Chifukwa chiyani? Tidzafotokoza izi pansipa. Kodi zifukwa zathu ziti zogonana, mankhwala osokoneza bongo, mowa ndi kusuta fodya: timatsutsana ndi izi, chifukwa zimayambitsa zonyansa, matenda a maganizo, monga opitirira, komanso mavuto aakulu ndi thanzi, moyo. Ife tikutsutsa izi, chifukwa tikudziwa zotsatira za kuchitiridwa nkhanza za aliyense wa iwo.
Simukufunikira ngakhale kujambula katatu yaitali pa zovuta zomwe kusuta ndi mowa zili nazo. Kulankhula zazomwezi, sizowononga thanzi la wogwiritsa ntchito, komanso thanzi la ana ake, zidzukulu zake zamtsogolo. Mowa umawononga makhalidwe, khalidwe la munthu. Zimatsimikiziridwa kuti omwa mowa amanyansidwa, khalidwe lawo likusintha, ndipo mwachidziwitso iwo sangakhale osamvetsetseka kwa anthu oyandikana nawo, ngakhale iwo eniwo sangathe kuzizindikira. Maganizo, makhalidwe, zokhudzidwa, kugwirizana ndi anthu ndi zowona zowonongeka. Munthu amasiya kukhala yekha, kupatulapo, amasonyeza kuti ali wofooka, akudalira nkhani. Mowa posachedwa umatenga munthu, iye mwiniwake amadziwononga yekha kuchokera mkati. Mwina ali wofooka mwamakhalidwe kukana, kapena sakusamala. Zomwezo zimagwiranso ntchito ku zinthu monga mankhwala. Zikuwoneka kuti ndizolimba kwambiri, ndipo kumwa mankhwala osokoneza bongo sikunali kofala kwambiri. Koma izi siziri choncho, mankhwala osokoneza bongo ali amphamvu ndi osowa, zoledzeretsa zili ponseponse ndipo anthu odwala amakhala ambiri. N'zomvetsa chisoni kuti mankhwalawa amatengedwa ndi anthu onse aang'ono ndi aang'ono. Osadziŵa zochita zawo, kufuna kuchoka ku zenizeni kapena kungokhala ndi zowawa zatsopano, achinyamata amamwa mankhwala osokoneza bongo poyamba, ndipo amatha kulimbitsa, osadziŵa kuti posachedwa amayamba kumwa mowa. Moyo umakhala wovuta, makhalidwe abwino amapita kumbuyo, chirichonse chimapita chachiwiri, kupatula chilakolako ndi kufunika kokhala ndi mlingo watsopano. Ife tikutsutsa izi, sichoncho inu?
Kusuta ndi mankhwala omwewo, koma mofooka chifukwa cha zomwe akuchita, zikuwoneka kuti ife sitibisala pangozi. Koma kodi zili choncho? Anthu ena sadzayesa mankhwala osokoneza bongo chifukwa amadziŵa mphamvu ya zochita zawo komanso kuwonongedwa kwa munthu amene amanyamula. Komabe adasankha kusuta, omwe ndi ofooka kwambiri, ndipo amakhala osokoneza moyo, ndikudziwononga okha kuchokera mkati. Inde, mankhwalawa ndi ofooka chifukwa cha zotsatira zake ndi mphamvu yakuledzera, ngati ayesedwa kapena kugwiritsidwa ntchito kangapo. Koma "mayesero" awa ali kale sitepe yotsalira, yomwe imatenga zaka zambiri, komanso ngakhale moyo wanu wonse. Kusuta fodya kuli ndi zotsatira zambiri zoipa. Anthu omwe amamwa mowa amaopseza thanzi lawo, komanso mwanayo, anthu omwe amawazungulira, chifukwa osuta fodya amavutika kwambiri ndi izi. Kuwonongeka kwa thanzi kumakhala kodabwitsa kwambiri, koma kupatula izi, kusuta kumatiwononga tonse kuchokera mkati ndi kunja: mano achikasu, khungu lokasu ndi loipa, zambiri za zofooka zake zimachuluka, zosautsa kuchokera pakamwa, zovulaza pansi pa maso, zoonda, zowuma, tsitsi loipa . Kusuta fodya n'kovuta kubwereranso ku chikhalidwe choyambirira cha kukongola. Kodi mwakonzeka kupereka nsembe zoterozo chifukwa cha mankhwala osokoneza bongo? Zonsezi sizimabweretsa chilichonse chabwino, chiwonongeko chokha. Odwala osadziŵa zambiri, pewani. Ena ali ofooka kwambiri kuti athe kupirira chikhumbo chawo, kudalira. Iwo amadzizungulira okha ndi khoma la zolakwika, zifukwa. Amayendayenda m'maganizo awo, amasiyana ndikupeza chinachake chimene angathe kudzidandaula nacho kuti athe kuchitapo kanthu. Icho chingakhale chirichonse. Koma musaiwale kuti aliyense wa ife ali mbuye wa tsogolo lathu ndi moyo. Palibe wina koma ife tokha amene angatipatse ife kapena kusankha zomwe tingachite, momwe tingakhalire ndi moyo, zomwe tiyenera kumenyana kapena zomwe tingapereke, kudzidalira.
Pang'ono pomwe, ife tikuganiza za kugonana, chifukwa sizili za magulu akale omwe adatchulidwapo ndi mankhwala osokoneza bongo ayi. Kuphatikiza apo, monga aliyense wa ife amadziwira, kugonana ndikofunikira, payekha ndibwino, koma pazimenezi pali zinthu zina. Kugonana - izi ndi mbali ya chiyanjano cha kukondana wina ndi mzake, pokhapokha pali kugwirizana kwakukulu kwa uzimu ndi maganizo pakati pawo. Munthu wokonda, timatanthauza zomwe timakonda moyo wake, momwe amalingalira ndi maonekedwe ake. Ngati chimodzi mwa mfundo izi chikutuluka - ichi si chikondi. Popeza takhala ndi chikondi ndi munthu, timachizindikira kwathunthu, timachiwonetsera icho m'moyo wathu, moyo, mtima. Kugonana ndi njira imodzi yosangalalira thupi, kukondwera ndi momwe munthu wokondedwa wathu, pano, akutsatira. Kuwonjezera apo, popanda kugonana sikudzakhala ndi ana, ndipo iwo, monga momwe tikudziwira, maluwa a moyo, cholinga chachikulu komanso chachikulu cha ubale m'mabanja ambiri.
Koma kawirikawiri lingaliro la kugonana ndilokhazikika, kuchepetsa njira yodzikondweretsa, ziribe kanthu momwe ndi ndi ndani. Ndi kusiyana kwanji komwe kumapanga yemwe ali mnzawo ndi zomwe amamverera, chofunika kwambiri - zosangalatsa zake, udindo wa wokonda kapena wansembe wamkazi wachikondi. Koma kodi chikondi chimenechi ndi? Kuonjezera apo, nthawi zambiri mumagulu ndi kugonana ndi mankhwala osokoneza bongo komanso kumwa mowa - ndipo ichi ndi sitepe yoyamba kwa zotsatira zosokoneza za moyo.
Timatsutsana ndi kugonana, mowa, mankhwala osokoneza bongo komanso kusuta fodya. Koma aliyense amasankha yekha njira yake ndi zomwe adzakhale komanso cholinga chake.