Amayi onse adagawidwa m'magulu awiri: kutsogolera ndi otsatira. Palibe aliyense wa iwo ali ndi choipa chirichonse, wina yekha ayenera kukhala wochepetsedwa, ndipo wina amvera.
Ngati muli ndi mphamvu zofuna ndikudziimira nokha, simungathe kukhala ndi munthu yemweyo. Inde, ubale wanu udzakhala wamtendere ndi wokonda, koma wadzaza ndi mikangano ndi kusamvetsetsana. Simungathe kupirira kwa nthawi yaitali. Mwamwayi, anthu okhumba kwambiriwa amapha chikondi chawo ndi manja awo, chifukwa sangathe kuchita zinthu zotsutsana komanso kukambirana. Choncho, ngati ndinu mtsogoleri komanso mukufuna kukhala pachibwenzi, ndiye kuti muyenera kupeza mnyamata wachifundo, wokoma mtima amene angagwirizane ndi zomwe mumasankha. Izi sizikutanthauza kuti ayenera kukhala chigamba. Mwachidule pali amuna omwe ali ndi mtendere wokwanira ndi nzeru kuti asatsutsane ndi amayi awo, ndipo ngati kuli koyenera, mwakachetechete ndi mwaluso amachita zonse mwa njira yawo, kotero kuti sakuzizindikira. Mutha kudalira anyamata otero nthawi zonse.
Eya, atsikana atsogoleredwa ayenera kukomana ndi achinyamata okhumba kwambiri. Mnyamata wotere sadzalola kuti mtsikanayo athake mumphuno yamphepo yambiri, kumuthandiza ndikumukakamiza, komanso kuthetsa mavuto onsewa. N'zoona kuti munthu sayenera kuchita zinthu mopitirira malire ndikuyambitsa chiyanjano ndi wogwirizira amene amakonda kukonza ulamuliro wandale kulikonse. Ndi munthu wotero, msungwanayo amakhala kapolo wamba, amene mnyamatayo amamuseka nthawi zonse.
Azimayi ena amakhulupirira kuti ali oyenerera kwa anyamata ofanana. Izo siziri choncho. Kawirikawiri, anthu oterowo amatsutsana nthawi zonse ndikukangana, kapena, samasonyezanso zowawa. Komabe, musaiwale kuti "osasintha" ndi "kuchepetsa", ndipo osati "kuphatikiza" ndi "kuphatikiza" amakopeka. Chiwonetsero chimatheka kokha pakati pa polarity zosiyana. Mipando yamphamvu kwambiri ndi imene munthu mmodzi amakhala wodekha, wololera komanso ozizira, ndipo wachiwiri ndi wokondwa, wowopsya komanso wovuta. Inde, anthu oyambawo amavutika kuti azizolowereka, koma amakhala m'moyo kwa zaka zambiri. Chinsinsi ndicho kuti bata lidzasiya kuwononga nthawi, ndipo okondwa nthawizonse amawonjezera kuwala ndi mtundu ku moyo wokhudzana. Koma, ndithudi, kuti mukhale osangalala, muyenera kukhala ndi malingaliro, zofunikanso, kumvetsetsa ndi kumverera. Ngakhale ngati anthu akuwoneka kuti ali otsutsana, koma mkati mwawo amakhala ofanana, amatsutsana bwino ndi mabwenzi onse ndi anzawo. Mabanja oterewa nthawi zonse amatha kuthandizana ndi kumvetsa popanda mawu, chifukwa ali okhudzana ndi msinkhu wa uzimu. Choncho, m'pofunikira kudzipezera nokha osati munthu wamba, komanso moyo wanu womwe.
