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Kodi atsikana akuganiza chiyani akauzidwa za "banja loipa"? Mosakayikira si Chikatilo, osati chidakwa koma osati wachisoni wamng'ono, akuzunza kotov. Pamaso mwao, nthawi zonse mumakhala munthu wodabwitsa, wamphamvu, wodandaula komanso wokhoza kumverera, zomwe zimayambitsa moyo wosalamulirika ndipo amadziwika ndi amayi. Mnyamata wotere ayenera kukhala ndi chifukwa cha khalidweli. Mwinamwake, iye ali ndi vuto lalikulu lakumverera lomwe likugwirizana ndi chikondi kapena banja limene lasweka mnyamata. Mu moyo wa "woipa" munthu ayenera kukhala munthu wabwino yemwe amadziwa kukonda komanso chifukwa cha okondedwa ake ayenera kusintha, kusonyeza momwe iye alili kwenikweni. Inde, ndi "anthu oipa" omwe nthawi zambiri timawona pazithunzi. Pano pali olemba okha omwe amawatsimikizira, akuyang'ana omvera achikazi. Ndipo chimachitika ndi chiyani pamoyo weniweni?
Munthu yemwe amachita zinthu mofananamo, mwachitsanzo, amachitira ena mwansanje, amadzilola yekha, amatha kupeza malo m'moyo, nthawi zonse amakhala ndi zovuta zambiri, zomwe amayesa kuzichotsera ena. Ndicho chifukwa chake achinyamata awa amachita, amanyodola, akhoza kukhumudwitsa ndi kuchititsa manyazi. Komanso, amasankha khalidweli mosamala kwambiri, chifukwa njirayi ndi yosavuta. Nchifukwa chiyani mukugwira ntchito nadsuboy, kusintha, kukwaniritsa chinachake mu moyo, ngati mutha kudziyesa nokha pakati pa omwe ali ofooka, ocheperapo komanso okoma mtima? Munthu wotere sadzasintha kwabwino chifukwa cha mkazi wake wokondedwa. Khalidwe limeneli ndiwonetseredwa momveka bwino kwa mantha ndi mantha ake. Mnyamatayo akungowopa kuti adzivomereze yekha kuti sali wokonzeka, kuti amadandaula nthawi zonse chifukwa cha malingaliro a ena ndipo samadziimira yekha. Kotero, ngati iye awona kuti mkazi amamukonda, ndiye kuti iye angagwiritse ntchito mwayi wake, komanso mopanda pake.
"Oipa" samaganiza konse za mmene ena amamvera, osati chifukwa cha zovuta zawo. Iwo samangoyang'ana chirichonse chozungulira, kupatula pa malingaliro awo amwini okha ndi kukhutira kwawo. Ngati mkazi wokongola ali pafupi ndi munthu woteroyo, adzawonetsa kwa aliyense ngati chidole, nanena kuti ali ndi mwayi, chifukwa ndi wokongola, ndiye anthu opusa amafunika kusamalidwa nthawi zonse. Ndipo iye anachita chizindikiro chachikulu chotero ndipo anachichotsa pansi pa phiko lake.
Munthu wotero sangalole kuti mkazi akhale wabwino kuposa iyeyo. Ndipo sangakhululukidwe konse, chifukwa amalepheretsa ulemu wake wamwamuna, umene kwenikweni sungathe. Koma adzalongosola zolakwika zake zonse ndikuganiza kuti mayiyo akuyenera kukhululukira chirichonse. Ndipo kuchita zimenezi kumaphatikizapo kumenya, kumenyana, uchidakwa, ndi zina zotero. Choncho, ngati muwona kuti munthuyo ndi "woyipa", musakhale ndi ziyembekezo ndikukhulupilira m'buku ndi zithunzi zotsalira. Munthu yemwe ali ndi zabwino mu moyo wake sangalole kuti azikhumudwitsa ena, kunyalanyaza, kungovulaza. Iye akhoza kukhala wosungulumwa, iye akhoza kukwiya pamene akukwera mu malo ake, koma sadzazunza ena ma radimas. Choncho, munthu sayenera kusokoneza anyamata "oipa" omwe ali osasunthika komanso otsekedwa. Mnyamata "woipa", mobwerezabwereza, nthawi zonse amayesa kupambana, chifukwa mumtima mwake ali wamantha kwambiri komanso wolemekezeka, koma samavomereza.
