Kodi mukuganiza kuti mumadziwa zonse za amuna? Mwinamwake mukulakwitsa. Pali ziweruzo zambiri zomwe anthu ambiri amavomereza za amuna aumuna, koma ena mwa iwo ndi opanda pake. Mukufuna kupambana munthu wamaloto anu? Ndiye muyenera kudziwa chomwe mkazi aliyense ayenera kudziwa za amuna - zinsinsi zawo zakuya kwambiri. Mukangomva mfundoyi - mutenga munthu aliyense wofuna. Idzakhala chabe nkhani ya nthawi.
Kwa amuna ena, kugonana ndi masewera
Ndipotu, kwambiri kwa ambiri. Makamaka anyamata achichepere osakwana zaka 25. Chiŵerengero cha amuna mpaka kugonana chimasonyeza kwambiri makhalidwe apamwamba a umunthu wake. Amuna, mosiyana ndi amayi, amakhala ovuta, kuponderezana, mpikisano ndi kupeza zosangalatsa mwa njira iliyonse. Anthu ena (makamaka achichepere, anthu omwe ali achichepere) amagonana, monga njuga - malingana ndi mfundo ya mpikisano. Ndicho chinthu chofunikira kuti asonyeze kuchuluka kwa "kuzizira" kwawo ndikuwonetsera kwa anzanu chiwerengero cha "zikho" zawo.
Zimapezeka kuti mnyamata wazaka 17 amapita ku bungwe loperekeza, koma amakhala ndi chokumana nacho. Kungokhala ndi ena onse kuti akhale "munthu" weniweni. Ngakhale izi sizowonekera nthawi yomweyo, koma zosowa zake zogonana zimamutsogolera. Kufunika kukhala mu gulu, kuti asamadzimve ngati wopanda vuto, nthawi zambiri amamenyana ndi achinyamata (osati omwe) kuti asokonezeke. Kenaka nthaŵi zambiri amanyadira ndi kugonjetsa kwawo ndikuwagawana ndi anzanu ndi anzako. Kwa amuna ambiri, ichi ndi chizindikiro cha kuyenerera ndi njira yowonjezera kuyamikira, makamaka kwa osatetezeka kwambiri.
Koma, ngakhale njira iyi yokhudza kugonana, amuna samalola zofanana ndi akazi. Mukumvetsetsa kwawo, mkazi aliyense sayenera kuchita zachiwerewere monga masewera. Akazi oterewa amayang'aniridwa ndi amuna, amamva ngakhale kunyansidwa nawo ndipo amatchedwa mawu olumbirira okha. Nthawi zonse muziganizira izi pochita ndi mwamuna.
Kwa amuna, chinthu chachikulu ndi ntchito, ndipo banja ndi chikondi sizingathandize kwambiri
Inde, ndi zoona. Kwa amuna, kudzikwaniritsa pa ntchito ndikofunika kwambiri kuposa akazi. Udindo wake umasewedwera ndi chitukuko cha anthu komanso chikhalidwe chonse. Mkaziyo ali ndi udindo wa amayi, kunyumba, chipangizo cha moyo. Pamene munthu akufunitsitsa poyamba kuti adziwe udindo komanso udindo waumphawi, womwe umagwirizananso ndi kugawa maudindo mu chikhalidwe chathu. Izi zimamuika munthuyo patsogolo pa kusowa kwa banja komanso thandizo lake. Nthaŵi zambiri pa nthawi yomweyo, zikuwoneka kuti ntchito imakhala yofunika kwambiri kwa iye kuposa banja ndi chikondi. Ndipo nthawizina izo ziri. Koma zonse siziri zovuta kwambiri. Banja la mwamuna ndi lofunika kwambiri, koma si lofanana ndi la mkazi. Zochita pa ntchito ndi ntchito zabwino ndizofunikira kwambiri pamoyo wake. Koma bamboyo amapindula zonse izi osati, koma kwa banja lake lomwe. Kupindula chifukwa cha nkhuni kwa munthu kumangotaya nthawi. Payenera kukhala wina yemwe angayamikire zoyesayesa zake, omwe adzafunikira kukwaniritsa chinachake m'moyo. Amuna ndi zinthu zothandiza. Kotero, iwo samadziyesera okha - sizosangalatsa kudziyamika nokha. Kotero zimakhala kuti kumapeto, ukwati, nyumba, banja kwa munthu wokhwima - ndizofunikira kwambiri. Chofunika kwambiri ndi kukhala wokhutira ndi munthu, ndiye kuti akuphatikizapo maudindo. Mkazi aliyense ayenera kudziwa za izi. Muthandizeni mu chilakolako chake kuti akule - adzakuyamikirani kufikira kumapeto kwa masiku ake.
