Munthu wansanje ndi vuto kwa mkazi. Ndipo kawirikawiri chikhalidwecho ndi "nsanje - zikutanthawuza, chikondi" sizomwe zimatonthoza, ndipo mavuto oyanjana nthawi zina amakhala osasunthika. Nsanje imabweretsa mkwiyo ndipo zonsezo nthawi zina zimakhala zovuta kwambiri komanso zoopsa. Kotero, nsanje yaumuna ndi njira zothetsera izo - nkhani yokambirana lero.
Mkhalidwe 1. Kukhala ndi chizolowezi chodziimba nthawi zonse
Mukukakamizidwa kuti mukumva kuti ndinu wolakwa nthawi zonse. Sizitenga tsiku kuti mwamuna wanu asakunyozeni chifukwa cha kusakhulupirika. Wothandizana naye anaitanidwa kuchokera kuntchito? Akuti kale bukuli ndilo "chifukwa muli ndi zambiri zogwirizana ndi zonse pamodzi." Chimodzimodzinso ndikumakumana ndi mnzanu kusukulu. Ngakhale kuyenda mophweka kwa kuyenda ndi galu kumasanduka chinthu chodandaula. "Nchifukwa chiyani iwe ukuphimba tsitsi lako?" Kodi iwe udzawonetsedwa kwa ndani? "Ndipo njira iliyonse kunja kwa nyumba imakhala yodandaula chifukwa cha iye. Valani mabala okongola? Kotero, mumapita tsiku. Anatsuka mutu wake - kukakumana ndi munthu. Ndipo kotero tsiku lirilonse. Ndizosamvetsetseka! Komanso, maganizo amenewa nthawi zina angalimbikitsidwe ndi zoipitsa, zofananitsa monga "iwe umakhala ngati wonyenga - hule wochokera pakhomo lapafupi" komanso zoopseza "momwe mungagwiritsire ntchito ...". Ndizovuta kwambiri kukhala ndi munthu woteroyo. Koma ngati mumamukonda - mungayesere kugwirizanitsa ubalewo.
Council of Psychologists:
Simusowa kuti muyankhe mafunso ambiri, omwe nthawi zonse amakhala okhudzana ndi nsanje. Tangolongosola mwachidule mkhalidwewu, ndiyeno abwino kwambiri amakhala chete. Kotero, iwe ukuwoneka utumiza chizindikiro kwa mwamuna wako: "Iwe ndiwe wawekha! Muyenera kuima chifukwa zimandikhumudwitsa. " Inde, ndikofunikira ndi kofunika kukambirana mavuto. Koma ndikukhulupirira, funso ili silikusowa zokambirana. Mwamunayu wadziika yekha pamalo ake. Simungathe kumukhumudwitsa kapena kumuletsa. Choyamba, yesetsani kudziwa komwe chiwonetsero cha nsanje yaikulu chichokera. Chifukwa chake nthawi zambiri zimakhala zovuta zosiyanasiyana. Mwamuna samadzidzika yekha - amazunzidwa ndi mantha omwe angakhale otsutsana nawo, amakhulupirira kuti mungapeze munthu wabwino. Muzochitika izi, ndibwino kugwiritsa ntchito chiwembu chathu chachikazi. Motani? Ingogwiritsani ntchito mpata uliwonse kuti mutamande munthu wanu - mwachitsanzo, kuti ndi bambo wabwino komanso wokondedwa. Onjezerani mawu abwino ndipo, ngati chifukwa cha nsanje muzinthu zovuta, zingathe kuchepetsa kusakhulupirika kwake. Ngati nsanje ibwera chifukwa china - inu, mwinamwake, simungathe kupirira nokha. Zikatero, kuthandizidwa ndi akatswiri kumafunika. Nsanje ndi matenda. Izi ndi matenda opatsirana omwe amafunikira chithandizo.
Mkhalidwe 2. Munthu mu chilichonse amakulamulirani
Wokondedwa wanu amakhala ngati mwana wachinyamata - amakutsatirani kulikonse, kufufuza, mavesi ... Posachedwapa amadzikhulupirira kuti muli ndi chibwenzi ndi mnzanu kuchokera ku ofesi. Zotsatira zake ndi ziti? Panthawi ya ntchito komanso panthawi yochepa, amamuimbira mphindi iliyonse kuti afunse zomwe mukuchita komanso ndikabwerera. Amawerenga mauthenga anu ndi maimelo. Kawirikawiri, sizowononga, koma zimakhala zokhumudwitsa kwambiri. Kukayikira kwake nthawi zonse kumati "ndibwino kukhala wakuba kusiyana ndi kuba". Ndi mgwirizano wa mtundu umenewu umene umakakamiza amayi kuti asakhulupirire.
