Panthawi imene munthu amachotsa mantha a mwanayo, siteji yatsopano pakupanga umunthu imakhala mumoyo wake, ndipo patangotha nthawi inayake imawonekeratu kuti zovuta ndi mantha ziri kumbuyo, ndi zomwe zimachitika pokhala akulu. Nthawi zina manthawa amapezeka. Mwachitsanzo, chikondi choyamba, monga lamulo, chimachitika mwa munthu aliyense, koma kutali ndi zonse, icho chimadutsa popanda tsatanetsatane. Kawirikawiri zochitika zolakwika zimapangitsa munthu kuopa kuti ali ndi chitetezo, koma zimakhudza kwambiri chitukuko cha maubwenzi ogwirizana ndipo zimakhala chifukwa chomwe munthu amawopera kukomana ndi mkazi watsopano.
Chifukwa chake anthu amawopa msonkhano: zofanana
Musanayambe msonkhano uliwonse, mwamuna amadandaula zosachepera mkazi. Ndipo alibe chiyembekezo cha tsogolo labwino, ali ndi nkhawa pa zomwe zikuchitika pakali pano.
Momwe mwamuna amawopera ndi kuchuluka kwa mkazi, zimadalira momwe angamuikire iye. Ndi mantha ndi zochitika zomwe sizingathetsedwe, kuteteza kwambiri munthu kuti asamadzidandaule patsiku, chifukwa chake pali mantha a misonkhano. Kawirikawiri mantha awa amayamba chifukwa cha chikondi chamakono, mantha okhumudwitsa kachiwiri ndikulakwitsa kapena kusonyeza malingaliro anu ndi malingaliro anu.
Amuna omwe amawopa kapena mantha amodzi a amuna
Nthawi zambiri amuna amatha kupewa kusonkhana ndi anyamata chifukwa cha mantha awo. Tonsefe timadziwa kuti anthu ali ndi ufulu wokonda ufulu, kotero kusadziŵa izi ndizofanana ndi kuzindikira kwathunthu kuti mulibe maganizo opatsirana amuna. Mwamuna akuwopa kwambiri kuti pa imodzi mwa misonkhano mayiyo adzamuuza momveka bwino za ufulu wake wa ufulu. Mwamuna uyu amaopa kuposa moto. Zikatero, tikhoza kuganizira mofatsa amuna oterewa omwe amawopa kuti ayambe kugwirizana kwambiri ndi zifukwa zomwezi. Nthawi zina mwamuna amayang'ana kuyesa kwa mkazi kuti amuwone, ngati akufuna kukhala mkazi wake. Izi zimapangitsa munthu kubisala momwe zingathere ndipo chirichonse padziko lapansi sichikumana ndi mkazi. Ngati mwini mwiniwakeyo adabwera ku lingaliro la kulenga banja, iye adzakhala ngati woyambitsa oyamba pamisonkhano ndi maubwenzi otsatizana.
Amuna akuwopa chiwonongeko kuchokera kumbali ya akazi. Nthawi zina zimachitika kuti oimira za kugonana amphamvu alibe nthawi komanso maganizo oti awone mkazi. Mayiyo, nayenso, amayamba kunyoza munthuyo ndi mawu a ndondomeko: "muyenera", "muyenera" ndi zina zotero, zomwe zimakhala ndi zotsatira zosiyana zedi. Zimayamba kuopseza munthu ndipo amayesa njira iliyonse yothetsera msonkhano "ku bokosi lakutali", kapena ngakhale kusiya zonsezo.
Kuopa kudziwonetsera nokha cholakwika kwa mkazi. Izi zimaphatikizapo kuopa munthu kutsogolo kwa chikhalidwe cholimba kwambiri komanso choyenera - chibwenzi. Mwamuna akhoza kungofuna kapena kusamalira mkazi, choncho ali wokonzeka kupewa misonkhano ndi iye, koma kungochotsa. Mwa njira, kudzichepetsa kwa amuna ndi kugwiranso ntchito pakutanthauzira uku.
Kuopa kukondana. Kuwopa kugonana - izi ndizitsutsano zamphamvu, pamene oimira za kugonana kolimba amapewa kukhudzana kwambiri ndi mayiyo. Apa, monga lamulo, munthu samangoopa kuti akanidwa, komabe amakayikira kuti amakopeka. Izi siziri zokhudzana ndi mavuto a kugonana, pali chifukwa chochitira manyazi kapena mantha owonetsa matenda opatsirana pogonana.
Kuopa zovuta zawo. Ambiri mwa abambo amphamvu pazifukwa zina (munthu aliyense, monga lamulo, angakhale ndi chifukwa cha izi) akukumana ndi vuto lalikulu pamaso pa mkazi. Chovuta kumvetsa ndi chakuti munthu amaopa kuti sangathe kukondweretsa mkazi kapena kuti izi zakhala zikuchitika kale. Kotero, iye amayamba kuona zopanda nzeru pamisonkhano, wotsutsa yekha, kudzidzimitsa yekha.
Amuna amaopa kusintha kwa moyo. Kudziwa nthawi zonse kumakhala kochititsa mantha ndipo kukhoza kusokoneza moyo wokhazikika wa munthu pambuyo pa msonkhano.