ena. Ndipo alibe kanthu koti ndiwe wamba, wokwanira, wodalirika ndi wodalira mnyamata. Iye akufuna mkuntho wa malingaliro ndi zikhumbo. Chabwino, amazikonda. Mwinamwake, iye ndi mmodzi mwa atsikana omwe samakonda zachiwerewere, zachikondi, zakugonana. Ayenera kupanga ziwiya mu ziphuphu, nkhonya pamaso, kulira ndi kulira, ndiye adzasangalala. Koma kodi mumatani ndi izi? Ndikofunika kusankha, kapena psyche wathanzi, kapena msungwana wokondwa. Kapena mwinamwake zofanana, msungwana yekhayo amasonyeza nsanje, kuti mumalola kuti muzichita masewera ndi atsikana ena. Kotero iye akuyesera kukusonyezani momwe mungakonde izo pamene wokondedwa wanu, yemwe mumamukonda mpaka kumupusitsa, amawombera ndi ena, ngakhale iye akunena kuti amamukonda. Izi sizonyansa chabe, koma zingakhale zochititsa manyazi, chifukwa nthawi zambiri amuna samawona mtundu wa nkhope yomwe simukuyenera kuyendamo, ndiyeno mumapeza mkhalidwe umene uli ndi chifukwa "Ndinamwa zambiri, ndikupepesa".
Inde, palinso atsikana oterewa omwe sangathe kukhala opanda chikondi. Izi ndizo kwa iwo ngati mafuta a moyo. Iwo samangokonda kugonana kukhala chinthu chosayenera kapena cholakwika. Zili choncho. Amakonda kusewera ndi anyamata pamasewerawa, ndipo iwo amawoneka ngati masewera. Ngati akukangana, izi sizikutanthauza kuti ali okonzeka kuchita chiwembu kapena akufunitsitsa kuchita zimenezi. Atsikana awa ndi pambuyo paukwati amalola kuti azichita zachiwerewere ndi amuna ena. Inde, amachitanso izi, monga mtsikana wina aliyense, kuti athetseke amuna, kuti akadakali achinyamata komanso okongola. Osadalira kuti ndiwapanga iwo kuyamikira kapena ayi, ngakhale kuti mwachibadwa amafunikira ndi kuwakonda. Iwo amasangalala kwambiri ndi kukondana, osati ndi munthu amene amamukonda. Atalandira mlingo wa chidwi ndikuwathandiza, amaiwala kuti izi ndizo malo oyenera kukhala.
Tiyenera kukumbukira kuti palibe cholakwika ndi kukopana. Chirichonse chimadalira cholinga chomwe chimagwiritsidwa ntchito. Mwanjira iyi, bwenzi lanu lingasankhe munthu watsopano, chabwino, ngati chibwenzi chanu chiri ndi mercantile kapena atayika kale chidwi chanu. Mu moyo, zonse zimachitika, musatuluke, koma musayese kwambiri. Choyamba, kambiranani naye momasuka ndikupeza chifukwa chake cha khalidwe lake. Kawirikawiri izi chifukwa chake ndi zophweka kuti sipadzakhala kukopa ndi zochitika.