Kukonda mwamuna, kumusangalatsa komanso kumadzikonda yekha sikovuta ngati kumawonekera poyamba. Ndi nkhani ina yosunga wokondedwa, kukhala iye yekhayo pafupi ndi zomwe akufuna kuchita moyo wake wonse. Ndipo vuto lalikulu pa njira yopita ku mgwirizanowu "wautali ndi wokondwa" ndi mantha a kugonana kwakukulu pakati pa amuna ambiri amakono. Koma palinso misampha ina yomwe ingasweke mosavuta bwato lanu m'nyanja ya Chikondi. Za momwe mungasunge munthu ndi kukhala naye moyo wautali ndi wokondwa palimodzi, ndipo apitirira patsogolo.
Ndipo ngati pali kalonga: kumvetsetsa ngati kuli koyenera kusunga mwamuna
Choyamba, tiyeni tifotokoze ndi inu yemwe muyenera kukhala pafupi ndi inu mukusowa, ndipo ndi bwino kuti nthawi yomweyo asiyeni, popanda kuwononga nthawi yamtengo wapatali ndi mphamvu. Kuti tichite zimenezi, gwiritsani ntchito malamulo atatu osavuta.
Lamulo nambala 1: Musathamangire!
Si chinsinsi kuti mkazi wachikondi amamukonda wokondedwa wake. Pansi pa zovuta za amuna komanso masitolo otentha, tonsefe timataya mitu yathu, ndipo pambali yathu sitidziwa zofooka zathu. Koma iye sanali wabwino ndipo posachedwa kwambiri, chinachake chomwe chinkawoneka chowoneka ndi chokongola chikanakhala chokhumudwitsa kwenikweni. Choncho yesetsani kukonzekera tsogolo lanu ndi mwamuna musanathe miyezi isanu ndi umodzi ya ubale wanu ndi iye. Ngati mumakhulupirira kafukufukuyu, ndi nthawi yochuluka bwanji yomwe mapuloteni athu amafunikira kuti tigwiritsidwe ntchito kuphulika kwa mahomoni chifukwa cha kuwonjezereka kwa chikondi.
Lamulo lachiwiri: Khalani owona mtima ndi inu nokha
Choncho, patatha miyezi isanu ndi umodzi chiyanjano chanu chidzakhala champhamvu kwambiri, mutha kuzindikira bwino bwino, ndipo mahomoni adzagonjetsa - ndi nthawi yoganizira za tsogolo. Iyi ndi nthawi yabwino kudzifunsa nokha funso losavuta: "Kodi ndikufuna kukhala ndi munthu uyu moyo wanga wonse?". Ngati mumamuyankha m'mimba mwa agulugufe flutter, ndipo pamutu padzakhala zithunzi za ana anu ogwirizana, kenako pitani ku mfundo yotsatira. Ngati simukumana ndi zina zoterezi, kambiranani za ubale wanu, ndizotheka kuti adakhalapo kale. Khalani owona mtima ndi inu nokha. Chimwemwe chanu chimadalira pa izo!
Lamulo nambala 3: Onetsetsani kuti mwamsanga
Lamulo lachitatu ndilofunika kwambiri kuti munthu akhale ndi moyo wosangalala pamodzi. Choncho, muyenera kuonetsetsa kuti malingaliro anu pa mgwirizanowo akugwirizana. Mwa kuyankhula kwina, muyenera kukhala otsimikiza kuti muli pamodzi pokhapokha kuti mukhale ndi chikondi chenicheni, osati chifukwa chakuti mwakhala mukufunafuna chidwi chake ndipo ali bwino ndi inu. Momwe mungamvetsetse kuti kumverera kumagwirizana? Ingodalira chidziwitso chanu ndikuwonanso ubale wanu pang'ono. Ndibwino kuti muchite izi pokhala nokha ndi maganizo anu. Mukhozanso kuwonjezera zochita zolimbitsa thupi: gawani pepala muzitsulo ziwiri ndipo lembani mwa zonse zomwe aliyense wa inu abweretsa ku chiyanjano chanu. Momwemonso, zipilala zonsezi ziyenera kukhala zofanana kukula kwake. Zopindulitsa kwambiri kwa wina wa maphwando - ino ndi nthawi yosinkhasinkha za kugwirizana kwa maubwenzi ndi okondedwa.
