Palibe ungwiro padziko lapansi. Makamaka m'dziko la anthu. Aliyense amalakwitsa, makamaka amuna - izi ziyenera kumvedwa. Kodi mungamvetse bwanji ngati mwamuna atagonana samapereka tsiku lachiwiri? Mwina munaganizira za njirayi. Ndiponsotu, zingakhale zotani ngati mutakumana usiku, mumagulu, malesitilanti, paphwando ndi anzanu. Inu mumatsatira chiphunzitso - ndi bwino kusokonezeka kwa sutra kuposa usiku wokha. Nthawi yabwino, kapena usiku. Wakhala wokhudzidwa mtima pambuyo pa ntchito tsiku ndi tsiku, wakhala akudandaula ndi kuti iwe ukhoza kumuthyola munthuyo poyamba. Mukudziwa kuti izi sizingayambitse kanthu kalikonse koopsa, koma monga momwemo, simungathe kuthawa zilakolako zosadziwika. Mtsikana aliyense amafuna kumverera wotetezedwa, kofunikira. Chikhumbo chakuti iye mwadzidzidzi amakhalabe kwa tsiku lina, kapena kuyitana, samakusiyani inu usiku wonse. Ndipo pamapeto pake - amasonkhanitsa zinthu, masamba ndipo samanena ngakhale "Ndikuwonanso!". Bwanji ngati mwamunayo sakupereka tsiku lachiwiri pambuyo pa kugonana? Kusiya malingaliro awa aubwana ndi kumvetsetsa, kugonana kosayenera sikuwatsogolera ku chirichonse chovuta.
Koma komabe, ngati mukuganiza kuti sizinali zosangalatsa usiku wina, kenaka khalani pamodzi! Khalani omasuka! Ngati mnyamatayo sanadziwe zambiri zokhudza iyeyekha, yesetsani kumupeza, funsani anzanu, omwe angadziwe kuti alipo ndi ndani. Pemphani kachiwiri, malo omwe mwakumana nawo, mwinamwake iye amakhala wokhazikika pamenepo. Ndipo mukamuonanso, musasokonezeke, mubwere ndi kumwetulira, munene hello, mwinamwake kukambirana kumayamba, amakumbukirani ndipo adzakondwera tsiku lachiwiri. Ngati simukuwona ntchito zogwira ntchito kuchokera kwa iye, yang'anani pa kunyada kwanu ndipo yesetsani kumuitanira kuti akuwoneni. Modzidzimutsa chiyanjano chidzakhalapo, kapena, padzakhala, wovomerezeka wotsimikizira kuti adzakonza misonkhano kumalo osalowerera ndale. Mulimonsemo, pangani izi kukhala zopindulitsa kwa inu nokha.
Ndi nkhani ina pamene muli ndi chibwenzi. Ndipo monga izo zikanakhalira chikondi, ndi nthawi zonse za maswiti. Simukufuna kufulumizitsa, kotero mutayimitsa nthawi ya ubwenzi wanu, mukufuna kuti izi zichitike mwanjira yapadera. Mwinamwake, nthawi idzafika pa mwezi wa ubale wanu, ku holide, kapena mwinamwake kudzakhala bwino kuwonjezera madzulo abwino. Mulimonsemo, ziribe kanthu momwe mukuyembekezera kuti zonse zidzakhala chic ndipo zidzangowonjezera ubale wanu. Ndipo chifukwa chake, mwamuna wanu atagonana samapereka ngakhale tsiku lachiwiri. Kodi izi ziyenera kumveka bwanji? Chabwino, ndi chiyani choti uchite. Amuna onse amafuna kuchokera kwa atsikana okongola okha, ndipo ngati mukufuna choonadi kapena ayi, ndi bizinesi yanu. Mwinamwake iye anali ndi inu, chifukwa munamukopa ndipo amafuna, komabe, kunyoza ndi kugonana. Palibe kanthu koyenera kuchitidwa, ine ndiyenera kuvomereza izo.
