Amayi ndi apongozi anu anakumana nanu kuchokera kuchipatala atanyamula maluwa, anakhudzidwa ndi mwana wanu ndipo ... sanawonongeke. Kamodzi pa sabata kapena awiri iwo amaitanira, amakhala ndi chidwi ndi momwe zinthu ziliri ndi achinyamata. Iwo akhoza ngakhale kubwera kudzacheza ndi "kuyenda mwana" (osati nthawi zambiri komanso pambuyo polimbikitsidwa kwa nthawi yaitali). Ndipo uwu ndi malire. Sitikudzikweza pamwamba pa chifuwa cha mwanayo, kapena nthano ndi nthabwala ku khitchini pofuna kuyesa mwanayo, kapena kumenyana ndi nyimbo pamene mano akudulidwa. Kodi agogo samakonda mwana ?! Ndipo ngati mukufuna, ndiye bwanji simuthamangira kukachezera kawirikawiri?
Izi ziyenera kuyamba ndi mfundo yakuti mosiyana ndi udindo wa amayi, omwe angathe kukonzedweratu mukakonzekera udindo wa agogo, nthawi zina, sungakonzedwe ndi kugwera kwa mkazi ngati chisanu pamutu pake, izi siziri kuyembekezera. Mkazi amakhala agogo aakazi osakhala ndi ufulu wake wosankha komanso motsutsana naye. Pochita zoterezi, amai nthawi zambiri amataya ndipo amachita zinthu mosiyana ndizozoloŵera, koma kodi amatsutsidwa chifukwa cha izi? Tiyeni tiyesetse kuganizira zosiyana za khalidwe "laling'ono" la agogo aakazi ndikuyesera kumvetsetsa momwe angakhalire ndi amayi aang'ono?Chosankha chimodzi: Wotanganidwa ndi agogo aakazi
Ntchito wakhala yakhalapo mpaka lero lino tanthauzo la moyo wa amayi anu kapena apongozi anu. Agogo aakazi, omwe nthawi zonse amakhala otanganidwa kuntchito kapena ali ndi zofuna zawo zambiri, zokopa ndi zosangalatsa, mosakayikira amathandiza makolo atsopano popanda chidwi ndi chikhumbo chofuna. Angapereke malangizo angapo okhudza kusamalira ndi kulera mwana pa foni kapena kutumiza thumba ndi zinthu zatsopano kapena zidole za mwanayo, koma nkutheka kuti simungakhale mlendo wamuyaya m'nyumba mwako ndipo adzakufulumizitsani payitanidwe yoyamba. Kodi mumamva kuti akudzipatulira kuyankhulana ndi mwanayo ndipo amachita zambiri chifukwa cha ntchito ndipo chifukwa ndi "chofunikira", makamaka chifukwa amangofuna kusokoneza komanso kugwirizana ndi mdzukulu wake? Musathamangire kumapeto. Mwinamwake, iye akungowopa kuti mwana wanu akhoza kumusintha iye wokhazikitsidwa kale ndi kukhazikitsidwa moyo ndi kumubweretsa mavuto aakulu ndi mavuto. Choncho, amayesetsa kukhala ndi zochitika zina, ndipo mdzukulu wake kapena mdzukulu wake amatsatira mfundo zomwe zatsala pang'ono kuchitika.
Ndiyenera kuchita chiyani? Ndikoyenera kugwirizanitsa ndi izi ndipo osabisala agogo a zoipa. Pangani bwino kuti azikhala ndi mwanayo, ngakhale ngati palibe, koma ndi inu. Yesetsani kumuchezera nthawi zambiri ndikubweretsa mdzukulu wanu (pokonza zochitika izi pasadakhale, ndithudi). Mulole iye aone kuti mwanayo amabweretsa chisangalalo chokha, ndipo chonsecho sichimasintha moyo wake poipa. Patapita nthawi, mdzukulu adzakhala gawo lofunika kwambiri pa moyo wake, ndipo kulankhulana kumabweretsa chimwemwe.
