Ngati mwamuna anakhumudwitsa mkazi, ndani ayenera kukhala woyamba kulekerera?

Tsoka, ubalewu nthawi zambiri umatipangitsa ife kukumbukira osati zabwino zokha, komanso mavuto osiyanasiyana. Mipikisano imachitika panthawi yoyamba ya chiyanjano, komanso m'magulu awiri. Chifukwa cha izi kawirikawiri ndi kusakayika kwa mbali imodzi kapena mbali zonse kuti zitsatire, kulingalira ndi lingaliro la theka lachiwiri, kuthetsa mavuto mwamtendere. Koma, monga akunena, okondedwawo akukalipidwa - amangokhalira kusekedwa, chifukwa chotsatira timayamba kumvetsera wina ndi mzake ndipo mwa njira iliyonse tingapewe kupewa maganizo. Masiku ano, malinga ndi chiwerengero, akazi ndi omwe amachititsa kuti anthu azikangana kawirikawiri, chifukwa ndife zolengedwa zomwe zimatsutsana ndi zowonongeka, kuganiza kuti takwaniritsa chinachake. Azimayi, nthawi zambiri, amalamulidwa ndi maganizo, osati chifukwa, choncho amuna amakhala ovuta kwambiri kuposa momwe timaganizira kuti atikhululukire, ponena kuti "akazi" amenewa ndi achilengedwe, ndipo palibe chomwe chingathekepo, komabe chimavomerezeka. Koma ngati mwamuna akukhumudwitsa mkazi, ndani ayenera kukhala woyamba kulekerera? Pambuyo pake, iwo, amphawi, kuchokera ku chikhalidwe chomwecho, ali otetezera ndi operekera chakudya, kutanthauza, moyenerera, tiyenera kuteteza ndi kudyetsa, ngakhale atakhumudwitsidwa. Chabwino, tiyeni tiyesere kuzilingalira.

Choyamba, ndiyenera kumvetsetsa chifukwa cha mkangano. Pambuyo pake, ngati mwamuna akukhumudwitsa mkazi, ndiye chifukwa cha izi pali zofunika zina. Mkhalidwe umene mungakhale wosasangalatsa zomwe mumawakonda, zambiri. Koma kodi mumatsimikiza kuti sanapusitse wolakwirayo? Mwinamwake iye anali woleza mtima, pamene iwe unathamangira kuzungulira nyumbayo ndi amatsenga, unamugwedeza ndi zonyansa ndi zonena, ndipo panthawi ina anafuula, anafuula kuti: "Dura!" Ndipo kuchoka mu chipinda? Mwamwayi, ndipo, mwachisangalalo, tikukhala panthawi yomwe akazi sachitsidwanso ngati anthu omwe angakhululukidwe, ndipo ife tokha tili ndi mlandu pa izi. Ndikhulupirire, ngati iwe ndiwe woyamba kukhumudwitsa munthu, ndipo munthu wakukhumudwitsani, ndiye kuti sangakhale woyamba kugwirizanitsa, ndipo sadzamva mlandu ngakhale chifukwa cha hysteria ndi chimodzimodzi. Yesetsani kumvetsetsa nokha zomwe sizikugwirizana ndi inu, ndipo kambiranani ndi munthu wanu poyamba, pemphani kupepesa, ndipo yesetsani kukhala mwamtendere komanso popanda kufotokozera kuti mum'fotokozere zomwe ziri zoyenera kutsutsana ndi inu, funsani kuchokera tsopano, kuti musapeze mikangano, musatero. Ngati adakalibe mlandu pazinthu zanu ndipo ayamba kukweza mawu ake, ndiye kuti muli ndi njira zitatu: yoyamba - musiye chirichonse chomwe chiri, ndikuyesera kukhala wovuta; chachiwiri ndi kuchoka kwa iye, chifukwa cha inu kukambirana kwanu ndikofunikira, koma MCH wanu sakufuna kusintha mkhalidwe; wachitatu - kuvomereza ndi mwamuna kuti iwe, mwachitsanzo, chitani ichi ndi icho, ndipo sakuchita, kapena mosiyana. Kumbukirani kuti mwamuna ndi mutu, ndipo mkazi ndi khosi, choncho nthawi zina ndibwino kuti muyambe kuvomereza ndi kupepesa koposa kudzizunza nokha ndikutulutsa mitsempha yanu.

