Palibe malamulo omwe makolo ayenera kuphunzira ponena za kulera ana, chifukwa sangakhale oyenerera pazochitika zonse za moyo ndi zina zilizonse, malamulo amenewa salipo. Ana onse ali osiyana ndipo mwana aliyense ndiyekha, kuyambira pakuwonekera kukhala khalidwe. Komabe, palinso zinthu zomwe siziyenera kugwiritsidwa ntchito pokweza mwana aliyense. Tsopano tizakambirana zomwe makolo sangathe kuchita.
Kotero, ndi zinthu ziti zomwe ziyenera kupeĊµedwa pamene mukukweza zinyenyeswazi:
Musanyoze mwana wanu
Nthawi zina, popanda kuzindikira, osati cholinga, tinganene kwa mwanayo kuti: "Simungaziganizirepo? Nchifukwa chiyani iwe uli ndi mutu paphewa? "Ndipo zonsezo ziripo. Ndipo nthawi iliyonse pamene mwana amamva zinthu zoterezi, amatha kugwa. Chifukwa chake, makolo, kumbukirani kuti zinthu ngati zimenezi sizikufunikira kunena chilichonse.
Musamuopseze mwana
Amayi ndi abambo ambiri amauza mwanayo kuti: "Ngati mwakhalanso mpando wachifumu, ine ..." kapena "Kapena mungachite tsopano, zomwe ndakuuzani kapena kwa ine ndekha!". Kumbukirani kuti nthawi zonse mwana akamva, ndi bwino kuti sakukuchitirani kapena kukwaniritsa zopempha zanu. Inuyo mumaphunzitsa mwana wanu kuti azikuopani ndi kukudani. Palibe vuto lomwe lingakhale lothandiza kwa inu, chifukwa khalidwe la mwana limangowonjezereka.
Musati mufunse malonjezo
Kawirikawiri, ngakhale pamsewu kapena m'mafilimu, mumatha kuona momwe mwanayo angachitire chinachake, ndipo amayi anga akuti: "Tsopano, panthawi imodzimodzi, ndilonjezeni ine kuti simudzatero konse," pamene mwanayo akulonjeza. Komabe, pambuyo pa theka la ora mwanayo akubwereza zomwe analonjeza kuti sadzachita. Makolo amakhumudwa ndipo amakhumudwa, chirombochi chinalonjezedwa. Kumbukirani kuti lonjezoli liri ngati phokoso lopanda pake, iye sadziwa chomwe chiri. Pambuyo pake, lonjezoli limagwirizananso ndi tsogolo, ndipo ana amakhala kokha lero ndi mphindi ino, yomwe ikuchitika panthawi ino. Ngati mwana wanu ali wochenjera komanso wovuta, ndiye kuti malonjezano anu adzakhala ndi chilakolako chodzimvera mwa iye, ndipo ngati iyeyo ndi osiyana kwambiri ndi malingaliro, ndiye kuti mudzasokonezeka nokha. Ndipotu, aliyense amadziwa kuti mungathe kunena chilichonse, koma mutero ...
Musamusamalire mwanayo molimbika kwambiri
Ngati mutapambana mwanayo, ndiye kuti patapita nthawi, mum'phunzitseni kuti iyeyo ndi malo opanda kanthu ndipo sangathe kuchita chilichonse popanda thandizo lanu. Amayi ndi abambo ambiri samakhulupirira kuti mwanayo akhoza kuchita zinthu zambiri payekha, osaderedwa. Chigamulo chanu chikhale mawu akuti: "Musamuchitire mwana zomwe angathe kuchita yekha".
Musamufunse mwana kuti amvere mwamsanga
Tangoganizani kuti mwamuna wanu akuti: "Wokondedwa wanga, ukuchita chiyani kumeneko? Tiyeni tisiyeni zonse ndikupangira khofi! "Mwinamwake, iwo sangasangalale ndi mawu oyenera. Momwemo, mwanayo sakonda pamene mukufuna kuti akwaniritse pempho lanu mwamsanga, kusiya bizinesi yake yonse, popanda kuchedwa kwachiwiri.
Musamupatse mwana wanu
Tsopano tikukamba za kuloledwa. Ana amakhala ovuta kwambiri, choncho nthawi yomweyo amamva kuti makolo awo ndi ovuta kwambiri, koma amaopa kukhala olimba. Nthawi zina ana amafika pamalire a ololedwa, ndipo makolo samamvetsera kapena amaopa kukana mwana wawo. Momwemo, mumamuuza mwanayo kuti pali malamulo ena onse, kotero muyenera kuyesa pang'ono, kuti chirichonse chikhale chomwe akufuna.
Khalani osasinthasintha
Mwachitsanzo, Loweruka mumakhala ndi maganizo abwino ndipo mumalola mwanayo kuchita zonse zomwe akuletsedwa kapena zinthu zinazake. Koma Lachiwiri, pamene ayamba kuchita zomwe munamulola Loweruka, mumamukwiyitsa ndikumuuza kuti simungachite izi. Pano, dzichekeni nokha m'malo a zinyenyeswazi. Kodi mungaphunzire bwanji kuyendetsa galimoto, ngati Lachitatu ndi Lachinayi pa kuwala kofiira simungathe, koma masiku ena mungathe?
Kumbukirani kuti ana si achikulire, choncho amafunikira zosankha ndi zochita zofanana.
Musati mufune kuchokera kwa mwana wamng'ono yemwe sagwirizana ndi msinkhu wake
Musaganizire kuchokera kwa mwana wake wa zaka ziwiri, kuti amamvera monga zaka zisanu, chifukwa mwa njirayi mungathe kukhala naye mwachinyengo osati Xsebe, osati khalidwe labwino.
Sikoyenera kufunsa mwana kuti akhale ndi khalidwe labwino, lomwe sangakwanitse, chifukwa izi zidzakhala ndi zotsatira zoipa pa chitukuko cha kudzizindikira kwake.
Musalankhule zambiri za makhalidwe abwino.
Ife tsiku ndi tsiku timauza mwana wathu mawu chikwi chodzudzula. Ngati mungotenga ndi kulemba mawu onse omwe mwanayo amamva tsiku ndikuwauza kuti amvetsere makolo awo, mutha kunena kuti peresenti imodzi idzadabwitsa. Kodi simukuwuza ana anu chiyani? Kukhumudwa, nkhani zina, nkhani za makhalidwe, kunyoza, kuopseza ... Mwanayo "amangotulutsa" pansi pa kutuluka kwa mawu ndi mphamvu zake. Iyi ndi njira yokha yomwe angadziwonetsere yekha, motero mwamsanga amaphunzira motere. Chifukwa mwana sangathe kuzimitsa, amayamba kumverera, chifukwa chake mwanayo amayamba kudzidalira.
Musatenge mwanayo kuti akhalebe mwana
Tangoganizani kwa mphindi kuti mwakhala ndi chitsanzo chabwino kwambiri cha mwana: Amalemekeza anthu achikulire komanso okalamba, osapanduka, amatha kuyang'aniridwa paliponse, amakhala chete komanso amakhala chete, amachita zonse zomwe mumamufunsa. Iye amachotsedwa kumverera kulikonse kolakwika - iye ndi waukhondo, wachikumbumtima, woona mtima. Mwinamwake mumkhalidwe woterewu timayanjana ndi anthu achikulire ochepa? Wongoganizira zamaganizo aliyense adzakuuzani kuti mwana "wabwino" sangakhale wosangalala. Chifukwa chakuti "Ine" ndinabisala pansi pa chipolopolo, koma mkati mwanu mwasintha ndipo mumamangapo mavuto aakulu.