Matchmaker, kukwatirana ndi amuna olemera

Mapulogalamu a katswiri wa matchmaker ankagwiritsidwa ntchito nthawi zamakedzana. Pa nthawi yochita masewerowa ankachitidwa molingana ndi "malamulo" onse, malinga ndi mwambo. Swat pambali ya mkwati adatumizidwa ku nyumba ya mkwatibwi. Ntchito yawo inali kutamanda mwamuna wokhayokha kwa makolo a mkwatibwi. Msungwanayo sankakhoza ngakhale kumuwona msungwanayo. Pambuyo pa kuvomereza kwa makolo kuukwati - mkwatibwi anapita kwa "mkwatibwi". Pachifukwa ichi, ochita masewerowa amayesa kukumbukira bwino, ndipo auza mkwati mwatsatanetsatane ubwino ndi zovuta za mtsikanayo. Pambuyo pake, "wogulitsa" mwiniyo amaloledwa kuwona nthawi zambiri ndi "katundu", nthawi zambiri, kuwonedwa pamaso pa ukwati wokha. Kupyolera mwa ochita maseŵera kapena pamaso pake zinthu zonse zofunika kwambiri zinathetsedwa: tsiku la chikondwerero, phwando la nkhuku, kayendedwe ka dowry ndi zina zambiri, zomwe zinali mbali ya mwambo. Lero pakati pa zokambirana zathu ndi masewera, omwe amadziwika ndi amuna olemera amene ntchito zawo zimakonda kwambiri.

Wopatsa matchmaker wopindulitsa chifukwa chogwira ntchito mowolowa manja. Koma ngakhale kupambana kwakukulu kwa maphunziro apamwamba kunali chiwerengero cha masaya omwe anali nawo. Chikumbumtima ichi cha zovala chinali chidziwitso cha luso ndi luso la ochita masewerawa kuti athetse maukwati opindulitsa ndi mabanja okondwa. Wothandizira masewerawa amadziwiratu nthawi zonse za a sukulu ndi okwatirana omwe angathe kukhala nawo, kukula kwa dowry, ubwino wa mabanja, anthu omwe ali achinyamata, ulemu ndi zolephera za ndege ndi makhalidwe. Kuti achite izi, adayenera kupereka ziphuphu kwa antchito, wamaluwa ndi antchito ena, koma malondawa, monga malamulo, adadzilungamitsa okha atangomaliza kukwatirana.

M'zaka zimenezo anthu olemera okha amatha kupita ku machitidwe a katswiri wa matchmaker: amalonda, olemekezeka. Ndipo kholo lirilonse linkafuna kuti agwirizane ndi mwana wake, atakhala wachibale ndi banja lomwe udindo wake unali wapamwamba kapena ndalama zambiri. Mwachidziwikire, maukwati omwe ali m'kalasi lomwelo anali wamba. Chosiyana ndi chitsanzo cha ukwati wa wolemekezeka wotchuka yemwe ali ndi mtsikana wolemera kwambiri.

Yakhala nthawi yayitali kuyambira masiku akale aja, ndipo ntchito za matchmakers akadali zofunika. Tsopano mu ntchito zawo, monga kale, mgwirizano wa mitima iwiri. Koma amakono a matchmakers, ndithudi, amasiyana ndi oyambirira awo akale. Kusiyanitsa ndiko, mwinamwake, pokhapokha ngati palibe malamulo ambiri a matchmaking.

Pamene mumakhala mozunguliridwa ndi anthu: kuntchito, mumsewu, ku malo ogulitsa, ndipo pakubwera kwanu palibe wina woti muyankhule naye, ndiye mukuganiza mozama za banja. Kusungulumwa ndi mliri wa nthawi yathu. Pano pali mafananidwe ndikuthandizira anthu osungulumwa kupeza moyo wawo.

Zikuwoneka kuti masiku ano zamakono zamakono zamakono, ngakhale popanda malo odziŵika bwino, munthu amatha kudziŵa bwino ndi kuyang'ana okwatirana omwe angakhale nawo okha. Koma kukhala pachibwenzi kudzera pawebusaiti yapadera kapena, choipa kwambiri, malonda a nyuzipepala akhoza kukhala owopsa, osati kungowononga nthawi ndi khama, koma, povuta kwambiri, kusowa ndalama kapena moyo. Ndipo ndi anthu angati osaganiza bwino m'magulu otere? Ndipo bwanji ngati msungwana wokongola uyu ali ndi daisies kwenikweni ali msaki kwa amuna omwe ali ndi chuma chambiri ndi wong'amba chabe? Udindo wa matchmaker ndiye umakhala wofunikira kwambiri. Wojambula wamakono wamakono ayenera kuphunzira khalidwe la munthu kuchokera ku deta yomwe ingapezeke pambuyo pa kuyankhulana kwanu. Ndipotu, akhoza kupeza awiri, pogwiritsa ntchito deta yoyamba. Tsopano iwo alibe othandizira aphunzitsi monga antchito. Ndikofunika kudalira pazinthu zaumwini, zofunikira za NLP ndi psychology ndipo, ndithudi, "diso lako lophunzitsidwa" ndi chidziwitso. Otsatira omwe ali ochezera masewerawa ndi olemera komanso amuna ndi akazi abwino. Kufunafuna kukula kwa ntchito ndi chitukuko, sankakhala ndi nthawi yokwanira yoyambitsa chiyanjano chachikulu ndikupanga banja. Inde, ndipo chifukwa choti muzitha kufufuza pa tsamba la malo ochezerako ndipo muzitha kugwiritsa ntchito nthawi yoyenera pa chiyero choyambirira. Mphindi kunja kwa masiku, miyezi, zaka. Kwa anthu olemera omwe apanga ntchito yabwino, nthawi yabwino yopanga banja lolimba ndi lachikondi limasungunuka mphindi iliyonse. Pano wokonza maseŵera amakhala wothandizira kwambiri. Kufunafuna abwenzi abwino, zimachokera pazomwe anthu ali nazo komanso okwatirana. Okonzanso, ali ndi luso la maganizo ndi chidziwitso choyenera kuti asiye kudzidzidzidwa kwa kasitomala wolemera ndi msaki kwa ndalama. Kapena kuti kulepheretsa anthu awiri kukhala osagwirizana kapena khalidwe labwino, ndi zina zambiri zofunika, pambali pa kukongola ndi ndalama, ayenera kuganiziridwa ndi "procuresses" odziŵa zambiri.

Mpaka munthu atayesa kupanga chiyanjano cha banja, ntchito za katswiri wochita masewerawa zidzakhala zofunikira. Pambuyo pake, zotsatira za ntchito yake ndilo lonjezo la chimwemwe chenicheni ndi ubwino wa banja wa aliyense kasitomala amene anapempha thandizo.

Ndi chimene iye ali, matchmaker; Kucheza ndi amuna olemera, akukonzekera mosavuta!