Ngati mwamuna akukhumudwitsa mkazi - ndani ayenera kukhala woyamba kulekerera? Pali lingaliro lakuti ngati mwamuna akukhumudwitsa mkazi, sayenera kukhala woyamba kugwirizanitsa, chifukwa ngati amzanga kapena iye mwini amakhoza kumuyesa wokhala ndi nkhanza. Ndikufuna kuzindikira pomwepo kuti lingaliroli lilipo pakati pa mabanja omwe ali osasamala a ku Far East ndi maiko a Dziko Lachitatu, kapena pakati pa amuna osatetezeka ndi osokonezeka a sukulu yapamwamba ndi achinyamata. Amuna okhwima, ozindikira ndi olimba mtima omwe ali ndi khalidwe labwino m'madera akhala akulemekeza ndi kulemekeza amayi awo. Chifukwa amayi omwewo ndi malo awo osungirako zinthu, chifukwa iwo, omwe ali, amuna, ali ndi chinachake pakali pano. Ndipo ngati munthuyo ali ndi chinachake cholakwika, atakhumudwa ndi chilakolako chake ndikuchizindikira, ndiye kuti ayenera kupepesa. Ngati mnyamata wanu akuwopa kuoneka wofooka, kusonyeza ulemu kwa mkazi, ndiye muyenera kumufunsa kuti aziika patsogolo pazomwe zili zofunika kwambiri - maganizo a anthu ena, kapena ubale wanu. Ngati amasankha choyamba, ndiye kuti muyenera kulingalira mozama ngati chiri chikondi. Pambuyo pake, maubwenzi amamangidwa, choyamba, polemekezana, koma panopa sichikununkhiza. Ngati theka lanu lachiwiri likusankha njira yachiwiri, kambiranani naye momwe angamvere, chitani nanu. Yesetsani kumufotokozera kuti muyenera kulemekezana wina ndi mnzake ndikutha kuzindikira zolakwitsa ndikupangitsana. Komanso, ngati akupemphani inu pamene mukufunikiradi, ndiye choyamba, ulemu wanu ndi chidaliro mwa iye ziyenera, ndipo izi ndizofunikira kwambiri kwa amuna. Koma, monga mukudziwira, mu mkhalidwe uno, kuti mukambirane za izi, mudzafunika kukweza mbendera yoyera poyamba.

Ngati mwamuna wakhumudwitsa mkazi, ndipo mkazi ndi mwamuna, ndipo sizikuwonekera kuti ndani ayenera kukhala woyamba kulekerera, ine ndikulangiza kuti ndiyambe kumvetsa chomwe zotsatira ndizo zomwe maphwando akufuna. Pambuyo pa zonse, kuchokera kusemphana kulikonse timaphunzira maphunziro ndi zifukwa. KOMA! Mzimayi nthawi zonse anali ndi mtendere ndi chitonthozo m'nyumba. Ngati mukufuna kuphunzitsanso munthu wanu, mupangeni kukhala "genie" wanu, mukuchita zilakolako zirizonse, ndiye apa mulibe mwayi pa zifukwa ziwiri: choyamba - anthu sangasinthe, munthu wanu wayamba kale monga munthu, ndipo mukhoza , kukonza zina mwa makhalidwe ake phindu lanu, koma osati mwa njira zonsezi, ndipo nthawi zonse ntchito zanu zimabweretsa zotsatira; chachiwiri - ife tonse timakonda anthu osati makhalidwe awo okha, komanso chifukwa cha zofooka zawo, komanso ngati mutati mumaphunzitsanso mwamuna, ndipo amakubweretsani khofi ndi khofi pabedi m'mawa, mudzatenga nthawi yayitali bwanji zosangalatsa? Mwinamwake, "wokhulupirika muzhchinka" adzakuvutitsani, sangadzipangire yekha zochita, ndipo "kuchokera kumanda" ako adzasanduka cholengedwa chosowa chitetezo chanu, ndipo mudzamusiya kufunafuna "munthu weniweni". Koma izi ndi zongopeka chabe. Ingokumbukirani kuti zambiri zimadalira inu kusiyana ndi momwe mukuganizira. Yesetsani kuti muyese bwino, ndipo pazifukwa zina nthawi zina muyenera kudziyendetsa nokha, chifukwa ubale sungapangidwe chifukwa cha kudzikonda. Akazi onse ogwira mtima amavomereza kuti pa nthawi ina ubale wawo umakhala wosokonekera, iwo amayenera kupereka kuti asunge zomwe ali nazo. Khalani anzeru ndipo zonse zidzakhala bwino.

Ndipo popeza zinali choncho, ngati munthu akukhumudwitsa mkazi, ndiye funso lakuti: "Ndani ayenera kukhala woyamba kulekerera" sayenera kuima, ngati ali ndi chikondi chenicheni ndi chikondi pakati pawo - ayenera pamodzi kuyesa kuthetsa mikangano yawo yonse, aliyense yemwe ali wolakwa wawo .