Chotsani malamulo a chilango ndi ma bonasi
Choyamba, kuti mwanayo asiye kukhala osayenera pazifukwa zilizonse, nkofunika kuti akhale ndi ndandanda yeniyeni ya tsikulo Amayi ambiri nthawi zonse amadandaula ana awo, amawalola kudya, nthawi yomwe akufuna komanso zomwe akufuna, mofulumira mpaka atagona, kuyambira m'mawa amatha kudandaula ndipo samachotsa squatter . Izi ndi zolakwika kwenikweni. Mwanayo ayenera kudziwa nthawi ndi zomwe ayenera kuchita. Ali ndi zaka zoposa zinayi kapena zisanu, anawo alibe udindo waukulu. Koma makamaka, pulayimale kwambiri ayenera kuchita popanda whims: pali mankhwala othandiza (osati omwe amakonda), amagona nthawi inayake, kusonkhanitsa zidole zawo. Ngati mwanayo akukana kuchita izi, musamamve kulira kwake ndi misonzi. M'malo mwake, ngati akulira, ndi bwino kunyalanyaza amatsenga. Chowonadi ndi chakuti ndi makhalidwe otere ana amakopa chidwi cha makolo awo. Ngati amatsenga akudutsa nkhope zonse, mukhoza kumuopseza mwanayo ndikumufotokozera kuti ayenera kutontholetsa, mwinamwake iye adzalandira chinachake. Mwa njira, nthawi yomweyo ndi bwino kukumbukira cholakwika chimodzi chofunika kwambiri cha amayi ndi agogo aakazi. Nthawi zambiri amati: "Sungani masewero ndiyeno mutenge barolole ya chokoleti" ndi zina zotero. Koma mwanayo amayamba kumvetsa kuti pa pempho lililonse limene wapempha, ayenera kulandira mphotho. Maganizo oterowo sadzakhala abwino. Vitoga, ana ayamba kuchita ntchito zapakhomo chifukwa cha chiyambi chatsopano ndikupita kusukulu chifukwa amayi awo amawapatsa ndalama. Ngati simukufuna kuti khalidwe lanu likhale ndi vutoli, phunzirani momwe mungalimbikitsire khalidwe la mwana wanu mosiyana. Ngati sakuyankhapo pempho lanu, ndipo ngakhale kuti akuyamba kukuchitirani nkhanza, auzani mwana wanu kuti ngakhale sakuchita zomwe mumanena, iye adzakhalabe, osakhala ndi katototi. Kwa nthawi yoyamba, ana omwe amagwiritsidwa ntchito kuti makolo akwaniritse zofuna zawo nthawi zambiri satero chitani. Choncho, muyenera kusonyeza kukhazikika mtima ndi kuzizira kapena kutengera mwanayo zomwe amakonda. Ndipo simukusowa kufuula pa iye, kulumbira ndi kumenyana. Mungoletsa TVyo mwakachetechete ndi kunena kuti sangapeze zomwe akufuna mpaka atachita zomwe mukufuna. Ngati chiwonongeko chimayamba, pitirizani kukhala mwamtendere komanso mosasamala. Ngati mwanayo ali wovuta komanso wochita zoipa, muuzeni kuti phokoso lililonse limapereka chilango ndipo akukhala popanda katatola tsiku limodzi, komanso awiri. Ali ndi zaka zinayi, ana ali kale kukumbukira mwangwiro zinthu zonse ndipo amayamba kuphunzira chinyengo. Kotero, tsiku lotsatira, iye adzayandikira kvm ndi kumwetulira kokoma ndi nkhani zokhudza momwe amamukondera Amayi ndikupempha kuti aziphatikizapo katemera. Pankhaniyi, musataye mtima ndipo musasungunuke. Kumbukirani kuti adachita zoipa ndipo adalangidwa nthawi isanakwane. Inde, mwanayo ayamba kulira ndikupempha, ndikukukwiyirani. Cholinga chanu si kuswa. Ndipo ndi za mkwiyo, komanso zachisoni. Muyeneranso kumuuza momasuka kuti ngati sakukhazika mtima pansi panthawi yomweyi, mawu ake adzawonjezeka tsiku lina. Kwa ana ena khalidweli limagwira ntchito mwamsanga, wina amakhala wamtali nthawi yaitali, koma pomaliza mwanayo amakumbukira malamulo otsogolera bwino: tsatirani malangizo a amayi anu ndipo simudzalangidwa.