Ngati muli otsimikiza kuti munthu uyu ndi chikondi cha moyo wanu wonse, ndiye kuti nkhaniyo ikhala yaing'ono. Ndikofunika kuonetsetsa kuti wokondedwayo akufika pamapeto omwewo. Ndibwino kuti tichite izi mosamalitsa komanso osadziwika, ndiyeno amuna ndi amodzi ndi amantha, ndipo ayenera kukhala okonzekera "nthawi yaitali ndi osangalala". Ndipo mukuyenera kukonzekera kuti mpaka mapeto a masiku ake atsimikizire kuti iye mwiniwake anapanga chisankho chofuna kukupangitsani inu kukhala mkazi wake. Ndipo osati kutayika.
Mantha ali ndi maso aakulu: momwe angasunge munthu pachibwenzi
Tsopano, pamene kukhalapo kwa kalonga sikumayambitsa kukaikira kulikonse, ndi nthawi yolankhula za momwe mungasunge munthu pafupi naye, makamaka kwa moyo. Ndipo chifukwa cha izi, chofunikira kwambiri choyamba kumvetsa chifukwa chake amuna amasiku ano samathamangira kugawanika ndi udindo wa banjali ngakhale pamene pambali pawo pamakhala mkazi wokondedwa komanso wofunika kwambiri. Ziribe kanthu momwe izo zingamvekere, ziri zonse za mantha. Kuwopa ubale weniweni ndizovuta zokhudzana ndi maganizo, zimakhala zovuta kuti munthu adutse yekha. Ikhoza kudziwonetsera yokha mwa njira zosiyana. Mwachitsanzo, kumaseketsa kosangalatsa komanso kusintha kosasintha kwa ogonana. Kapena "akhoza kubisala" muukwati waumwini, wosatha popanda kusindikiza pasipoti kwazaka zambiri. Palinso milandu pamene mantha omwewo amachititsa amuna ngakhale kusokoneza ubale wawo ndi chikondi kuti asapitirire ku gawo latsopano la maubwenzi.
Zomwe zimayambitsa mantha a ubale weniweni mwa amuna
Chimodzi mwa zifukwa zazikulu zomwe zimachitikira kuopa kotero ndizochitikira zoipa. M'mawu ena, chikondi chosasangalatsa. Choncho, zingakhale zopanda nzeru kumufunsa mnyamatayo ngati pali chinachake chofanana m'moyo wake komanso momwe adapulumutsidwira balala la mtima. Ngati kusiyana kwachitika posachedwapa, musafulumire kukula kwa ubale wanu.
Kuwonjezera apo, kuopa ubale weniweni mwa amuna kungabwere chifukwa cha lingaliro lolakwika la moyo wa banja. Mwachitsanzo, ngati mwamuna ali ndi banja losatha kapena makolo ake / anzake / achibale anakumana ndi mavuto osudzulana. Pankhaniyi, iye amakhulupirira kwenikweni kuti ukwati umasokoneza maubwenzi ndipo sudzayesa kuulenga. Ntchito yanu yaikulu idzakhala kuwonongedwa kwa chinyengo ichi. Ndikofunika kusonyeza wokondedwa kuti mgwirizano waukwati umadalira momwe anthu awiri amayendera, ndipo akhoza kukhala osangalala kwambiri.
