Ndipo anthu onse nthawi zonse amanena moona mtima kuti akulota banja lachete, ana ndi mkazi wofatsa, koma osati tsopano, koma mtsogolomu.
Tiyeni tiwone chifukwa chake anthu akuwopa ubale weniweni? Chifukwa chodziwikiratu ndi kukana kuti "kudzimanga" nokha chifukwa cha zolemba zakale zomwe sizinapambane ndipo, monga lamulo, pamene munthu amakhala wokhumudwa kwambiri mu ubale wachikondi, makamaka pamene akukula mantha akulephera, motero, safuna kudzimangiriza ku ubale weniweni ndi osagonana. Amuna amene amasudzulana ndi kugawa katundu wa achibale ndi abwenzi mosamalitsa amayesetsa "kubwezeretsa" zochitika zowonongeka, chifukwa, kwenikweni, kusudzulana kuli ngati kugonjetsedwa kwa kugonana kolimba, kotero anthu amayesa kuti asagonjetse moyo wawo. Amuna ena nthawi zonse amafunafuna mkazi wabwino, chifukwa ndi wokongola kwambiri, womvetsetsa komanso wachikondi, nthawi zonse amamvetsa komanso amasangalala. Kupeza zolakwa zina zomwe zimayambitsa chiyanjano, bamboyo "amasesa" womasulirayo chifukwa chosagwirizana ndi zomwe akufuna. Amuna ena, ngakhale ali okondana ndi theka lawo lachiwiri, ayese kupewa kulankhula za kukhala pamodzi, kungokhulupirira kuti pakali pano kwambiri kuti aganizire za chiyembekezo chilichonse. Amuna ambiri, ngakhale amalepheretsa kukwatirana, pamapeto pake amadzimanga okha. Koma palinso mitundu ya amuna omwe sangathe kukhala ndi ubale wokhazikika komanso wamuyaya. Amuna ena omwe ali ndi malingaliro ozama sayesa kuthamanga. M'malo mochedwa kukula, oimira ogonana amphamvu sanakhazikitse ndipo akuwopa kufotokoza moyo wa tsiku ndi tsiku wa ubale wawo m'miyoyo yawo. Mtundu wina wa amuna, otchedwa "mabakiteriya ouma." Monga lamulo, iwo ali kale zaka 35-40, awa ndiwo amuna omwe amazoloŵera kukhala okha, kudalira okha paokha ndi kudalira kwathunthu pa kanthu kena mu moyo wawo. Mwamunayo ali ndi chibwenzi kwa mkazi, podziwa kuti ayamba kukhala wofunika kwambiri m'moyo wake, munthu wotero amayamba kudzipatula yekha - amaletsa kuimirira, amacheza mobwerezabwereza, amatanthauza nkhani zowonjezereka. Mabakiteriya ouma mwakhama amakayikira kuitana mkazi kunyumba kwawo, osatchula kuti akulakalaka kukhala pansi pa denga lomwelo. Ndi bwino kunyalanyaza anthu oterewa, kupatula ngati mutakopeka ndi udindo wokhala bwenzi losatha.
Kodi ife, chiwerewere chokongola, tikufuna kukhala ndi moyo wokondedwa ndi moyo wathu wautali komanso wosangalala? Njira yokhayo yothetsera chiyanjano ndi munthu kukhala moyo wautali ndi wodekha ndikuvomereza malingaliro ake. Nthawi zonse amazunza munthu yemwe ali ndi mafunso ponena za tsogolo la mgwirizano, mkaziyo ayamba kuika zizindikiro "Kotero, simundikonda! "" Sindilibe kanthu kwa iwe! "Ndi zina zotero. , amayamba kulira ndi kumvetsa chisoni. Njira zoterezi nthawi zonse zimapangitsa kuti chibwenzicho chiyambe kutsogolo ndipo zimayambitsa zosiyana. Mwamuna, powona zowawa ndi zowawa za wokondedwa wake, amasankha kuti achoke, kuti asamveke ndi kudzimva kuti ali ndi mlandu pazinthu zina zonse.
Koma palinso zizindikiro kuti mumatha kumvetsetsa kuti ubale weniweni m'moyo wa munthu ndi wofunikira ndipo amamuchitira moyenera komanso moyenera. Chizindikiro choyamba chikhoza kutsimikiziridwa ngati mukukambirana kwa mwamuna yemwe wasankhidwa kapena ndi anzanu mawu akuti "ife" akuwoneka mobwerezabwereza. Malingaliro aumunthu amatsutsa kuti ngati munthu ayamba kudziwika ndi munthu wina, wakhala akusiya udindo wake kukhala wosungulumwa ndipo akumanga tsogolo lake pamodzi ndi mnzake. Ngati mutagwiritsa ntchito nthawi yambiri pamodzi, ichi ndi chizindikiro cha ubale weniweni. Mwamuna yemwe safuna kugawana nthawi ndi mkazi (kupatula ngati izi siziri zachikondi), adzataya nthawi yake pamasewera, zosangalatsa kapena kusangalala ndi mabwenzi okondwa. Umboni wodalirika ndi chidziwitso chapadera ndi chakuti munthu akhoza kuika "masewero okonda" - makompyuta, galimoto ndi zinthu zina zokondedwa kwa mkazi wake. Chikwama ndi chizindikiro china cha ubale weniweni. Munthu wokondana, yemwe amayamikira mkazi wake, amatha nthawi ndi mitsempha kukangana ndi mwamuna kapena mkazi wake. Mwachibadwa, cholinga cha ubale weniweni pakati pa amuna ndi mkangano ndi zotsatira zabwino. Chizindikiro chofunika cha ubale weniweni ndikumudziwa ndi makolo ndi abwenzi. Amzanga ndi gulu la munthu yemwe angathe kukhala yekha ndi kumasuka, motero, posankha wosankhidwa ake ndi makolo ake kapena abwenzi ake, mwamuna amafuna chisomo ndi maganizo kuchokera kwa anthu ofunika. Chowonadi chenichenicho ndi chomveka bwino cha kuyanjana kwa chiyanjano ndikumanga mapulani ndi chiyembekezo cha tsogolo limodzi. Izi zikutanthauza kuti munthuyo amayamba kutenga udindo osati kwa iye yekha, komanso kwa mkazi wake wokondedwa. Ndipo ngati mwamuna akufuna kukhala ndi wokondedwa wake, lolani kuti akhale ndi nkhani kuti izi ndi zoyambira, kuyang'ana bwino kwa bwenzi, mosakayikira, ichi ndi sitepe yaikulu mu njira yolondola.
Ndi akazi otani amene amakondedwa ndi okondedwa ndi amuna omwe ali ndi zolinga zazikulu zogonana? Azimayi omwe amamupatsa mwayi womva ngati munthu yemwe samangopatsa chakudya cham'mawa ndi kumayendetsa mosamala misonkhano ndi abwenzi omwe amamvetsa ndi kuvomereza zofuna za amuna. Wothandizana ndi anzeru omwe mungathe kuyankhula pa mutu uliwonse. Munthu wolemekezeka yemwe amamvetsera maganizo ake, ngakhale atagwirizana ndi iye, akutsutsana komanso akulankhula mwanzeru pazovuta. Mkazi aliyense wamwamuna amadzisankha yekha, ndikofunika kumusungira bwino komanso wokongola kwambiri! Musaiwale kuti malingaliro amphamvu si achilendo kwa anthu ndipo chifukwa chachikulu chomwe chimatsogolera munthu kudziko la moyo nthawi zonse ndi chikondi!