Atsikana ena akuganiza za funsoli ndipo, mwina, ndinu mmodzi wa iwo. Ndiye tiyeni tiyankhule za momwe mukuyenerera kuchoka mu mkhalidwewu, ndikupweteka kwambiri kwa iwo akuzungulira.
Choyamba, tiyeni tione chifukwa chake mukukumana ndi anyamata awiri, ndipo pambuyo pake tidzayesera kuyankha choti tichite ngati mukakumana ndi anyamata awiri.
Kotero, mwinamwake chowonadi ndi chakuti pamene mudakondana ndi mnyamata, koma chikondi chinadutsa ndipo munakumana ndi wina. Tsopano mukumvera chisoni chikondi chanu chotaika ndipo simungakhoze kusiya icho kuti musayambitse kupweteka. Koma, ndithudi, mwakhala mukulakalaka kukhala ndi munthu watsopano, mwa yemwe mumamuwona chikondi changwiro.
Mmenemo, onse atatu akuvutika. Iwe_chifukwa iwe ukuvutika chifukwa cha chisoni. Mnyamata wanu, yemwe simukumukonda, akumvabe, akumva, ndipo ali ndi nsanje chifukwa cha kusadziwa kwake. Ndipo chikondi chako chatsopano sichivomereza kuti akuyenera kukugawana ndi mwamuna yemwe simumasowa.
Momwemonso, mukufunikabe kuchotsa maubwenzi omwe adzipweteka okha. Inde, palibe amene akunena kuti zidzakhala zophweka, koma palibe njira ina iliyonse yotulukira. Muyenera kukumbukira kuti pamene mumakoka kwambiri, zimakhala zovuta kuti mutayike anyamata onse, chifukwa zonsezi sizingatheke kukhala pachibwenzi chotero ndi bodza losatha. Ndikofunika kulankhula kamodzi, kufotokoza zonse ndikumasula munthu wakale. Ngakhale atamupempha kuti amupatse mwayi ndikulonjeza kuti asinthe chilichonse, musagwirizane nacho chifukwa cha chisoni. Zonsezi, mutha kuzigawa, koma zidzakhala zowawa kwambiri komanso zowawa kwambiri.
Palinso milandu pamene mnyamata samalola kupita, kuopseza ndi kuopseza. Pankhaniyi, muyenera kupeza mphamvu ndikupempha thandizo. Mukhoza kumuteteza ku chikondi chanu chatsopano, abwenzi, achibale, ndipo, mwinamwake, mabungwe omvera malamulo. Zinthu ngati zimenezi zingakhale zoopsa pa thanzi lanu ndi moyo wanu. Choncho musazengereze kulankhulana ndi munthu wina kuti akuthandizeni. Nthawi zonse kumbukirani kuti anthu apamtima adzakuthandizani ndikukuthandizani pazochitika zilizonse.
Palinso zina zomwe atsikana amatha kunena pakati pa moto. Mwachitsanzo, zikhoza kuchitika kuti kukhala paubwenzi ndi mnyamata, mayi, mwadzidzidzi amayamba kukonda wina. Komabe, sanganene kuti adaleka kukonda chibwenzi chake. Amamukondabe, amayamikira ndipo sakufuna kusiya. Koma kodi malingaliro atsopanowa amatanthawuza chiyani, ndipo, chofunikira kwambiri, ndiwotani ndi iwo?
Ngati muli mumkhalidwe umenewu, ndiye kuti mwangokhala mulibe chiyanjano ndi mnyamata. Ngati mwakumana kale kale, chilakolako choyambacho chimatha, mumadziwana monga momwe mumadzikondera nokha ndipo chiyanjano chimayamba kuoneka ngati chizoloŵezi. Zili choncho, nthawi zambiri, atsikana amamvetsera kwa anyamata ena omwe amamatira ku kuwala kwawo ndi kusadziŵika. Ngati izi zakhala zikuchitika mmoyo wanu, ganizirani ngati mwakonzeka kupereka chiyanjano cha nthawi yaitali chifukwa cha chikondi chokhalitsa. Kawirikawiri, anyamatawa amathamanga mofulumira, ndipo mkaziyo akufuna kubwerera, kwa munthu yemwe ali chete ndi womasuka ndi zomwe mungadalire. Koma zikhoza kuchitika kuti mnyamata wanu amadziwa za chiwembu, ndipo mudzatayika kwamuyaya. Ganizirani zomwe zikukuchitikirani, mvetserani kumverera kwanu. Mwinamwake muyenera kuyesa kusintha chinachake mu ubale wanu ndi kubweretsa mitundu yambiri kumoyo. Lankhulani ndi chibwenzi chanu, kambiranani za vutoli (sindikutanthauza chiyanjano chanu ndi mnyamata wina, koma chizoloŵezi chanu muwiri). Fotokozani zomwe mukufuna ndipo yesetsani kuthetsa vutoli pamodzi. Ngati mnyamata amakukondani, nthawi zonse amayesa kumvetsetsa ndi kuthandizira. Mwina amaonanso zolakwitsa zina. Mvetserani kwa izo ndipo onani momwe mungatulukemo. Kumbukirani kuti chikondi chenicheni chimatha kupambana chirichonse. Choncho, yesetsani kusaiwala za izi ndi kulemekeza maganizo ndi zilakolako za chibwenzi chanu. Ndipo ndi mnyamata yemwe angakupatseni mapepala awa, ndibwino kuti nthawi yomweyo muwononge ubwenzi wanu. Fotokozani zomwe zimamuchitikira komanso kuyembekezera kumvetsetsa. Chinthu chachikulu ndichokuti alibe nthawi yoti agwirizane. Chowonadi ndi chakuti lingaliro lachinyengo lidzamupusitsa ndipo silidzamulola iye kuti azikhala mwachizolowezi ndi kumanga maubwenzi kwa nthawi yaitali. Choncho, yesetsani kusiya mauthenga onse ndikumulola kukhala moyo wake. Chinthu chachikulu ndi chakuti sizitanthauza kuti mnyamata akhoza kukhala woipa kwambiri yemwe angasokoneze moyo wako kuti akwaniritse cholinga. Zikatero, ndibwino kuti mwamsanga muuze chibwenzi chanu ndikuyembekeza kuti akhululukidwe. Palibe njira ina yomwe mungathere.
Mzimayi akakhala ndi chibwenzi ndi achinyamata awiri, ndizochepa kwambiri komanso zimapweteka maphwando onse. Posakhalitsa, choonadi chimabwera nthawi zonse, ndiyeno timayamba kutayika okondedwa athu. Ndicho chifukwa chake, ngati mutadzifunsa nokha kuti muchite chiyani mukakumana ndi anyamata awiri, ganizirani kufunika kwa ubale woterewu. Mwina simukukonda wina kapena wina, ndipo mumayesa kubwezera munthu wina? Pankhaniyi, kumvetsetsani kuti njira iyi siigwira ntchito. Ndizoti palibe aliyense wa iwo amene amakutsatirani. Siwo mapeto anu. Ndipo kuti mukhale osangalala, nkofunika kukomana ndi mnyamata wotero amene adzakutsutseni mu chilichonse. Ngati ali pafupi, simukufunafuna wina kumbali kuti mudzaze mipata. Pafupi ndi iye yekha, msungwana aliyense amamva kukhala wodekha ndi womasuka. Angathe kukhala wachilengedwe komanso wokondwa. Choncho musatenge ndalamazo. Chimwemwe mu ubale chingangobweretsa ubwino. Musaiwale za izo ndipo zonse zidzakhala zabwino m'moyo wanu.