Momwe mungakhalire ndi mwamuna ndi mkazi wapakati

Pamene mkazi amayembekeza mwana, izo zimasintha, osati mthupi, komanso m'maganizo. Chifukwa chake, zimakhala zofunikira kwambiri kuthandizira wokondedwa. Choncho, mu nkhaniyi, muyenera kuphunzira bwino kutsogolera mwamuna wanu. Ndi iye yemwe akuyenera kukhala chithandizo chenicheni ndi kukhala pafupi ndi mkazi wake wokwatiwa kwa miyezi isanu ndi iwiri. Inde, iye sakhala ngati chonchi mu nthawi ino, monga nthawi zonse, koma si chifukwa chake. Aliyense amadziwa kuti mahomoni ndi kusintha kwa thupi kumasintha maganizo athu. Kuti mukhale ndi khalidwe labwino ndi mkazi wake mumkhalidwe umenewu, muyenera kudziwa chomwe akufuna komanso chifukwa chake. Ndicho chifukwa chake, nkhaniyi: "Momwe mungakhalire ndi mwamuna ndi mkazi wokwatiwa", adzawatsogolera kwa anyamata. Atsikana amadziwa kale zomwe akufuna, koma sangathe kuzifotokozera mwamuna wake nthawi zonse. Tsopano tiyesa kuchita izi.

Kotero, momwe mungakhalire kwa mwamuna ndi mkazi wokwatiwa, mu chiyani choti mulolere ndi zomwe mungachite? Amuna okondeka, kuti mukakhale ndi amayi oyembekezera kwa miyezi isanu ndi iwiri, muyenera kukhala oleza mtima ndikuphunzira momwe mungachitire mwakachetechete ku zinthu zambiri zomwe zimawoneka zopusa, zopanda nzeru kapena zopusa. Ngati mukukumbukira ndi mkazi wanu za izi atatha kubadwa kwa mwana wanu, ndiye kuti sangathe kufotokoza chifukwa chake adachita. Choncho, onetsetsani kuti kukumbukira uku kukuphatikizapo kuseka, osati kukwiya.

Kotero, momwe mungakhalire ndi amayi oyembekezera? Choyamba, ndikofunikira kumuthandiza pa chilichonse. Ngakhale kumayambiriro koyamba, mkazi sangathe kutambasula, kunyamula zolemera ndi kugwira ntchito yowongoka. Ndipo musakumbukire nthawi yomwe akazi amagwira ntchito kumunda mpaka kumapeto ndipo anabala mwachindunji pansi pazitsamba za udzu. Inde, zonsezi zinali, koma ndibwino kukumbukira kuti ndi amayi angati omwe anamwalira komanso panthawi yobereka, ndi ana angati omwe sanafe kapena anabadwa olumala. Choncho, musamanyalanyaze ndikuganiza kuti zonse zidzakhala bwino. Inde, izo zidzatero, koma izi sizikunyalanyaza kufunikira koti azionetsetsa ndi kuteteza. Khalani okondedwa kwambiri ndi mkazi wanu. Yesetsani kumuthandiza pa chilichonse chimene mungathe. Musalole kuti mayi wapakati azichapa zovala komanso kuyeretsa, makamaka panthawi ina. Inde, sikuti anthu onse amadziwa momwe angayendetsere banja. Koma aliyense akhoza kuphunzira. Zidzakhala zothandiza kwa inu mwana atabadwa, chifukwa panthawi imeneyo mkazi wanu sadzakhalanso akusamba, kuyeretsa ndi kuphika. Choncho, ngakhale mkaziyo atachita chinachake, yesetsani kugwira ntchito zambiri. Koma pa nthawi yomweyi, chinthu chofunika kwambiri ndi kusamalira mkazi wake, ngati kuti ali wolumala kapena wodwala wakupha. Nthawi zina amuna amayamba kusamalira okondedwa awo kwambiri. Musalole kupita pa sitepe ndipo musalole kuti mutenge ngakhale nthenga. Mchitidwewu, ndithudi, uli wambiri. Komabe, mkazi ayenera kumverera ngati munthu wamba. Makamaka izi zikugwiritsidwa ntchito kwa amayi amphamvu omwe amagwiritsidwa ntchito pochita zinthu zonse. Pankhaniyi, amafunikira kuthandizidwa, osayiwala kukumbukira kuti sanafooketse konse, pakalipano iye ali ndi udindo pa miyoyo iwiri ndipo ayenera kulola nthawi yodetsa nkhaŵa za iye ndi kumuthandiza.

