Inde, chifukwa chiyani mumangomanga tsogolo ndi munthu wina, kupanga ndalama zina mwa munthu, ngati mungapeze munthu amene adzakwaniritse zokhumba zonse ndipo sadzafunanso chilichonse. Ndipo ngati mukufuna, mutha kupeza mkazi wina ndikupitirizabe kukhala moyo wosavuta popanda nkhawa ndi mavuto.
Komabe, ndiyenera kuchita chiyani ngati mwamuna sakufuna ubale weniweni? Choyamba muyenera kudziwa m'mene amachitira ndi zomwe akufuna ku chiyanjano chanu. Zikhoza kukhala kuti wachinyamata sali wokonzeka kutenga udindo kwa wina. Izi zikhoza kuchitika chifukwa cha msinkhu, chikhalidwe, chikhalidwe ndi moyo. Mwachidule pali amuna amene akuyenera "kuyenda". Iwo, poyamba akuchenjeza amayi kuti sali okonzekera kudzimanga okha ndi chinachake chowopsa ndikukhala moyo lero. Anyamatawa sakhala ndi mlandu, chifukwa poyamba amakhala okhulupilika ndi inu ndipo samakukondani nokha. M'malo mwake, mnyamata wotereyo adzasangalala kwambiri ngati sakusonyeza chikondi kwa mkaziyo. Iye safuna kukhumudwitsa aliyense ndi kupweteka. Amamvetsetsa bwino kuti ndi amuna omwewa ngati iye, palibe yemwe adzakondwera ndipo nthawi yomweyo amachenjeza za izo. Koma, akazi, anthu ndi okonda kwambiri ndipo, mwa njira yawo, amadzidalira okha. Timadzipangitsa tokha kuti tikhoza kusintha ndikukonza munthu woteroyo, kumukhazikitsa ndikuyamba mgwirizano wamodzi. Mwamwayi, izi n'zotheka kokha pazochitika zingapo. Zingokhala kuti mnyamatayo ayenera kukomana naye, yekha, chifukwa cha zomwe angathe kupereka ufulu wake. Ndipo achinyamata oterewa sakhala okonzekera nsembe zoterozo, ngakhale kwa munthu mmodzi. Inde, mwamuna woteroyo akhoza kukonda kwambiri mtsikana, koma samvomereza maganizo ake, chifukwa amadziwa kuti posachedwa amusintha, motero amachititsa ululu ndi kusweka mtima wake. Ndicho chifukwa chake pamene tikufunafuna ubale weniweni, pambuyo pake, nkofunikira kumvetsetsa ndi yemwe tikuyesera kuti timange. Amuna ena sangasinthe chilichonse. Ndipo izi sizikutanthauza kuti iwo ndi anthu oipa. M'malo mwake, amuna otero, nthawi zambiri, amachita zinthu moona mtima. Nthawi yomweyo amachenjeza za zolinga zawo ndikufotokozera zomwe zili zoyenera, ndi zomwe sitingathe kuziyembekezera. Ndizoti asungwanawo amapanga ziganizo zawo ndi zolinga zawo, ndiyeno amayesa kufanana ndi chithunzi cha mnyamata wawo wokondedwa. Koma, anthu sangathe kuwongolera ndikusinthidwa ngati sakufuna iwo okha. Ngakhale chikondi chodetsa nkhaŵa pa mbali yanu sichidzamupangitsa iye kukhala banja lachitsanzo chabwino, mpaka asankhe kuti ndi nthawi yoti akhale choncho. Choncho, ngati mukudziwa kuti mnyamatayo ndi mwamuna wamwamuna, musakhale otonthoza komanso kumanga zizindikiro. Ndi bwino kungobalalitsa ndi iye ngati muzindikira kuti mumakondana. Apo ayi, mudzakhala ndi moyo, mumamva kupweteka kosalekeza ndi mkwiyo chifukwa cha nsanje.
