Maganizo otsutsana ndi chiyanjano omwe amayamba ndi chibwenzi, ndi mkazi wamkulu, achinyamata nthawi zambiri amatsatira zolinga zadyera, nthawi zonse sizigwirizana ndi choonadi. Kawirikawiri, maubwenzi oterewa amachokera kumalingaliro osavuta, osadzikonda. Ndipo, mobwerezabwereza, nthawi zambiri, ngakhale kuthekera kwa ukwati wotsatira sikuchotsedwa. Ndipo bwanji osatero. Mayi ali ndi msinkhu wotere ali ndi chibwenzi chachikulu kwambiri, chifukwa amadziwika kuti mkazi wosiyana ndi achinyamata ndi wolemerera kuposa amuna. Kotero iye akufuna kumverera monga choncho kachiwiri, pokhala pafupi ndi osankhidwa aang'ono. Ndipo, mzimayiyo, amadzikayikira kwambiri chifukwa moyo wake umamulola kuti amupatse malingaliro ndi chisamaliro chenicheni. Chimene nthawi zina samayembekezera kwa anzako. Msungwana, yemwe ali wachinyamata wamng'ono, atamva vutoli, amangokana, ngakhale kuseka - wamkuluyo amadziwa kuchepa kwa kanthaŵi kochepa, nthawi zonse amathandiza. Izi zimagwiranso ntchito kwa anyamata omwe atopa ndi nomadism "kuchokera ku umodzi" ndipo amafuna ubale weniweni. Kwa amayi achikulire, nthawi zambiri amataya chiyembekezo mwa amuna a msinkhu wawo ndikuyesera kuzindikira ubale wawo ndi anyamata achichepere. Ndipo anyamata omwe ali mkati mwawo samangoyang'ana kokha mnzako wa moyo, koma nthawi zambiri amayi achiwiri, omwe nthawi zonse amawathandiza. Choncho, tikhoza kunena kuti ambiri a ubalewu adziwonetsera okha ngati chizindikiro cha "wokondwa". Ndipo komabe, ndi anyamata otani amene amakopeka ndi amayi akuluakulu? Choyamba, awa ndi anyamata omwe ali ndi vuto lodziwika poyankhula ndi anzawo, makamaka atsikana. Amawaona kukhala osangalatsa ndikudziika okha m'maganizo awo, nthawi zambiri kuposa zaka chimodzi. Motero, sitingapeze chinenero chofanana ndi iwo. Chachiwiri, nthawi zambiri, awa ndi anyamata omwe anakulira opanda amayi (kuchokera m'banja losakwanira). Komabe, pangakhale vuto mu moyo wapamtima. Kugwirizana ndi mfundo yakuti ndi chidziwitso chofunafuna mkazi, momwe, poyamba, mnyamatayo adzaika zosowa zake za amayi - sangathe kumudziwa ngati munthu wogonana naye. Chifukwa chachitatu chikugwirizana ndi anyamata omwe amasamaliridwa ndi makolo (makamaka ana aang'ono). Ponena za omalizawa, ana a makolo awo omwe ali otetezeka, pamaganizo awo, amawopera kuti atha kukhala ndi moyo wawo. Choncho, amakhulupirira kuti anzawo sangawapatse chidaliro ndikulowetsa m'mapewa awo panthawi yovuta. Ndipo, pogonjera kwawo, iwo amakhala omasuka kwambiri ndi wina yemwe angalowe m'malo mwa chisamaliro cha makolo.
Ndi mkazi wokhwima okha amene anyamatawa amaona kuti ali otetezeka ku mavuto ndi mavuto. Ichi ndi chimodzi mwa zizindikiro zomveka bwino, pamene mnyamata akufuna kupeza mkazi wamkulu kuposa iyeyo. Ndimo momwe abambo akuluakulu amayamba moyo wawo wokhudzana ndi anyamata.
