Mmene mungakhalire ubale ndi munthu wosakondedwa? Ndipotu, amai ochepa okha amatha kumanga ubale ndi munthu wosakondedwa, pafupifupi osatulukamo. Ali pafupi - zabwino, ayi-ndipo musatero. Nthawi zina pali zochitika pamene mkazi amadziwa kuti mnzakeyo ndi munthu wabwino. Koma pa chifukwa china, palibe mgwirizano ndi chikondi mu ubale. Ubwenzi ndizo zabwino zomwe okwatiranawo angayembekezere. Pa zovuta kwambiri, kuyanjana, kukhumudwa, kudzidzimva kwadzidzidzi pa zomwe zikanati zakhala zikuyambira. Ndipo chofunikira kwambiri - kumvetsetsa kuti kukhalapo kwa munthuyu sikungatheke. Ndiye bwanji osangoyamba moyo kuyambira pachiyambi potembenuza tsamba? Nazi zifukwa zochepa zomwe zimachititsa kuti amai akhalebe ndi chibwenzi ndi osakondedwa:
- Chifukwa choyamba ndi chodziwika ndi kudzidandaula. Mkaziyo amakayikira kuti adzatha kupeza munthu wabwino, ndipo nthawi zambiri ngakhale atha kumanga ubale ndi munthu.
- Chifundo. Chikhalidwe chopanda chisokonezo cha mnzako, kuyesetsa kwake kukhululukira zovuta zonse kungakhale chifukwa cha maganizo, monga "Iye ndi wabwino, ndipo ndine woipa kwambiri." Komabe, ngakhale chikhalidwe chotere pakapita nthawi chingangokwiyitsa, makamaka popeza amayi ali ndi chizoloŵezi cha amayi okhaokha (ndi zofooka, zimayenera kutetezedwa).
- Kusakhumba kapena kuthekera kuthetsa mavuto omwe amadziwika pa moyo wa tsiku ndi tsiku. Pogonana kapena kupatukana, zifukwa zambiri zomwe zimagwirizanitsa zimachokera kumalo omwe akukhala ndi zofunikirako komanso kugawa katundu.
- Kusasamala kwa maganizo a anthu. Kawirikawiri mawu akuti "wosungulumwa" amagwirizanitsidwa ndi mawu akuti "wotaya mtima". Choncho, n'zosadabwitsa kuti nthawi zambiri chibwenzi chimatha chifukwa cha maganizo a ena. Pankhaniyi, muyenera kusankha chomwe chili chofunika kwambiri - kukhala ndi banja losangalala kwambiri kapena kumanga ubale kuyambira pachiyambi.
- Ana. Ana amakhala ovuta kwambiri pa kusiyana kwa makolo. Koma kukula kwa vutoli kumasinthidwa - kunyoza kumayambira, mwinamwake sikunali kofunikira kuti mutenge motalika choncho ndiyenera kuchoka pamenepo. Choncho, kusunga ubale chifukwa cha mwanayo ndi kulakwitsa. Ana amamva kuti pali cholakwika pakati pa makolo awo, ali ndi chithunzi cholakwika cha ubale pakati pa mwamuna ndi mkazi, ndipo nthawi zambiri ana amadzimva kuti ndi olakwa chifukwa momwe makolo awo amalankhulirana. Choncho, ngati chiyanjanocho chimasungidwa kwa ana wamba, zidzakhala zoyenera kuzifotokozera kapena mothandizidwa ndi katswiri wa zamaganizo kuti ubale pakati pa makolo ndi mwana sukusintha, amayi ndi abambo sadzakhalanso pafupi.
Poyankha funso "Chochita ngati mwamuna wosakondedwa ali pafupi ndi iwe" akhoza kukhala mkazi yekhayo. Pambuyo pa zonse, palibe nsonga zoyenera kwa aliyense, kupatula ngati njira yopanda tsankho yoganizira za momwe zilili. Kusweka ubale ndi munthu si kophweka, makamaka ngati mwakhala kale limodzi kwa kanthawi. Kuwonjezera pamenepo, chisankho chotero sichingatsimikizire kuti munthu ali ndi moyo wosangalala m'tsogolomu. Koma ngati chiyanjano chotero chimawononga mkazi ngati munthu, ndipo palibe chiyanjano pakati pa abwenzi, njira yothetsera yabwino ndiyo kuchoka mpaka mphindi yomwe, pokhapokha podzudzula ndi kukwiya, palibe kanthu kena katsalira. Apo ayi, njira yovuta kale ya zonsezi ingangokhala asilikali. Komabe, mu moyo wa tsiku ndi tsiku, ubwenzi wosangalatsa popanda chikondi ndi wamba. Kulemekeza, kumvetsetsa ndi kugwirizana pakati pa okondedwa ndi kukondana pakati pa kugonana ndizowonjezereka kwambiri kuposa chikondi kapena chilakolako.