Amuna samasowa kuvomereza ndi kuvomereza amayi
Izo siziri choncho. Mwamuna ndi wofunikira osati kukhulupilira, kuvomereza ndi kumvetsetsa kolondola, komanso kukazivomereza ndi kuvomereza amayi. Afuna kudzikhazika yekha mu udindo wake wamwamuna. Amamva kukhutira pamene malingaliro ake amalingaliridwa, pamene amayamikiridwa, amakondedwa ndi malingaliro ake ndi mphamvu zake. Mwamunayo ali wofooka ngati mwana. Iye makamaka pa dziko lapansi akuwopa kuti adzakhala wosadziŵa kanthu kena ndipo adzachita cholakwika. Kotero, kupambana, zopindula, zogwira mtima osati mu moyo wokha, komanso kugonana ndizofunikira kwambiri kwa iye. Ayenera kukhala otsimikiza kuti ali wabwino pa chilichonse chimene amachita. Malingana ndi izi, munthu amamanga chithunzi chake ndi chikhalidwe chake. Mwamuna ayenera kuyamikira ndi kulemekeza mkazi. Osangowonjezera - kunyenga ndi kunyenga kumunamizira munthu weniweni sangakhululukire. Icho chimukhumudwitsa iye, ndipo iwe umutaya iye kwanthawizonse.
Kugonana mosagonana kwa amuna - chinachake monga mankhwala
Inde, ndi zoona. Nthawi zina izi ndi njira yowonjezera kuyamikira, makamaka pokhudzana ndi zolephereka mmbali zina za moyo. Mwachitsanzo, kulephera kuntchito, kumatsutsana ndi akuluakulu, kupanikizika kungachititse munthu kugonana. Pochiritsa zolinga zakuvulaza, kupeza chidziwitso, kuyamikira, amalowa mu chibwenzi chachidule. Izi sizikutanthauza chilichonse, ngakhale amayi nthawi zina samvetsa izi ndikukumana nazo. Iwo amavutika, amavutika ndi funso: "Chifukwa chiyani sakutchula?", Osakayikira kuti munthu akhala akuiwalika kalekale kuti alipo. Ngakhale anthu owona mtima kwambiri amavomereza poyera kuti akungofuna "kutuluka." Amayi ambiri, mwa njira, amavomereza kugwirizana kotero popanda zopereka.
Amuna amadera nkhaŵa kwambiri zolephera zawo, makamaka kugonana
Amuna ali ndi chosowa chachikulu cha chidwi chawo ndi kugonana kwawo. Iwo amangokhala openga za kugonana kwawo! Ndipo vuto lalikulu kwambiri kwa mwamuna ndi pamene sangakwanitse kukwaniritsa zoyembekezera za mkazi. Kuwonjezereka kwa mavuto kukufika pachimake, makamaka pamene mkazi sangathe kukhutiritsa, chinachake chimatanthauza. Zilonda mu moyo wapamtima zimapweteka kwambiri mwamuna, choncho mkazi wanzeru sangalole kuti munthu adziwe kuti ndi wopanda pake komanso wofooka. Mwamuna monga batri - amaimbidwa ndi kuyamikira ndi kuyamikira kwa mkazi, kupeza mphamvu ndi mphamvu. Mulole mwamuna wanu amve ngati mtsogoleri wa chiwerewere - adzakuchitirani zonse zomwe mukufuna.
