Inu mumayamba kukumbukira momwe mwamsanga ubwenzi wanu unakhalira, momwe kukongola kwake kuliri. Anakupatsani khofi pabedi, anapereka maluwa ambiri, avomereza chikondi chake. Inu simunakhale nayo ngakhale nthawi yoti muyang'ane mmbuyo, monga iye anakuuzani inu kwa makolo ake. Ndipo zonsezi zinachitikadi mu miyezi itatu ya mnzanu. Apa pakubwera ukwati, inu mukuwona maso ake achikondi, muli ndi chisangalalo chosangalatsa chaukwati. Ndipo inu mumayamba kumvetsa kuti pali chikondi mu moyo pakuyamba kuona.
Ndiyeno pakudza mphindi mu moyo mukamabwera m'maganizo mwanu mutangokhalira kukondana ndikuyamba kumvetsa kuti moyo wa banja mumaganizira kuti mwadala mwadzidzidzi mukugwa. Mukuyamba kuona munthu wanu wosiyana kwambiri, phunzirani za kusakhulupirika ndi kuti iye, akutembenuka, amakonda kumwa. Ndipo tsopano ubale wanu, umene unayamba mofulumira kwambiri, umatha ndi chisudzulo. Iwe sungakhale wopanda mwamuna wako wokondedwa, ndipo phunzirani kwa abwenzi kuti iye amauza aliyense pa ngodya iliyonse kuti iwe ndiwe weniweni.
Simukudziwa choti muchite ndi chiyani chomwe chimayambitsa kusweka kwa ubale wanu? Simungathe kuona zizindikiro zonse zomwe zingakuuzeni kuti munthu uyu si inu. Tiyeni tiyese kuzindikira zizindikiro zisanu za munthu wolakwika, ndikuziganizira mosiyana.
Chizindikiro choyamba ndicho kukakamiza kugonana.
Mukazindikira kuti patapita masabata awiri a mnzanuyo, wosankhidwa wanu akufuna kukudziwitsani kwa makolo ake, musakondwere kwambiri. Izi sizikutanthauza kuti iye amakondana kwambiri ndi inu. Mwamuna wanu amangokhalira kukondana ndipo ntchito yake ndi kukudzazani ndi mphatso ndi kuvomereza kwake chikondi. Akuyesera kupanga izo kuti ubale wanu upite momwe mungathere ndikuti mulibe nthawi yoyang'ana mmbuyo ndikuwona mwa osankhidwa anu zosungiramo zake zonse. Mu mgwirizano woterewu, muyenera kukhala oganiza bwino ndipo musataye mutu wanu, chifukwa munthu wanu posachedwa akhoza kukubweretsani ululu waukulu. Mukawona kuti wosankhidwa wanu akuthamangira zinthu, yesetsani kulankhula naye za izo. Ndipo ngati malingaliro ake ali enieni, iye amachepetsa msinkhu, ndipo ngati ayi, ndiye khalidwe ili, limanena kuti chinachake cholakwika mu ubale wanu.
Chizindikiro chachiwiri ndikulumikiza maubwenzi.
Tonsefe azimayi sitifuna kwenikweni kudziwa za kale lomwe tinasankha. Timakhulupirira kuti zonse zomwe adali nazo pamaso panu sizikukhudzani inu. Koma izi ndi zolakwika. Pali amuna ochuluka omwe anali ndi maubwenzi ambiri ndi amayi ndipo ubale wawo unatha nthawi zonse. Amunawa samakonda kukhala okha ndikuyesera kuyambitsa ubale watsopano kusiyana ndi kuganizira za chifukwa chomwe chiwonongeko cha ubale wakale ndi. Ndipo apa palibe chitsimikizo chenicheni kuti, kukhala ndi inu tsopano, chiyanjano chanu sichidzatha ndi kusiyana komweko. Muyenera kumabwera mu malingaliro anu pakapita nthawi ndikuganiza chifukwa chake osankhidwa anu nthawi zambiri amakhala okha. Khalani ndi wokondedwa wanu ndipo yesetsani kulankhula naye mozama mtima. Yesetsani kudziwa momwe moyo wake unalili ndi chibwenzi chachikulu komanso chomwe chimayambitsa kusiyana. Muyenera kudziwa kuchokera kwa iye kuti amadzimva kuti ali ndi mlandu chifukwa chophwanya mgwirizano wake wakale ndi momwe akukamba za amayi omwe anali naye pachibwenzi. Ngati mwamuna wanu akudzudzula akazi kuti apume ndi kuyankha za iwo popanda mawu abwino, zikutanthawuza kuti iye ndi msilikali wamkulu. Amuna amenewa ali ndi vuto la m'maganizo, ndipo sangathe kuyamba mgwirizano watsopano, komanso samadziwa momwe angawasungire.
Chizindikiro chachitatu ndipita.
Muyenera kupeza mbiri yake yonse ya moyo ndi anyamata, komanso mudziwe za thanzi lake komanso ngati ali ndi chigawenga. Kuti muwonere tsogolo lanu ndi munthu pasadakhale, muyenera kuphunzira mosamala zapitazo. Ngati munthu wanu adatsutsidwa ndi chiwawa kapena chiwawa, ndiye ndikukhulupirirani ine, mwamuna wotere sadzakhala mwamuna wabwino komanso bambo wabwino. Ndipo ngati nthawi ina adakweza dzanja pa mkazi wake, ndiye kuti palibe chitsimikizo kuti sangakukwezereni.
Chizindikiro chachinai ndizokhazikika khalidwe labwino.
Kawirikawiri amayi ambiri amaganiza kuti akhoza kuwongolera amuna awo. Amaganiza kuti chikondi chingasinthe munthu aliyense. Ngati muzindikira munthu wanu mu khalidwe lake, sasintha konse komanso chilichonse chimene mukuchita, zonse zimakhala zofanana, muyenera kulingalira ngati mukumufuna. Mwa amuna oterowo, khalidwe lokhazikika ndi mtundu wofanana wa anthu sangasinthe.
Chizindikiro chachisanu ndicho akazi omwe amawasankha.
Muyenera kupeza kuti ndi akazi otani amene amasankha kuti azigwirizana. Ngati akukuuzani kuti amayi ake anali oopsa, ndiye kuti amasankha akazi kuti azidzilemekeza. Ndipo ngakhale simunayambe kuchita zimenezo, iye adzayesera kukupangitsani munthu wonyansa. Chifukwa amakonda abambo, omwe angathe kulamulidwa mosavuta. Musamamupatse mwayi umenewu.
Tikukhulupirira, takuuzani momwe mungadziwire zizindikiro zisanu za munthu wolakwika, ndipo munachenjeza tsogolo lanu pa zolakwitsa zomwe mungakumane nazo kwambiri. Khalani osamala posankha bwenzi la moyo wanu!