Wopunduka wabwino
Ndipo tsopano tiyeni tiyankhule za momwe anyamata achitsikana amaimira mnyamata wabwino. Zithunzi ziwiri zosiyana zikhoza kuwoneka pamutu wa oimira akazi achichepere. Yoyamba ndi nerd m'magalasi omwe sangathe kuchita zovuta, samayesa kumwa, amakhala ndi makolo ake, amawamvera ndipo amavala jekete la tweed. Iye ndi wolondola komanso wolemekezeka, amaganiza za kupsompsona pokhapokha atadzuka, sakusangalala, osangalatsa, osangalatsa komanso ochenjera, nthawi zonse amakumbutsa aliyense. Mtundu wachiwiri wa mnyamata wabwino ndi wosiyana kwambiri ndi woyamba. Iye ndi mnyamata wachikulire wokongola, wanzeru ndi wamphamvu, yemwe nthawi zonse amathamangira kuthandiza aliyense mosasankha. Amachita zonse kwa wokondedwa wake, amatenga nyenyezi kuchokera kumwamba ndikuiwala. Iye ndi mnyamata womvetsa, wachifundo, woona mtima, wodzipereka. Ndipotu, chifaniziro choyamba kapena chachiwiri sichinakhudze ndi zenizeni. Poyamba, munthu wonyansa komanso wolemekezeka akufotokozedwa, yemwe wakula, komwe makolo amawopsyeza ana awo poika mafelemu aakulu kwambiri. Ndipo chifaniziro chachiwiri kawirikawiri n'chosatheka, chifukwa munthu aliyense wamoyo ali ndi chikhalidwe chake ndi zochitika zake.
Mwamuna wabwino, izi, poyamba, ndi munthu amene amatsatira chikumbumtima ndi chiweruzo. Amalemekeza anthu omwe ali naye ndipo amachitira akazi ngati akazi, ngati chinthu chogonana ndi kunyozedwa. Mnyamata "wabwino" sangalole kuti achite manyazi, kunyoza ndi kukambirana za kugonana kwabwino. Mnyamata uyu samathamanga kuti apulumutse aliyense ndi nthawi zonse, koma ngati aona zosalungama, ndiye kuti, sangathe kudutsa. Amuna amenewa akhoza kudalirika, chifukwa sakuyesera kuti agwiritse ntchito munthu wina ndikukakamiza anthu kuti azisankha zoyenera kudzera mwa nkhanza. Anyamatawa akhoza kukhala ndi maofesi, koma amakumana nawo okha, ndipo samadzipangira dzina chifukwa cha manyazi ena. Mnyamata wabwino akhoza ndi kumwa ndi kulumbira. Panthawi imodzimodziyo, zingakhale zachikondi kwambiri kuti zitheke kumalo omwe mumawakonda kwambiri. Koma chirichonse chimene munthuyu ali, choyamba, nthawi zonse amasamala kuti okondedwa ake safunikira chilichonse. Anthu abwino samasiyana nthawi zonse ndi makhalidwe abwino, mawonekedwe okongola, malingaliro okhwima. Mnyamata "wabwino" akhoza kukhala wojambula wachichepere komanso wolemba mapulogalamu. Mabanja oterewa sagwirizana ndi zikhalidwe zakunja komanso kuwongolera kwa malingaliro, koma ndi chikhumbo cha chilungamo, kuthekera kulemekeza ndi kuthandizira anthu m'nthaŵi zovuta, koma popanda kuwonetsa zochita zawo ndi kulingalira mozama pazonse zomwe zikuchitika pozungulira. Choncho, mukasankha pakati pa "chabwino" ndi "wabwino" mnyamata, ganizirani momwe mwadziwira bwino, ndipo ngati mukulakwitsa, mukusokoneza ndikusintha maganizo.