Amuna nthawi zambiri ndizofunika kwambiri, ndipo amai amayamba kukondana
Ndizoona. Kawirikawiri - makamaka pamsonkhano wangochitika - munthu "amangotulutsa" maubwenzi ena. Zilibe kanthu kwa iye, ndipo posachedwa amangoiŵala za izo. Mayi akuyembekezera yankho, kupitiliza, kuyembekezera kubwereza. Izi sizichitika nthawi zonse - nthawi zina mwamuna amakhala ndi chidwi chopitirizabe kukhala pachibwenzi. Koma nthawi zambiri amangofuna kuti azidziwana naye, ngati momwe amachitira ndi chilakolako cholakalaka. Maganizo a mkazi saganiziridwa. Komabe, izi sizikutanthauza kuti munthu sangathe kumva chikondi chozama. Ngati mkazi atha kuyesa "kugwiritsira ntchito" mwamuna - amawusaka ndikuchita zonse kuti apange mgwirizano. Mkazi aliyense ayenera kudziwa izi ndikuziganizira.
Amuna ndi enieni komanso othandiza kuposa akazi
Uwu ndi kusiyana kwakukulu pakati pa abambo ndi amai - iwo amaweruzidwa ndi moyo mosiyana maganizo ndi maganizo. Amuna nthawi zambiri amachita mofulumira, mwamsanga kuthetsa vutoli, musaganizire mochuluka ndipo musalowetse mavuto. Monga lamulo, pothetsa mavuto omwe sadalire pamalingaliro, iwo ali oganiza bwino komanso ogulitsa. Amuna ali ochita zambiri kuposa kukumba m'malingaliro awo. Amuna ndi ofunika kwambiri kusiyana ndi amayi omwe amafunikira ufulu - amakonda kusankha okha okha ndi kulikonse. Kulemekeza kusiyana kumeneku kumathandiza kumangirira, kudalira ndi kukonda ndi munthu aliyense. Koma izi sizikutanthauza kuti akazi samatsogoleredwa ndi nzeru zamoyo. Ndizomene amuna amachitira izi nthawi zonse, ndipo amai amachita izi nthawi ndi nthawi.
Amuna samakonda kukhala ndi zolakwika zingapo nthawi yomweyo
Izi ziri, iye alibe chosowa chachibadwa ichi. Mwamuna akhoza kusintha kusintha kwake, kusintha akazi ake. Koma kugwirizana kochepa panthawi imodzimodzi - kumatopetsa. Kuonjezera apo, amuna sali okwatirana monga momwe zikuwonekera. Ngati nonse mumakondana, mufuna kukhala okhulupirika ndi okhulupirika kwa wina ndi mnzake - mwamuna sakufuna kusintha. Chitonthozo ndi chitonthozo kwa iwo ndi okwera mtengo kuposa momwe amachitira ndi abwenzi angapo, akuthamanga mozungulira ndikuyesa kuwakondweretsa onsewo.
Mwamuna nthawi zonse amakonzeka kugonana. Thupi lake limagwira ntchito mwakagetsi, nthawi zina ngakhale motsutsana ndi chifuniro chake
Ichi ndi choonadi chenicheni. Kuchitapo kanthu, kapena kukonzekera mwamsanga kugonana ndi kwakukulu kwambiri mwa amuna kuposa akazi. Chisangalalo chikhoza kumupangitsa mwamuna kukhala wolimba kwambiri m'dera lopanda ndale. Maganizo angagwiritsidwe ntchito kwa anyamata ngakhale atayendetsa galimoto. Momwemo, munthu nthawi zonse amakhala pangozi yokhala mkhalidwe wosasangalatsa ... komabe, khalidweli nthawi zambiri limakhala ndi ntchito yabwino. Ngati mumatsogolera moyenera mphamvu za kugonana za mwamuna - mungathe kuchita naye.
Munthu samva kufunika kwa chibwenzi ndi chikondi cha mkazi pambuyo pa kugonana
Ichi ndi choonadi chowawa. Kawirikawiri munthu alibe nkhawa. Pambuyo pa kugonana, nthawi yomweyo amapita "kugona" kapena wokonzeka kuti azivala mwamsanga. Amapereka chidwi chochepa kumaganizo amodzimodzi ndikupitirizabe kusewera. Koma chidziwitso sichinthu chokwanira. Chinthucho chiri mu mahomoni, pakamwa kwawo ndi kumira kwake. Mwamuna aliyense pambuyo pa kugonana amamva kuchepa kwa ntchito zamaganizo. Komabe, khalidwe lake limadalira umunthu wake, chidziwitso, kukhudzidwa ndi mtima komanso kudziwa za luso la chikondi. Mwamuna wokhwima maganizo ndi wodziwa zambiri adzayesera kukupatsani chikondi ndi chikondi. Koma mkazi aliyense ayenera kudziwa amuna ndi kumvetsa kuti munthu wokondadi yekha ndi amene angachite izi. Khalani okhulupirika - musafunire zambiri. Ndipo muziyamikira chikondi chimene munthu amakuwonetsani. Izi si zophweka kwa iye.