Komanso, nthawi zambiri amamuna amadabwa ndi akazi, pamene amafuna ayisikilimu, ndiye mchere wamchere, ndipo amakhala ndi mphindi makumi awiri. Nthawi zina anyamata amayamba kuganiza kuti akuzunzidwa. Ndipotu, izi siziri choncho. Chifukwa cha kusintha kwa thupi, zochitika zambiri zachilengedwe zimaphwanyidwa mwazimayi, ndipo kufunika kwa mankhwala ena kumawoneka, kenako kumatayika. Kumvetsetsa izi ndi chisangalalo ndi kumvetsetsa, osati ndi kukwiya. Kumbukirani kuti mkaziyo amadziŵa kuti sakufuna zokhumba zake ndi khalidwe lake, koma pakali pano sangathe kuchita chilichonse. Inde, nthawizina akazi amagwiritsa ntchito malo awo pang'ono, koma, makamaka, ma vagaries ndi osadziwika okha.

Choncho, ngati msungwanayo akufuna nanaini pa 2 koloko mmawa - mugule iye chinanazi. Ngakhale atathamanga nthawi yomwe mumabweretsa chipatso chosagwidwa, chipatso chake chidzakhala chofunikira kwambiri kwa iye. Mayi aliyense akufuna kumvedwa. Ndipo mu malo awa iye amafuna kawiri.

Komanso, muyenera kukumbukira kuti chifukwa cha kusintha kwa mahomoni m'mbuyo pamene mukuyembekezera, amai psyche amakhala osakhazikika. Inde, izi sizikutanthauza kuti mayi aliyense amayamba kukhala mkazi wosazindikira. Atsikana ena amachitanso chimodzimodzi. Koma kwa amayi ena, mimba imakhala yovuta kwambiri. Ngati mkazi wako ali choncho, usakwiyire ndipo usakhumudwe naye. Maganizo anu olakwika adzakhudza thanzi labwino, lomwe likugwirizana kwambiri ndi thupi.

Kumbukirani kuti amayi oyembekezera alibe nkhawa, mantha, mantha, mwinamwake zovuta zonsezi zimakhudza thanzi la mayi ndi mwana. Choncho, ngakhale mkazi atalira ndi kukwiya popanda chifukwa, sakusowa kumufotokozera kuti sikulondola. Ingomudzudzula, ndiuzeni momwe mumakondera ndi kuyamikira. Ndikhulupirire kuti, mukhalidwe chotero, zimakhala zovuta kuti akazi azitenga mfundo zomveka. Koma iwo amavomereza kulandira chikondi ndi kuthandizira pa mbali yanu.

Kawirikawiri, amayi oyembekezera ayenera kukumbutsidwa nthawi zonse kuti mumawakonda ndipo mumadziwa kuti ndi okongola komanso ofunika kwambiri. Amayi ambiri omwe ali ndi vutoli amaganiza kuti mwamuna akhoza kusiya kumukonda chifukwa cha kulemera kwake, sangathe kudzisamalira yekha monga kale, ndi zina zotero. Ngakhale mutadziwa kuti izi ndichabechabe ndipo palibe chifukwa choganiza, musakwiye. Ngati mufuulira mkazi wake, ndiye khalidwe lake limatsimikizira maganizo ake. Koma izi si zoona ndipo simukufuna kukhumudwitsa mayi wa mwana wanu wam'tsogolo. Kotero, khalani wofatsa ndi iye, chikondi ndi kuyamikira, kupanga mphatso zazing'ono ndi zodabwitsa. Simusowa kupereka golide ndi diamondi ngati mulibe njira yochitira izo, koma munthu aliyense akhoza kubweretsa maluwa ndi maswiti nthawi ndi nthawi.

Pamene mayi ali ndi mimba, mwamuna aliyense ali ndi mwayi wodziwonetsera yekha, chifukwa nthawi imeneyi ndi yovuta kwambiri, akusowa chithandizo, chitetezo, chisamaliro ndi chisamaliro.