Inde, pangakhale chifukwa china chimene mnyamatayo safuna kukhala pachibwenzi. Iye samakukondani inu basi. Mwinanso ali ndi inu chifukwa amangoona mmene mumamvera, amakupatsani chisoni komanso amamuona ngati bwenzi labwino. Ndizovuta kwa iye, pamene pali munthu pafupi ndi iye amene avomereze, kumvetsetsa ndi kusangalatsa. Koma sakufuna zambiri, chifukwa amadziwa - alibe chobwezera. Kumbali imodzi, ndinu munthu wapafupi kwa mnyamata, ndipo sakufuna kuthetsa ubale wanu kwathunthu. Koma, komabe, akuwopa kukupatsani chiyembekezo cha chinachake, chifukwa amamvetsa - zowonjezera, zambiri sizikhoza. Zoonadi, izi ndi zopweteka komanso zosasangalatsa. Mayi aliyense amafuna kuti azikondedwa komanso kuti azikhala osiyana. Palibe yemwe amakopeka ndi mwayi wokhala wolowa mmalo chabe, chidole chomwe chingagwiritsidwe ntchito kuiwala wina. Koma muzinthu izi zonse zimadalira mkazi yekha. Pamene akumva ndikumvetsetsa ubale wa mnyamatayo, ndikofunikira kudzipangira yekha momwe angakhalire moyo, kusankha ndi kupanga. Ngati mnyamata sakufuna ubale weniweni - sikungatheke kuti tsiku lina adzawafuna. Zoonadi, m'moyo nthawi zonse zimakhala zosiyana ndi malamulo. Zingakhale kuti mwamunayo akuwona mwa inu yekhayo. Koma, palibe amene adzatsimikizire kuti izi zidzachitika. Mwachidule, ali pafupi ndi inu mosavuta komanso mosavuta, amaiwala za mavuto ake, pamlingo winawake, akumakhala wamoyo. Mwinamwake inu muli naye bwenzi lapamtima ndi munthu wobadwira. Koma, mwatsoka, sakukuwonani ngati mnzanu weniweni. Kotero, muzochitika zotero muyenera kuchita chinachake ndikusankha, ngati simukupita ku imfa, ndipo mudzakhala odwala komanso osapweteka.
Mukhoza kuyimitsa ubale umenewu ndikuyesera kuiwala mnyamatayo. Mwina njira iyi idzakhala yoyenera kwambiri kwa inu. Bwino, "pitirizani" kumverera mwamsanga, m'malo movutika kwa zaka zambiri, kuyesera kupulumuka kusakondwa kwa munthu yemwe wakhala ngati mpweya. Choncho, ndi bwino kusonkhanitsa chifunocho ndikukantha chiyanjano kamodzi. Koma, ngati simukufuna kuchita izi, yesani njira ina. Sonyezani mnyamata yemwe sakukufunani, kuti simusamala momwe amachitira komanso simukusowa kanthu. Zovuta, zimakhala zovuta kwambiri kugwira ntchito yotereyi, koma choti muchite ngati mwamuna sakufuna ubale weniweni, bwanji kuti musachite zimenezo. Ngati munthu akuzoloŵera kukhala ndi inu, muli pafupi naye ndipo simudzataika paliponse, adzachita mantha ndikuyang'ana khalidwe lozizira. Mnyamata adzalandira umwini wake. Zingakhale bwino kuti mnyamata sangathe kuchoka ndipo akufuna kukubwezerani. Nthaŵi zina, kugwedeza maganizo koteroko kumalimbikitsa anthu kumvetsa maganizo awo ndi kuzindikira zomwe akhala akuyesetsa kuti asalankhule. Pamapeto pake, simungatayike zomwe mulibe kale. Koma, ngakhale zili choncho, khalidweli lidzamukumbutsa mnyamatayo kuti mumadzikuza ndi kudzilemekeza, ndipo, kumatero, zimamupangitsa kuganizira ngati ayi ndizovuta kapena ayi.