Maganizo a moyo wachisangalalo wamtunduwu umayikidwa pa malonda ndipo ma TV amatha kukwaniritsa zifukwa zazikulu zomwe zimawopseza kuyanjana pakati pa amuna. Zili ndi moyo wokongola komanso wokongola kwambiri monga wochita masewera achibwana: abwenzi ambiri amkazi, osadzipereka, osangalatsa komanso opanda udindo. Ngati chifukwa chake ndi ichi, ndiye kuti ntchito yanu ndikuwonetsa wokondedwa wanu dziko lina. Dziko lachikondi ndi mgwirizano, momwe mungapezere chimwemwe chenicheni. Kodi mungachite bwanji zimenezi? Thandizo limabwera ndi malangizo osavuta omwe mungapezeko.
Makhalidwe aakazi aang'ono: 10 malingaliro osavuta momwe mungasunge munthu
Ndi nthawi yopitilira ku malangizo othandiza omwe angakuthandizeni kuzindikira maloto a moyo wachimwemwe pamodzi ndi wokondedwa wanu. Koma taganizirani kuti amagwira ntchito ngati chikondi chanu ndi mwamuna chimagwirizana, ndipo chibwenzi chimakula. Yambani mwatsatanetsatane kuti kukhazikitsidwa kwawo kudzakufuna kuti mukhale ndi mphamvu zabwino komanso nthawi zina kudzimana. Kotero khalani okonzeka kudzigwira nokha kuti ubwino wa chikondi chanu. Ndipo kumbukirani kuti kusunga munthu sikungakhale mwana, kulibe, kapena ndalama. Kukondana ndi kulemekezana kungathandize kuti banja likhale losangalala pamoyo wawo!
Mfundo # 1: Khalani ndi zambiri!
Kodi pali kusiyana kotani pakati pa mkazi wokondedwa ndi mbuye kapena mkazi? Mfundo yakuti amagwira mwaluso ntchitoyi. Ndipo amadziwanso momwe angakhalire bwenzi lapamtima la munthu wokondedwa, bwenzi lokondwa, mayi wachikondi, mlongo wachifundo, wokonda kutsutsa, mnzake wokhulupirika ... Mndandandawu ukhoza kupitilira kwa nthawi yaitali, koma tanthauzo lake lalikulu ndi lodziwika ndipo ndikofunikira kuti mukhale wodalirika ndi okondedwa anu. Musaganizire ntchito imodzi yokha, mwachitsanzo, mtsikana amene akukumana nawo. Anyamata angapite pazinthu limodzi ndi inu kwa zaka zambiri, koma palibe amene angayesere kukupatsani mwayi wapadera - simukuwonetsanso china chilichonse. Choncho, ngati mukufuna kusunga munthu, khalani okonzeka kuphika borscht, ndipo mvetserani mavuto, ndipo mvetserani. Ndipo izi ndi zambiri zomwe "mumakumana nazo".
Mfundo # 2: Musakakamize zochitika
Imodzi mwa zolakwika zomwe zimachitika kawirikawiri ndizofulumira mu ubale. Zili ndi mbali imodzi ndipo zimamveka: zaka zikukakamizika, abwenzi ali kale okwatirana, makolo ndi zidzukulu ali ndi makutu onse ogwedezeka ... Inde, ndipo mumakumana kwa nthawi yaitali - ndithudi ndi nthawi ya korona. Ndipokhapokha mutabwera ku lingaliroli kuti palibe chifukwa choyenera kukanikirira munthu ndi zina zambiri kuti mumunamizire. Msonkhanowu, komitiyi ikugwira ntchito pa gawo lililonse latsopano la chiyanjano, ndipo osati kokha pakudza pa ukwatiwo. Choncho, musachedwe! Perekani mwamuna wanu nthawi yokhwima kuti azikhala pamodzi / banja / ana. Ndipo pamene "akuvota" palibe amene amakuletsani kuti mumutsogolere moyenera komanso moyenera kuti mumutsogolere ndi njira yake yoyenera ndi chisamaliro chake.
Mfundo # 3: Khalani okondweretsa komanso osamvetsetseka
Kwa munthu, palibe chinthu chosautsa kuposa moyo wosasangalatsa ndi mkazi yemwe amadziwa zonse. Choncho, pangani chinsinsi ndi chinsinsi. Izi ndizochitika zosiyanasiyana zozizwa ndi zosangalatsa zimene zingakuthandizeni kukhalabe osangalatsa kwa wokondedwa wanu. Zokongola ngati zina mwazizoloŵezi zanu zidzatsutsana kapena zotsutsana ndi zofuna za wokondedwa wanu.
