Ndipo nthawi zambiri timayamba kudzidzudzula tokha. Zikuwoneka kuti ndife okonzeka kuchita masewera achifundo, koma timakhalabe pamperewera mwazotheka. Poyesera kuthetsa kumverera kopweteka, wina amasankha kuchoka ndipo mosadziŵa amasankha njira yopulumukira ("sangathe" kudutsa, "alibe nthawi" kuti afike kuchipatala ku maofesi a ofesi). Ena "amathamanga ku chikumbumtima", amasiya mphamvu zawo zonse zakuthupi ndi zamaganizo ndipo nthawi zambiri amapereka moyo wawo waumwini, kudzipatula okha ufulu wa chimwemwe. Zomwe mungachite ngati munthu akudwala, makamaka ngati munthuyu ali moyo pafupi ndi inu.
Njira yowononga
Kuti mutenge malo oyenera pafupi ndi wodwalayo, mumasowa nthawi - sizimawoneka nthawi yomweyo. Choyamba chochita ndi chododometsa komanso chopanda mantha. Chinthu chovuta kwambiri kwa achibale ndi kuzindikira kuti wokondedwayo akudwala. Ndipo simungathe kuyembekezera kusintha kwabwino. Pafupifupi nthawi yomweyo, munthu amadziimba mlandu kuti: "Sindingathe kuziletsa," "Sindinaumirize kudzera dokotala," "Sindinamvetsetse." Pezani anthu kuti azidzimvera chisoni: pazochitika zakale, komanso kukhala ndi thanzi labwino, kuti sangakhale nthawi zonse, kuti adakali ndi chinachake choti apitirize m'moyo ... "Komanso, n'zovuta kumvetsa momwe tingachitire tsopano. Zili ngati kuti palibe chimene chinachitika, kuti musakhumudwitse wokondedwa wanu? Koma pali ngozi yoti tidzakhala ngati egoists. Kapena kodi ziyenera kusintha kusintha kwa ubale wanu ndi iye, chifukwa tsopano akudwala? Timadzifunsa tokha mafunso, taganizirani za momwe ubale wathu unalili asanadze matenda. Koma chofunika kwambiri, matenda a wina amatikumbutsa mantha athu. Ndipo koposa zonse - mantha opanda chidziwitso cha imfa. Chinthu chinanso chodzimvera chisoni ndichochidziwikire kuti tiyenera kukhala mwana wabwino, mwamuna kapena mkazi. Ngati mukuyenera kusamalira, muyenera kusamalira wachibale wanu. Izi zimakhala zovuta makamaka kwa iwo amene anadzudzula ali ana, omwe nthawi zonse amasonyeza kuti sagwirizana ndi chizoloŵezi. Ichi ndi chododometsa: pamene munthu ali ndi udindo waukulu, amamusamalira bwino, amamva kuti ndi wopanda ungwiro. Tikufuna kuthandizira bwenzi kapena wachibale wodwala komanso podziletsa tokha kuvutika. Pali chisokonezo chosapeŵeka cha malingaliro otsutsana: ife tathetsedwa pakati pa chikondi ndi kukhumudwa, chilakolako choteteza ndi kukwiyitsa kwa wokondedwa amene nthawi zina amatipweteka, amachititsa kuti tizidziimba mlandu ndi mavuto athu. Timayesetsa kutayika mu labyrinth iyi, osayang'ana zolemba zathu, chikhulupiriro chathu, zikhulupiriro zathu. Pamene nthawi zonse timagwedeza maganizo omwewo m'maganizo mwathu, amadzaza maganizo athu ndikupanga chisokonezo, zomwe zimalepheretsa kuganiza bwino. Timasowa kukhudzana ndi tokha, ndi zofuna zathu. Izi zimadziwonetsera kwenikweni pa thupi: kusowa tulo, zopweteka pamtima, mavuto a khungu akhoza kuchitika ... Ndilo lingaliro lachidziwitso ndi udindo wochulukirapo umene tikudzipangira. Zifukwa za kusokonezeka kwa maganizo ndizo zambiri: kusamalira wodwala sikusiya nthawi kapena malo awo okha, kumafuna kusamala, kukhudza maganizo, kutentha, kumatulutsa zinthu zathu. Ndipo nthawizina zimawononga banja. Mamembala ake onse akhoza kukhala osasamala, pamene matenda aakulu a achibale awo amatha kukhala tanthauzo lokha la banja.
