Ndani ayenera kukonda wankhanza?

Mkazi ndi cholengedwa chofatsa, chofewa komanso chachikondi. Nchiyani chomwe chiyenera kuchitidwa kwa chirengedwe ichi, pamene, pambuyo pakwati, kodi icho chimagwera m'manja mwa wanyonga?

Pali njira ziwiri zothetsera vutoli: kuchoka kapena kukhala. Amayi ambiri amachitira nkhanza chifukwa cha zifukwa zosiyanasiyana, zimakhala zovuta kuti wina asiye ana popanda bambo, wina ali ndi malo okhala, ndipo wina akumva. Chinsinsi chonse ndi chakuti mkazi ali ndi chiwerengero chosamvetsetseka ngakhale asanakwatirane ndi banja lake. Ndipo ngakhale akatswiri a zamaganizo amatsimikiziranso kuti n'zosatheka kuyang'ana zokhudzana ndi zofuna za osankhidwa awo, izi ndizo zokopa mkazi kwa mwamuna.
Munthu wankhanza amadzidalira yekha ndipo nthawi zonse amadziwa zomwe amafunikira kuchokera kwa anthu. Iye ndi wamphamvu, wanzeru, wovomerezeka. Ndipotu, chitsimikizo chotere, ichi ndi chiwonetsero cha kudzikonda - samangokana zokhumba zake. Mphamvu ndi ulamuliro posakhalitsa zimakhala mphamvu ndi zosokoneza. Ndipo mkazi aliyense amafuna kukhala pafupi ndi mwamuna wamphamvu, wolimba mtima, wodalirika. Chinsinsi china ndi chakuti mchimuna wankhanza amasankha mwadzidzidzi mnzake wofooka, makamaka ndi khalidwe lachidziwitso, lomwe makamaka limakhala lolimba pambali pake. Ndizomveka kufotokozera momwe alili wabwino, wanzeru, komanso waluso. Munthu woteroyo amakhulupirira mwamsanga kusagwirizana kwake, kulandira moyo wake ndi kukhala mkazi wodzichepetsa.

Atalandira "nsembe" wanyanyayo sangalekerere ayi. Ali ndi njira zake zokhala ndi mkazi pambali pake - amamenya chisoni (mwachitsanzo, palibe amene adandikonda), kuyamika, kumutsimikizira kuti alibe chifuniro komanso osakhoza kupulumuka popanda iye, ndipo ngati zifukwa zamtendere sizibweretsa zotsatira kwa kanthawi kochepa kugwiritsa ntchito mphamvu.

Kotero, akazi okondedwa, kuti muzitha kubwereranso kwa wozunza pambuyo pake si kosavuta. Chigamulo ndi chofunikira kutenga nthawi isanakwatirane. Muyenera kuyang'ana wodzisankhira ngati nthawi zonse amadzipangira yekha kusankha (komwe angapite, kumene angayende, zoti achite, etc.). Munthu akamalankhula kapena kutsutsa mwachindunji kusamvetsetsa kwake kwa anzako ndi anzake, mtsogolo, onetsetsani kuti kulankhulana nawo kudzakhala kuchepetsa, izi ndi nthawi. Mwamuna wankhanza akufulumira kuti alandire ufulu kwa mkazi mwamsanga, kotero usakhale wosangalala kwambiri chifukwa chopereka mwamsanga dzanja ndi mtima. Nthawi zina, chuma chambiri chimayendetsedwa - ndinayiwala, sindinapeze mphatso yabwino, ndikupulumutsa moyo wam'tsogolo wa banja - apa inunso muli ndichuma chodabwitsa, chokhazikika ndikuwerengera.

Koma inu simungakhoze kulamulira mtima wanu, koma kwa msodzi aliyense chirombo chanu chimathawa. Anthu amakonda, kukwatirana ndikukhala limodzi mpaka kukalamba. Ndi wotsutsa ndizotheka kukhala ndi moyo nthawi zonse, osalola kuti zinthu zowonongeka ndi kuzunzidwa kwakukulu. Izi zikhoza kuchitidwa ndi mkazi wanzeru ndi wochenjera. Ndikofunika kumutamanda ndi kum'tamanda mwamuna wanu kanthawi kochepa, kumukumbutsa kuti iye ndiye wothandizira banja (nthawi zambiri, kuti akhale ndi mawu ena, mkazi ayenera kupeza bwino, koma osati mwachinyengo kuposa mwamuna wankhanza), avomereze nazo zonse zomwe asankha . Maganizo awo ndi ndondomeko zawo zimayenera kukhazikitsidwa m'moyo kuti mwamuna azitenga ngati zawo. Ndipo ngati khalidweli ndi losavomerezeka ndipo silovomerezeka kwa inu, ndi kosavuta kusiya maubwenzi kusiyana ndi kusintha moyo kukhala wopweteka mwa kuphunzitsanso.