Komanso, yesetsani kudabwa munthu wanu nthawi ndi nthawi. Zodabwitsa zingakhale zosiyana kwambiri: kuchokera ku tsitsi la tsitsi latsopano ndi tsitsi losadziwika kuti mugule kalata yothandizira kulumpha ndi parachute. Dziwani pang'ono: zodabwitsa kuti mupambane, onetsetsani kuti wokondedwa wanu adzasangalala. Mungathe kuchita bwino mwa mafunso osayenerera kwa iye kapena anzake apamtima.
Mfundo # 4: Khalani ndi mawonekedwe
Yambani ndi pulayimale - maonekedwe a tsiku ndi tsiku. Kamodzi kokha, nenani movuta kuti "ayi" kuwonetsetsa mavitamini pa misomali, tsitsi losasunthika ndi chovala chovekedwa pamaso pake. Mwa njira, ndi bwino kuonekera pamaso pa wokondedwa popanda kupanga. Koma pano ndipangidwe momwemo / kutayika / kudula tsitsi / kuchotsa tsitsi ndi iye mwamtheradi kuti sikofunika. Choyamba, izi siziri njira zabwino kwambiri. Ndipo kachiwiri, ntchito zotere nthawi zambiri zimafooketsa amuna. Chifukwa chake, ndi bwino kulola zinsinsi zanu zazing'ono kukhalabe ndi inu, ndipo wokondedwa adzalingalira zotsatira zokhazokha.
Komanso, yang'anani thupi lanu. Chabwino, yesetsani kuthandizira mafomu omwe munapambana kale. Koma kumbukirani, osati mapepala angapo oopsa kwambiri, ngati khungu lopweteka ndi zidendene. Choncho onetsetsani kuti muzisamalira nokha! Kumbukirani kuti mkazi wokonzekera bwino ndi wokongola kale.
Mfundo # 5: Miyambo Yogwirizana
Palibe chomwe chimabweretsa pamodzi banja ngati miyambo ndi miyambo ya banja. Lolani likhale phwando losavuta la tchuthi Lamlungu mu cafesi labwino kapena Loweruka madzulo kuyang'ana mawonedwe omwe mumawakonda pa TV. Chinthu chachikulu ndi chakuti zimakhala zenizeni, choncho, nthawi yachisangalalo kwa inu nonse. Pitirizani kuwonjezera pa ubale wanu watsopano, zomwe zimabweretsa chisangalalo mofanana kwa aliyense wa inu. Ndipo posachedwa iwo adzakhala miyambo yomwe idzakumangani kwambiri.
Mfundo # 6: Maganizo abwino
Izi sizili ngati amuna omwe akuvutika ndi amayi, omwe amayesetsanso kulira pamapewa awo, kapena pamene akumana, akudandaula za chilango chowawa. Musakonde chirichonse. Tengani izi ndikukhala nthawi yochuluka ndi wokondedwa wanu phokoso losangalatsa. Choyamba, mungathe kulira ndi amayi anga ndi atsikana, ndipo ndi wokondedwa ndi bwino kupatula nthawi zina zosangalatsa. Ndipo, kachiwiri, posonyeza mtima wokhala ndi chiyembekezo mumkhalidwe wovuta, momwemo mumamuwonetsera mwamunayo kuti nthawi zonse amadalira nzeru zanu ndi kuthandizira panthawi yovuta. Ndipo, chachitatu, mutasiya kudandaula pokhala ndi wokondedwa wanu chifukwa cha zovuta zazing'ono, mumakhala wamphamvu mumzimu.
Phunziro # 7: Musasungunuke!