Kumbukirani kuti ngati mwanayo sanafuule ndipo sakwiya, sichiyenera kumenyedwa. Chilango chakuthupi ndi chinthu chotsiriza. Momwemonso, simungathe kugunda mwana wanu wamwamuna kapena wamkazi kwambiri kuti adzakumbukire ndipo mantha adawoneka, ndipo monga mukudziwa, maphunziro ochokera ku mantha amachititsa kuti ana akule ndikuyamba kusewera makolo asanakhale ndi zowerengera, ndi kumbuyo , zomwe akufuna. Choncho, yesetsani kukhala ndi chipiriro kuti mulimbikitse mwanayo, koma mwanjira yomwe amamvetsetsa: khalidwe labwino ndilo chitsimikiziro chakuti mayiyo adzakwaniritsira chikhumbo chake. Koma choipa ndicho chifukwa chachikulu cha zofooka zonse.
Kuteteza kwa agogo aakazi
M'mabanja ambiri, kumene makolo ang'ono amakhala ndi agogo ndi agogo aakazi, ndi abwenzi achikondi omwe amapanga ana. Mwa ichi palibe chodabwitsa, chifukwa ndi zidzukulu zawo zomwe amawakonda. Kuwonjezera apo, agogo aakazi amakhala ndi zochitika zambiri pamoyo wawo, motero amakhala otsimikiza kuti amadziwa bwino momwe angalerere ana. Pamapeto pake, mwanayo amadziwa kuti ngati mayi ndi bambo ali ndi chinachake choletsedwa, nthawi zonse muthamangira kwa agogo anu ndi kudandaula. Ndipo iye, osati zokhazo zomwe zidzathetse, adzalimbikitsabe makolo chifukwa chakuti alibe mtima.
Ngati amayi anu kapena apongozi anu asankha khalidwe lotereli, ndi bwino kuyankhula naye. Chowonadi chiri chakuti kutsutsa kobwerezabwereza kwa makolo ake kumakhala kovulaza kwambiri kwa mwanayo. Amasankha kuti khalidwe lawo labwino ndi lolakwika, ndipo amangosiya kuika maganizo pa nkhani ya narodnik. Zoonadi, kulankhula ndi agogo ake sizingakhale zosavuta, popeza akudziwa kuti ali ndi ufulu. Choncho musamutsutsane naye, lumbirani ndi kufuula. Yesetsani kufotokoza kwa iye ndi zitsanzo, zomwe zimatsogolera ku caprice. Mwachitsanzo, mwana safuna kugona. Mayi anga analetsa kujambula zojambulajambula, ndipo agogo ake aamuna, omwe adamuyendetsa sazoo, anayamba kulira, anathetsa. Koma ndiye kuti zochitika zomwezo zimachitika, pomwe agogo amayamba kulumbira ndi kulanga mwanayo. Panthawiyi, mumumbutseni kuti zotsatira za zotsatirazi ndi khalidwe lake. Inde, simuyenera kuyembekezera kuti agogo aakazi adzalandira pomwepo. Komabe, ngati ndizowonjezereka, koma osati mwadala komanso mosadandaula kuti afotokoze zolakwitsa zake, pamapeto pake adzamvetsetsa ndi kusiya pang'ono kumenyana ndi mwanayo.
Nenani "ayi" chifukwa chake "ndizochepa"
Ndipo kulakwitsa kwakukulu kotsiriza kwa maphunziro ndi chikondi cha makolo kulemba chirichonse chomwe "ali wamng'ono". Inde, mwanayo ndi mwana, choncho palibe yemwe amamukakamiza kukoka matumba m'zaka zisanu ndikugwira ntchito yonse kuzungulira mnyumbamo. Koma ngati ndizochepa, sizikutanthauza kuti muyenera kumchitira. Nthawi zonse mwana amayenera kuchita zinthu zofanana ndi msinkhu wake. Makamaka ngati mukudziwa kuti angathe kuchita yekha, ndiye kuti ndi waulesi. Mwachitsanzo, zaka zinayi nthawi zonse mwana ayenera kutenga ziwiya kuti azimira, asambe ndi kusamba mano, zovala, kuyeretsa zidole zawo. Ngati sachita chinachake, musazilembere pa msinkhu wanu. Mwana wanu ndi waulesi ndipo akuyembekezera kuti mum'chitire zonse. Ndipo ngati ikhala pa nthawi, ndiye kuti idzapitirira. Kenaka makolo amawathetsa mavutowa ndi kulemba nyimbozo, kujambula zithunzi ndi kusoka, ndipo anawo amakhala pansi ndi manja ndi kubwereza: "Sindingathe, ndichitireni ine." Choncho ngati simukufuna kukhala wamkulu waulesi komanso wodziwa zambiri, phunzirani kukhala okhwima komanso oyenerera Onetsetsani mwayi wa mwana wanu. Ndiyeno mwana wanu amakula kuti akhale munthu wanzeru, wodalirika komanso wamphamvu.