Council of Psychologists:
Amuna a mtundu uwu nthawi zina amachitira kaduka ndi woyang'anira kapena woyang'anira. Iwo ali maso, aluntha, osakanikirana ndipo akhala akuganiza. Yapambana kwambiri. N'zosatheka kusintha munthu woteroyo chete. Koma iwe ukhoza kukhala naye limodzi ngati iwe uli wokhulupirika ndipo umamukonda munthu uyu. Kodi mungachite bwanji ndi vutoli? Ndipo n'chifukwa chiyani timamenyana? Ngati mulibe chobisala - tiyeni tisangalale! Lolonjezedwa mu kukhulupilira kwanu mobwereza bwereza, ndipo mukhoza kumunyengerera ndi kumunyoza pa zosangalatsa. Pamapeto pake, kudandaula kumeneku kumamuvutitsa ndipo amasankha kuti asawononge nthawi yambiri pantchito yopanda phindu. Popeza mutakhala ndi malo otetezeka komanso osokonezeka ndi munthu wotere, mungathe kukwaniritsa zambiri.
Mkhalidwe 3. Zomveka zowonjezera komanso zosamvetsetseka
Mwamuna wanu amakuchitirani inu ngati ake omwe. Iye amakulamulirani kwathunthu, kumukakamiza iye kuti achite zomwe iye akufuna, kuti aziwoneka monga iye akufunira. Zimachokera ku mfundo yakuti akukuuzani kuti muchotse maonekedwe ndi kuvala zinthu zakale zomwe simukuzikhala nazo, kuti musapangitse wina aliyense chidwi. Amakuletsani kuti mupite kunja kwake, kupita kuntchito ndikukumana ndi anzanu. Iye sali wotsutsa, iye sali wachiwawa, koma iye akulimbikira mu malo ake ndipo samakulolani kuti muzikhala mwachizolowezi. Ichi ndi chitsanzo chovuta kwambiri cha nsanje ya amuna - palibe njira iliyonse yolimbana nayo. Zimakhala zovuta kukhala ndi munthu woteroyo. Koma ngati mukusowa (chikondi cha zoipa), ndiye apa pali zomwe muyenera kuchita.
Council of Psychologists:
Ndi nthawi yoti ndiuze mwamuna wanga kuti ayime! Kodi amalekerera chiwawa? Lembani izi kwa apolisi kapena muitaneni wotchedwa hotline ndikufunseni akatswiri. Ndiuzeni momveka bwino kuti ngati khalidwe lake silikusintha - mudzachoka. Mungavomereze kugwiritsa ntchito mankhwala opatsirana pogonana kuti mudziwe momwe mungachepetsere kukhumudwa ndi khalidwe laukali. Iye samavomereza mawu anu? Ndiye, musazengereze, mutenge njira zonse zoyenera zothetsera banja. Ngati nsanje ya mnzanu imakhala yovuta kwambiri, mitundu yowawa, simungathe kulimbana nayo. N'zosavuta kuti munthu wosuta fodya asiye kusuta kusiyana ndi kukonza munthu wansanje.
Kodi nsanje ya mwamuna imachokera kuti:
1. Chitsanzo chochokera m'banja mwathu. Pamene, pokhala mwana, adawona kuti bambo ake akudandaula za amayi ake, chochitika cha nsanje - akadatha kuchepetsa kukhulupilira kwa amayi.
2. Makhalidwe osadziwika a mnzanuyo. Ngati mzimayi, nthawi zambiri amabwera kunyumba mochedwa, amayamba kuvuta mwamuna wake.
3. Kulimbikira kuledzera ndi mankhwala osokoneza bongo. Kugwiritsa ntchito nkhanza nthawi zonse kumapangitsa kukayikira ndikupanga malingaliro oipa, monga: "Ali ndi wina woti adye."
4. Maganizo a abwenzi. Ngati akunena kuti mkazi wake ndi "chinthu chomwecho" - mwachangu pali zifukwa. Nthawi zina amzanga amachita izi chifukwa cha kaduka, koma mwamuna samaganiza za izi ndipo amayamba kuvulaza mkazi wake.