Chinthu chinanso chimene chimakankhira amuna ndikutaya kwa mkazi. Ikhoza kuthetsedwa mwa mkazi, ana, moyo kapena ntchito. Chinthu choopsya kwambiri ndi chakuti ngati mutaya, mkazi amatha malire ake ndipo amasiya kukhala munthu wokondweretsa. Kotero, ziribe kanthu momwe mumamukondera mnyamatayu, mosasamala kanthu kuti mumakonda bwanji wokondedwa wanu tanthauzo la moyo wanu, nthawi zonse mukhale munthu wangwiro. Kumbukirani kuti palibe munthu amene angayamikire ozunzidwawo. Ndipo choipa kwambiri, tsiku lina zidzakhala zophweka kuganizira kuti ndinu munthu wothandizira, omwe ndi yabwino, koma osangalatsa. Zoonadi, kuchokera kwa akazi okonda, amuna amathamanga ngati moto omwe mumadziwa kale kuchokera ku bungwe lathu ku nambala itatu.
Mfundo # 8: Zokonzeka kunyumba
Chilichonse chimene anganene, manja okhawo achikondi angapange chitetezo chapadera chomwe amamuna amachikonda kwambiri. Choncho, chitani khama kuti mutsimikizire kuti malo okhalamo akhala nyumba yeniyeni kwa wokonda. Tsatirani ukhondo m'nyumba, ubwino wa zovala zake ndikutsimikiza kuti mungapange kuphika zakudya zomwe amakonda. Amuna ambiri a izi adzakhala oposa. Ndipo musaganize kuti tikukulimbikitsani kuti mupitirize kuchita zinthu zachuma ndikuiwala nokondedwa wanu. Phunzirani momwe mungaperekere nthawi ndipo mutha kuchita zambiri! Kuphatikiza kudzisamalira nokha ndikumacheza ndi abwenzi.
Mfundo # 9: Mudzudzula bwino
Kudzudzula kwa wokondedwa ndi koopsa. Makamaka ngati mumatsutsa mofulumira komanso mobwerezabwereza. Ndikhulupirire, palibe munthu amene angalekerere mkazi pafupi ndi iye, yemwe nthawi zonse amamudula. Choncho, ngati mumatsutsa wokondedwa wanu, yesetsani kuzichita molondola komanso momveka ngati n'kotheka. Mwachitsanzo, musangolongosola zolakwitsa zake, koma perekani yankho lomwe mtsogolomu lidzakuthandizani kupewa choipa chomwechi. Kumbukirani kuti kukambirana mwamtendere ndi kosakayika, munthu amanyalanyaza mosamala kwambiri kusiyana ndi kukhumudwa. Kuwonjezera apo, pokhala ndi luso lotha kutsutsa molondola, mukhoza kutenga malo ofunika a mlangizi wotsimikiziridwa mu moyo wa wokondedwa.
Bungwe la Nambala 10: Mpatseni munthu ufulu
Ichi ndi chimodzi mwa zothandiza kwambiri momwe mungasunge munthu pafupi naye. Kodi timatanthauzanji ponena kuti "kupereka ufulu"? Choyamba, munthuyo ali ndi mwayi wopanga zisankho zofunikira payekha komanso kusowa kwathunthu kwa mkaziyo. Phunzirani kudalira wokondedwa wanu ndipo musasunge "pafupipafupi". Ayenera kukhala ndi mwayi, mwachitsanzo, kuti ayang'ane mpira ndi abwenzi popanda inu ndi mayina anu osatha. Ndikofunikanso kuti asaikire maganizo awo pa moyo pa wokondedwayo ndi kumanga mapulani a tsogolo lake. Nthawi zonse kumbukirani kuti wokondedwa wanu ndi wamkulu komanso munthu amene angathe kupanga zosankha zofunika payekha. Ndipo ntchito yanu ndi kukhala munthu wokhulupirika ndi wachikondi, omwe angakhale wokonzeka kumvetsera, osati mayi wachiwiri. Choncho, nthawi zambiri amatsatira mfundo imeneyi mu ubale. Ndipo posakhalitsa inu nokha mudzawonekera bwino!