Amuna "pansi pa chidendene" cha mkazi amakhala osasamala
Ichi ndi Choonadi. Amuna ali m'mavuto ovuta lero. Akazi akukhala ovuta kwambiri, amayembekeza kupeza mosavuta komanso kugonana. Zofalitsa zamakono zimalimbikitsa chithunzi cha mkazi waufulu - wokwiya, wovuta. Choncho, nthawi zina amuna amalandira mantha. Ayenera kuonetsetsa kuti amakwaniritsa zomwe mukuyembekezera. Amuna amayesetsa kuthawa "azimayi a zitsulo" opangidwa ndi zizindikiro zosiyanasiyana, kupewa kugonana nawo, kufotokoza izi ndi mutu, kuwonjezera ntchito kapena kusowa kwa nthawi. Mwamuna yemwe munadzipangitsa kukhala wofooka, sangakwanitse kukwaniritsa zofuna zanu za chibwenzi komanso zosowa zanu zogonana.
Kodi mukudziwa ...
Kwa munthu, kugonana ndikofunika kwambiri, chifukwa kumakhudza kudzidalira nokha ndi umunthu. Ngati munthu ataya mphamvu yake ndikuwonetsa udindo wake wogonana, sadzatha kukhalapo. Kulephera uku kumafalikiranso ku mbali zina za moyo wake.
Choyamba, mwamuna amafuna kugonana, chifukwa ichi ndi chofunika kwambiri kuti akhalebe wofunika. Zambiri zimadalira kugonana kumene kugonana kunachitika. Kaya inali funso la mgwirizano wokhazikika kapena unali msonkhano wamba. Ngati munthu akukumana ndi zovuta pa nkhani yogonana ndi wokondedwa yekha - sizimamukhudza kwambiri. Komabe, ngati kusowa kwa potency kumachitika pachibwenzi chokwanira kwa munthu - izi zingawonongeke. Maso a munthu, amamufooketsa, amachititsa kukayikira za umuna wake.
Amuna ali ndi malingaliro osiyana pa kugonana chifukwa cha chikhalidwe, chikhalidwe, chikhalidwe, kusiyana pakati pa mbiri, maphunziro ndi chikoka cha atolankhani. Kuyambira ali wamng'ono, mwamuna amaphunzira kupeŵa zomwe zimatchedwa "khalidwe lachikazi". Chilengedwe chimadetsa nkhawa zawo zachilengedwe, zimachepetsanso kapena zimathamanga zomwe zimakhudzidwa. Kuchotsa kuwonetseratu kuti ndikumvetsetsa ndi zotsatira za chilengedwe cha munthu.
Chizoloŵezi chachikazi cha amayi ndi kuzindikira, kusamala, kudzipatulira, nthawi zambiri amatsogoleredwa ndi maganizo ndi chidziwitso. Mwamuna sangafune kulankhula zakukhosi kwake, kulira, kusamalira kwambiri maonekedwe ake. Ngakhale nthawi zina ngakhale munthu wamphamvu amadzilolera kulira, ndipo izi sizimachepetsa umuna wake.
Ngakhale kusiyana komwe kulipo pakati pa mwamuna ndi mkazi, kusiyana kumeneku kumatha kumvetsetsa bwino ndikuvomerezedwa. Izi zimakuthandizani kupanga ubale wabwino. Kuzindikiridwa ndi kulemekeza kusiyana kumeneku kumathandiza kupeŵa kusamvetsetsana ndi kuyembekezera kosayenera pakati pa mwamuna ndi mkazi. Ngakhale kuti ndife osiyana kwambiri, izi sizikutanthauza kuti sitingathe kufika pa msinkhu womwewo ndikusangalala, kudalira ndi kukonda.