Mfundo yofunikira ndi yakuti mkazi wachikulire, mwa mawonekedwe a moyo wake, wanena kale zambiri, amadziwika ndi chidziwitso chosaganizira za moyo. Potero, kutsegulira kwa osankhidwa ake osankhidwa, kutsogolo kwatsopano kwa chidziwitso cha ubale weniweni ndipo nthawi zina ngakhale iyemwini. M'mawu ake, iye amangokonda naye. Amangoyamikira malangizo ake, malingaliro ake, malingaliro ake. Ponena za ubwenzi wapamtima wa ubale wawo, ndiye kuti mkazi woteroyo ali ndi chidziwitso, wachikondi, wachifundo komanso wogwira ntchito.
Mkazi wa msinkhu wake ali ndi udindo wa munthu yemwe wachitika, nthawi zonse amakhala wodzidalira ndipo amadziwa zomwe akufuna. Iye samangoganizira za iye yekha, koma za mnzako, monga lamulo, ndi wokwiya, nthawi zonse amachititsa mawu ake ndi zochita zake. Ichi ndichinthu chofunikira kwambiri pa ubale wosagwirizana. Pano mungathe kunena mwatchutchutchu kuti mwa kulowa mu ubale wotero, mnyamatayo amakumana ndi zosowa zake zakuthupi, kumverera zofunikira komanso pakufunidwa. Ndiponsotu, munthu wamsinkhu uliwonse adakondwera pamene adafuna ndikudandaulira theka lake lachiwiri.
Kawirikawiri, akaziwa anali atakwatira kale, kumene ankaganiza kuti sadayamikiridwa ndi kulemekezedwa mokwanira. Ndipo mutu ukugwera m'manja mwa mnyamata, yemwe zinthu zonse zidzakhala zosiyana, zimawonedwa ngati mphatso ya chiwonongeko. Pambuyo pake, mtsikanayo amamuyamikira mowona mtima mnzake wokhwima maganizo, samangowonongeka ndi moyo, ndikosavuta kumudabwitsa, motero amamukondweretsa. Komanso n'zosavuta kugonjera (mwa mawu abwino) ndipo sadzakhumudwa nkomwe. Ndi iye mungathe kuiwala za iye, kukula kwake ndi mutu wake kulowerera mu chizoloŵezi cha chimwemwe.
Zichitikanso, kuti mnyamata wamng'onoyo amakumbutsa mkazi wachikulire wa chikondi chake, unyamata, zaka za koleji. Mnyamata uyu amapanga mkaziyo chinyengo cha kubwerera kuunyamata. Mwa njirayi, tiyenera kuzindikira kuti mtundu uwu wa ubale nthawi zambiri umamangidwa ndi amayi achichepere (ngakhale kuti si onse omwe amavomereza kuti mawuwa adzagwiritsidwa ntchito kwa chiwerewere), omwe ali msinkhu uliwonse ayese kukhala aang'ono ndi moyo wawo ndi dziko lapansi. Amatha kumvetsa mnyamatayo ndi kukhala naye nthawi zonse pamlingo komanso nthawi yomweyo kuti amupatse ulemu, ateteze kuti awathandize.
Ndipo monga potsiriza, ndi bwino kukumbukira kuti amalume achikulire nthawi zonse amadziwa zomwe akufuna m'moyo, amakhala ndi zochitika za tsiku ndi tsiku, osasamala za mavuto a tsiku ndi tsiku, kukhala ndi moyo wabwino. Ndi okonzeka kubala ana ndipo sakufuna kuthamanga ku disos. Pano pali, magnetism, zomwe zimamupangitsa mnyamata kusankha chisamaliro cha wokondedwa wachikulire. Ndipo komabe, mwa munthu mmodzi mnyamatayo amamuwona mayi onse, ndi ambuye, ndi aphunzitsi. Ndipo maukwati ndi amphamvu kwambiri, ngati aliyense amamanga ndi kukonzera aliyense. Ndizochititsa manyazi kuti anyamata sali ovuta kwambiri mu ubale umenewu, monga amayi akuluakulu.