Kusonkhana ndi mkazi watsopano yemwe angakonde munthu amawoneka kuti ndizosatheka mu moyo wa amuna ndi akazi. Ndipo apa pali, msonkhano wawuyembekezeredwa: chibwenzi, mphatso, chilakolako .... Zikuwoneka kuti ichi ndi chisangalalo, koma zimatenga chaka chimodzi kapena ziwiri, pamene mwamuna adzagawana ndi mkazi yemwe amamuwoneka kuti ndi wapadera komanso wosawoneka. Nchiyani chomwe chimamupangitsa iye kuchita chinthu choterocho, chomwe sichiyenerera iye kwa mkazi, chifukwa chiyanjano ichi sichinapangidwe ndi mkazi uyu?
1. Mwinamwake mkaziyo anali bwenzi loipa, sangathe kuthandizira zokambirana, ndipo amakhala chete nthawi zambiri kapena kukamba nkhani zokhazokha tsiku ndi tsiku. Mwinamwake mu kugonana, mkazi watsopano sanamukhudze . Zachiwirizi zigawo ziwiri: kukhutira ndi kugonana komanso kukhala ndi chiyanjano - kukhazikitsa ubale wabwino wa nthawi zonse ndizofunikira kwambiri. Lero, amayi ambiri ali okhutira, ochenjera kwambiri, ndipo amuna samakonda akazi omwe ali ochenjera kuposa iwo : izi zimanyalanyaza ulemu wa amuna. Choncho, amayi omwe amadzikonda okha amapyola nthawi yawo yokha. Iwo samakondanso "kuwerengera" mu chiwerewere cha abwenzi abwenzi: mwamuna uyu ndi wowopsya ndipo amatsogolera ku lingaliro la khalidwe lachiwerewere la mkazi mmbuyomo.
2. Pamene mwamuna akufuna kupatukana ndi mkazi, nthawi zambiri amamuuza kuti sagwirizane ndi malemba (mawuwa nthawi zambiri amamveka ku khothi komwe mlandu wa chisudzulo ukuyesedwa). Kawirikawiri mkazi wotereyu angayambe kukangana, ayambe kukangana, amanenapo mawu owopsya omwe sangathe kubwereranso chifukwa sangapange banja ndi mtendere, kumvetsetsa komanso ubwenzi pakati pa mamembala onse a m'banja. Azimayi ambiri samvetsa kuti pofuna kusunga banja komanso maubwenzi ndi wokondedwa ayenera kuthandizira , kuti asamangokhalira kutero. Mkazi yemwe ali ndi luso limeneli amatchedwa wanzeru.
3. Mwamunayo amatha kugonana ndi mkazi, ngati sali wonyada, ndipo nthawi zina amachita manyazi ndi anzake ndi abwenzi chifukwa cha khalidwe losayenera la bwenzi (makamaka mowa mwauchidakwa).
4. Kuyanjana ndi mkazi sikungapeweke, ngati mwadzidzidzi munthu amadziwa kuti chibwenzi chake chimakonda anzake.
5. Kawirikawiri m'moyo mwamuna amusiya mkazi ngati amamuwona tsiku ndi tsiku kunyumba ngati mkazi wosauka amene safuna kukhala wokongola kwa iye (osati kwa ena). Munthu wosavala, tsitsi losalala, chovala chodetsedwa amachititsa munthu kuganiza kuti apatukane ndi mkazi uyu, ngati nthawi imodzimodziyo, iyeyo ndi woyera komanso wokonzeka bwino.
6. Mkazi ayenera kudziwa kuti mwamuna wopanda chikumbutso, pamtima ndi moyo, amapatsa mphatso , amagula maluwa ngati amamukonda kwambiri . Ngati izi sizichitika ndipo tifunikira kumukumbutsa izi, ndiye kuti palibe chikondi. Kenaka muzipempha zanu musamawerenge, kuti musamukwiyitse komanso kuti musakukakamizeni kuti mugwirizane.
7.Muzhchina, (ndi zosawerengeka, ngati amakonda kwambiri mkazi komanso amamukonda), samakhululukira mkazi wachinyengo, zomwe amadziwa, amusiya.
8. Amayi ambiri amakhulupirira kuti munthu akhoza kukhala pafupi pobereka mwana (kupatulapo, zimachitika). Moyo umasonyeza kuti amuna ambiri sangathe kusunga ana pafupi ndi mkazi wosakondedwa: angasankhe kuthandiza ana patali kuchokera kwa mkazi uyu.
Ngati mkazi ali wochenjera, wogonana ndi wanzeru, amatha kugwirizanitsa pakamakangana, kusamala, komanso chofunika kwambiri kukonda mwamuna, ndiye sangachite nawo.