Dziwani malire
Pochotsa malingaliro a kulakwa, pamwamba pa zonse, ziyenera kuzindikira ndi kufotokozedwa ndi mawu. Koma izi zokha si zokwanira. Tiyenera kumvetsetsa kuti sitingakhale ndi udindo pa zovuta za wina. Pamene tidziwa kuti kudzimva kuti ndife olakwa komanso mphamvu zathu zopanda mphamvu pa munthu wina ndi mbali ziwiri za ndalama zomwezo, tidzatenga gawo loyamba la moyo wathu wauzimu, tidzamasula mphamvu kuti tithandize munthu wodwalayo. " Pofuna kudziletsa nokha, tiyenera choyamba kumangoganizira za mphamvu zathu zonse ndikufotokozera bwino malire a udindo wathu. Ndi kosavuta kunena ... Ziri zovuta kwambiri kupanga sitepe iyi, koma ndibwino kuti musayese nazo. "Sindinadziwe pomwepo kuti sindinakwiyitse ndi agogo anga, koma chifukwa chakuti adakhala munthu wosiyana ndi matendawa," anatero Svetlana wazaka 36. - Ndinamudziwa kwambiri, wokondwa komanso wamphamvu. Ndinamuthandiza kwenikweni. Zinanditengera nthaŵi yaitali kuti ndivomereze kutha kwake ndikusiya kunyoza ndekha. " Lingaliro la kulakwa lingathe kupha moyo, sikutilola kuti tikhale pafupi ndi wokondedwa wathu. Koma kodi akunena chiyani? Za iwo, bwanji osati za ifeeni? Ndipo pakubwera nthawi yomwe ndi nthawi yodziyankha nokha ku funso: chofunika kwambiri kwa ine - chiyanjano ndi munthu womvetsa chisoni kapena zovuta zanga? Mwa kuyankhula kwina: kodi ndimamukondadi munthu uyu? Maganizo opondereza angachititse kusiyana pakati pa wodwala ndi bwenzi lake kapena wachibale. Koma nthawi zambiri wodwala sayembekezera chinthu china chachilendo - amangosunga kusunganizana komwe kwakhala kulipo. Pankhaniyi, ndi zachisomo, za kufuna kumvetsera zomwe akuyembekezera. Wina akufuna kuyankhula za matenda awo, ena amakonda kukamba za zina. Pankhaniyi ndikwanira kuti muzimvetsetsa, mvetserani zomwe akuyembekezera. Nkofunika kuti musayese kuthetsa kamodzi kokha zomwe zili zabwino kwa wodwala, choipa, ndi momwe mungakhazikitse malire anu. Njira yabwino yodzifunira ndekha ndikusintha kuti muthetse ntchito zazing'ono za tsiku ndi tsiku. Pangani dongosolo pang'onopang'ono ndondomeko yothandizira kuchipatala, kufunsa madokotala, funsani mafunso, yang'anani njira yanu yothandizira wodwalayo. Sungani mphamvu yanu popanda kudzipereka nokha. Pamene moyo umakhala wokonzeka komanso kuti chizoloŵezi cha tsiku ndi tsiku chikuwonekera, zimakhala zosavuta. " Ndipo musataye thandizo la anthu ena. Vadim ali ndi zaka 47. 20 mwa iwo amasamalira mayi wofa ziwalo. "Tsopano, patapita zaka zambiri, ndikudziwa kuti moyo wanga ndi abambo anga zikanakhala zosiyana - sindikudziwa ngati zili bwino kapena zoipitsitsa, koma mosiyana ngati tikanakhoza kusamalira amayi anga ndi achibale ena. Kukhala pafupi ndi matenda, n'kovuta kumvetsa kumene malire ake amatha ndi kuyamba awo. Ndipo chofunikira kwambiri - pamene malire a udindo wathu amatha. Kuwatenga iwo ndi kunena nokha: pali moyo wake, ndipo pali wanga. Koma izi sizikutanthawuza kuti pafupi kudzakanidwa, kumangomvetsa kumvetsetsa komwe kumagwirizanitsa miyoyo yathu.
Tengani malipiro
Kuti tikhale ndi chiyanjano chabwino ndi munthu amene timamubweretsa wabwino, yemwe timamuganizira, nkofunika kuti zabwino izi zikhale dalitso kwa ife eni. Ndipo izi zikusonyeza kuti payenera kukhala mphoto kwa munthu amene amathandiza. Izi ndi zomwe zimathandiza kusunga ubale ndi munthu amene amamusamalira. Apo ayi, thandizo limakhala nsembe. Ndipo kudzimana nthawi zonse kumapangitsa chiwawa ndi kusagwirizana. Anthu ambiri sakudziwa kuti chaka chimodzi asanamwalire Alexander Pushkin anali kupita kumudzi kukasamalira amayi omwe anamwalira Hope Hannibal. Pambuyo pa imfa yake, analemba kuti "nthawi yochepayi ndinasangalala ndi chikondi cha mayi, yemwe sindinadziwe mpaka nthawi imeneyo ...". Asanamwalire, mayiyo anapempha mwanayo kuti akhululukidwe chifukwa chosakhala wokwanira kumukonda. Tikasankha kutsagana ndi wokondedwa pa njira yovutayi, ndikofunika kumvetsetsa kuti tikuganizira zofuna za nthawi yaitali. Uwu ndi ntchito yaikulu yomwe imatenga miyezi, ngakhale zaka. Pofuna kuti tisatengeke, kutengeka maganizo, kuthandiza wachibale kapena bwenzi, nkofunika kumvetsetsa zomwe zili zofunika kwa ife eni, timapeza kuchokera kukulankhulana ndi wodwalayo. Izi zinachitika m'banja la Alexei, komwe agogo aakazi, omwe anali ndi khansa yapakati, adagwirizanitsa achibale ake onse tsiku limodzi, kuwakakamiza kuiwala zomwe sankagwirizana nazo kale. Tinazindikira kuti chinthu chofunika kwambiri kwa ife ndikutipatsa miyezi yotsiriza ya moyo wake wokondwa. Ndipo kwa iye nthawizonse kunali kokha kokha kokha chimwemwe - kuti banja lonse linali limodzi.