Ndiponso, pali akazi omwe amadana ndi chifundo cha amuna, koma alipo awo? amene amayamba kukhumudwa, ndipo nthawi yomweyo kuti azikonda. Ngati funso ndilo: Mnyamata wamtundu wanji amandikakamiza ine, ndikufunsa mayiyo kuchokera ku gulu loyambirira, ndiye amafunikira munthu amene samakonda kukambirana za mavuto ndipo amadana naye akamadandaula za iye. Inde, izi sizikutanthauza kuti msungwanayo sadzasamala za iye ndikuthandiza, koma sangamusamalire ndipo panthawi yovuta amadziwa mmene angamuthandizire, kuti asakwiyire komanso kuti asakhumudwitse. Amuna amenewa, nthawi zambiri samalankhulana za momwe zinthu zidzakhalira bwino, kuziphunzitsa, kuwongolera ndi kuyesa kuwathandiza. Iwo amakwiya, amakwiya ndipo amalongosola ngakhale kuvutika maganizo kwakukulu. Akazi omwe sakonda kumvera chisoni amuna samakhala ndi mtima wofuna kuchita zimenezi. Iwo ali ndi sitolo yambiri yamwamuna, kotero iwo amangopempha chomwe chinachitika, kumvetsera, kupereka uphungu weniweni, ngati n'kotheka, osabwereranso ku mutuwo. Chifukwa cha kumvetsetsa kotere, awiriwa amakhala ndi mtendere ndi chisomo nthawi zonse.
Koma gulu lachiwiri la amayi ndi chimodzimodzi. Atsikana awa nthawi zonse amayesa kuthandiza ndi kuwonetsa, kuthetsa mavuto, kuteteza. Amasowa amuna omwe amafunikira chisamaliro chotero ndi chisamaliro, ngakhale sakudziwa. Kawirikawiri, amayiwa amayamba kukondana ndi anyamata omwe ali ndi vuto linalake komanso mavuto omwe amachitira nawo. Poyang'ana izi zingakhale zosazindikira, koma mtsikana wotereyo nthawi zonse amatha kufika pansi pa mtima wake ndikumvetsa kuti mwamunayo ali kutali ndi momwe akuyesera kusonyeza. Mwa njira, ndi bwino kudziŵa kuti anyamatawa akufunikira thandizo, chithandizo ndi chifundo. Kawirikawiri, amayesa kuoneka ngati akukwiyitsa komanso osakhululukidwa. Ngakhale kuti ali okoma mtima komanso osatetezeka. Nthaŵi zambiri, mizu ya mavuto awo imachokera ku mabanja omwe anyamatawo sankakondedwa mokwanira, kumvetsetsedwa ndi kulemekezedwa. Tsopano akuyesera kudziwonetsera okha kuti sakusowa chikondi, ngakhale kuti ndi omwe angawathandize kuthetsa mavuto ndi zovuta. Akazi omwe amatha kudzimvera chisoni angathe kuwapatsa iwo. Iwo amatha pang'onopang'ono koma molimba mtima kupanga njira yawo kupyola makoma omwe mnyamatayo wamukweza pafupi naye, ndikugogoda pang'onopang'ono pamtima pake. Kawirikawiri, zimatengera nthawi yayitali kwambiri ndi atsikana omwe ali ndi khalidwe losiyana basi alibe kuleza mtima. Koma amayi awa akhoza kupita ku cholinga mu milimita, mulimita, osamvetsera kuti mnyamatayo amatsutsa mwamphamvu. Iwo amathandiza anthu awo okondedwa kuti akhulupirire mwa iwo okha ndi kupeza njira mu moyo. Amuna amenewa, nthawi zambiri, sangathe kuganiza kuti akhoza kukwaniritsa chinachake. Msungwana yemwe sapanda kumumvera chisoni amuna sangamulimbikitse kuti amuthandize ndikuyang'ana njira yothandizira. Iye sakudziwa momwe angachitire izi chifukwa cha chikhalidwe. Koma amayi achifundo nthawi zonse amayesa kukankhira mwamuna wawo, kumupangitsa iye, kupeza zifukwa ndi kuthandizira, mwa njira zonse.
Anthu onse ndi osiyana, ndipo chifukwa cha kufanana kwawo kuti aliyense wa ife, pamapeto pake, angapeze banja lokongola kwambiri kwa ife tokha ndi kuthetsa mwatsatanetsatane - ndi mnyamata wanji amene amandikonda ine.