Njira yachiwiri: Agogo aakazi
Nthawi zambiri zimachitika kuti kubadwa kwa mwana kumapeza agogo amtsogolo osadziwa. Iye sakudziwa momwe angakhalire, choti achite, angayambe kukayikira, ndipo ngati ali wokonzeka kukhala agogo nkomwe, koma chofunika kwambiri - mwadzidzidzi amayamba kumverera mwamphamvu kwambiri msinkhu wa ukalamba ndipo iye sali wamng'ono. Musadabwe ngati mwadzidzidzi amadzibisa kuti amadzibisa kwa anzako, abwenzi kapena ogwira naye ntchito chifukwa chakuti mdzukulu wake wabadwa ndipo adakhala agogo aakazi atsopano. Mwachidule, iye akufuna kuti akhalebe wamng'ono monga kale, komanso kuti asadzitchule yekha kuti "agogo", omwe amachititsa kuti mtsikanayo apite kwa mayi wachikulire pamaso pa anthu omwe amamuzungulira. Musati mudandaule pa izo, sizidziwikabe momwe mumakhalira mukakhala pamalo ake. Mupatseni nthawi kuti adziwone ntchitoyi, ayenera kumvetsa ndikuzindikira mfundoyi. Ndipotu, ana ake akhala atakula kale, adzukulu adayamba kubadwa, zomwe zikutanthauza kuti iyeyo anakula, ndipo izi zimafunikira, monga akunena, "kukumba", kuzindikira ndi kuzindikira.
Ndiyenera kuchita chiyani? Njira yabwino yobweretsera agogo ndi agogo anu ndikumusiya mwana wanu yekha nthawi ndi nthawi. Mwinamwake pamene ali okha pamodzi ndipo palibe amene angawasokoneze, amamupweteketsa mwanayo, adzakumbukira kuti nthawi ina amangochita chidutswa chochepa m'manja mwake ndikuganiza kuti zidzukulu zake zikadzabadwanso ndikukhala ndi agogo atsopano, moyo sutha, ndipo m'njira zambiri ngakhale zochitika zatsopano ndi zokhutira zimayamba.
Njira itatu: Agogo osadziwa zambiri
Mayi anu kapena apongozi anu angakhale osadziwa momwe mungachitire mwana wanu wakhanda. Osati m'lingaliro lenileni, ndithudi. Mwinamwake nthawi ina, pamene anali mayi wamng'ono, amaika chisamaliro chonse cha mwana wake pamapewa a agogo aakazi, ndipo tsopano akuopa kutenga mwanayo m'manja mwake, ngati nthawi yoyamba. Koma iyi ndi nkhani yosavuta komanso yosamalidwa bwino.
Ndiyenera kuchita chiyani? Ngati ndizo zopanda nzeru za agogo aakazi omwe angopangidwa kumene, yesetsani kumuthandiza kuthetsa mantha ake. Chitanipo kanthu, muimbireni iye kuti amwe tiyi ndi kusiya mwanayo (koma kwa kanthaŵi kochepa!) Ndi agogo ake aakazi okha. Mungathe, mwachitsanzo, funsani mwamuna kapena mtsikana wanu omwe amakuitanani paulendo wake, ndipo mupite kwa mphindi 20-30 pa nkhani yofulumira (yomwe imanena kuti mnzanu wagula kwa ana anu ajambula kapena chidole - muyenera kuchikweza kapena kuwona m'sitolo ndondomeko yabwinoyo kapena mkaka wamakaka, umene mwana wanu akukuchenjezani inu, - ndikofunikira kuti muthamange kukagula). Mukafika kunyumba, mukhoza kupeza Agogo aang'ono ... akudandaula. Koma iyi ndi nthawi yoyamba. Pambuyo pa maulendo atatu kapena anai (ndipo nthawi ingachepetse pang'onopang'ono kufika ola limodzi ndi theka), mukhoza kuyembekezera zotsatira zoyambirira. Pasanapite nthawi, agogo amayamba kukupatsani thandizo.
Kulimbana ndi mavuto otsogolera agogo aakazi kukambirana ndi zidzukulu, chirichonse chidzapindula ndi izi. Mudzakhala ndi nthawi yambiri, yomwe mungathe kudzipangira nokha. Mwanayo adzakhala ndi pafupi ndi wokondedwa amene mungamukhulupirire. Agogo aakazi akulankhulana ndi zidzukulu zawo adzalandira mphoto ya mphamvu ndipo maso awo adzataya zaka zingapo.