Nanga bwanji ngati sanapereke tsiku lachiwiri pambuyo pa kugonana, chifukwa simunali pabedi? Ndipo momwe mungapezere? Yesetsani kuonana ndi mnyamatayo pa foni, mukakumane ndi kukambirana. Kambiranani naye ntchito yake. Ngati mumamvetsetsa chifukwa chake, yesetsani kumuyamikira kuti mudakali chinthu chomwecho ndipo mungathe kuchita zambiri, chifukwa simudziwa yemwe muli naye pabedi, simunadziwe momwe mungachitire naye bwino. Yesetsani kukonzekera msonkhano wina ndikuwonetsa mwamuna yemwe ali pabedi ndiwe mmisiri ndipo mukhoza kumudabwa, ndiye simudzazindikira momwe angakonde misonkhano. Koma musaiwale kukonzekera pasadakhale. Pambuyo pa zonse, zikuwoneka ngati palibe yemwe akufuna kuoneka wosakondwera kachiwiri. Kumbukirani kuti nthawi zonse mudzalandira thandizo kuchokera m'magazini a amayi ndi ma webusaiti omwe mungathe kuwerenga, ndipo nthawi zina ngakhale m'mithunzi kuti muwone momwe mungakhalire bwino. Ndipo musaiwale kuti thupi lanu likhale labwino kwambiri, ndi kuphunzitsidwa bwino kwa minofu ya m'mimba, kutengeka bwino pakati pa kugonana, kwa inu ndi kwa mnzanuyo, onetsetsani - adzayamikira.
Nanga bwanji ngati mwamuna atagonana samapereka tsiku lachiwiri, ndipo mwamuna uyu ndi bwenzi lanu? Ngati zinawoneka kuti mukukhala ndi chisangalalo chambiri, panthawi yonseyi mu phwando lapamtima ndi anzanu omwe mosamveka samapanda mowa, zinachitika kuti inu ndi mnzanu mugone. Chinthu chosautsa pang'ono chinatuluka. Ndipo iwe, monga nthawizonse mu chikhalidwe chako chachikazi, uyambe kuganiza kuti izi zikutanthauza chinachake. Ndipo mwinamwake iye amandikonda ine ndi chirichonse sichinangokhalapo, kungokhala wongolingalira, iye sakanakhoza kupirira, ndi pafupi monga malingaliro omwe mukung'ung'udza mutu wanu. Ndipo mwina, akuganiza ngati izi sizinawononge ubwenzi wanu. Ndipo amayamba kuchita ngati kuti palibe chomwe chinachitika, kapena ngakhale chimatha kwa kanthawi. Khalidweli limakuchotsani pamalingaliro ozama, bwanji osapereka tsiku lachiwiri pambuyo pa kugonana kwanu. Ponyani pambali naivete ndikuchitapo kanthu. Yesetsani kugonana ndi mnzanu, ngati ziri zosangalatsa kwa inu, kuwombera maso, monga mtsikana aliyense angakhoze kuchita. Gwirizani pa msonkhano, ndipo bwanji osatero. Ndipotu, choyamba, mukhalebe mabwenzi, pakati pa inu kapena ayi. Mwina yesetsani kukambirana naye zomwe zachitikazo ndikupeza momwe akugwirizanirana ndi izi, chifukwa simungasokoneze bwenzi, koma mwadzidzidzi adawopa zotsatira zake ndipo chifukwa chake anagona pansi. Ngati ndi choncho, ndiye mudziwitse kuti mwa ichi simukuwona cholakwika chilichonse. Mwina mungavomereze kuyesera kumanga ubale, mwinamwake ndi zomwe simunasowe. Zitha kuchitika ndipo zonse zidzakhala bwino ndipo udzakhala ndi ubale wabwino kwambiri. Ndipo ngati izi sizikuyenda bwino, tsopano mukhoza kusuntha ku ubale wosiyana, ndiko kuti, ubwenzi. Ndipo bwanji osakhala abwenzi ogona, mukhoza kuthandiza mnzanu komanso zosowa za thupi, pamene mukuchita bwino nokha.
Mulimonsemo, zilizonse zomwe sizikuchitika, kumbukirani kuti si iwo amene amasankha ife, koma ife. Choncho, mfundo yomwe ikuchitika pa chitukuko pambuyo pa kugonana ikuyikidwa ndi inu nokha.