Malinga ndi kafukufuku, anthu 5% ali ndi chisokonezo chotere, koma sikulakwa kuitanitsa ena onse osakhala achikoka. Munthu wokondweretsa nthawizonse amakhala mtsogoleri, ngakhale khalidwe lalikulu la chisangalalo chake sichiri utsogoleri. Iye ndi wosiyana mu zomwe amachitira mu moyo, ndipo osati moyo kumutsogolera.
Njira ya wamba mikwingwirima
Kupeza chisangalalo chanu - mikhalidwe yolimba ya munthu - sizimaphweka konse, ndipo nthawi zambiri imakhala kunja kwina. Anthu, monga lamulo, amadzitengera okha, ndi makhalidwe awo ndipo nthawi zambiri sangathe kuyankha funso lomwe ndilo khalidwe lawo lokongola kwambiri. Kuteteza kwa maganizo kumagwira ntchito pano, kotero ntchito iyi siingathetsere pang'onopang'ono. Odziwa ntchito, omwe chifukwa cha luso lawo angathe kuona chisokonezo chobisika mwa anthu ena, gwiritsani ntchito njira zosiyanasiyana kuti muchotsere kuunika.
Chinthu chachikulu chimene muyenera kudziwa, kuyambira kufunafuna charisma - mikhalidwe yolimba ya munthu: manyazi amatseka, ndipo makhalidwe abwino amayamba kusonyeza osalimbikitsa.
Mwachitsanzo, munthu yemwe ali ndi khalidwe lolimba - kulankhulana ndi anthu, amayamba kulankhula mobwerezabwereza ku zovuta kuposa nthawi zonse, ndipo munthu yemwe ali ndi makhalidwe abwino ozindikiritsa amadzibisa yekha ndipo sangathe kunena mawu. Choncho, muyenera kuyamba choyamba kudzidalira. Pambuyo pachisokonezo - makhalidwe amphamvu a munthu, osati nthawi zonse osati onse omwe angawonetseredwe.
Kumbukirani "vuto la kuthana ndi vutoli bwinobwino ndikuyesa kujambula chizindikiro mwa mphamvu yomwe inakuthandizani kuti mutulukemo. Chizindikiro ichi chidzakulolani kuti muone makhalidwe amphamvu omwe amadziwonetsera momveka bwino m'mavuto. Maonekedwe a chizindikiro amathandiza kuthana ndi ziwalo za mkati. Ndiye mukhoza kuganizira momwe mungaperekere mphamvu zanu kwa anthu, momwe mungasonyezere.
Mukhoza kuyesa kupeza chisangalalo nokha. Zida zimadziwika, ndizosavuta, koma popanda akatswiri kugwira nawo ntchito bwino kokha ngati charisma ikuwonetsedwa, ndipo munthu ali wokonzeka kuvomereza. Nthawi zambiri zimachitika kuti musanayambe kuchita zachiwawa, muyenera kugwira ntchito mogwirizana.
Munthu akazindikira makhalidwe ake amphamvu, amayamba kudziwonetsera yekha payekha. Zizolowezi zosinthika ndi malingaliro, mulimonsemo, ndizo zochitika zomwe akatswiri a zamaganizo amapanga kwenikweni pamapeto pa gawo limodzi pakutulukira kwa charisma.
Munthu akazindikira ndi kuvomereza chisangalalo chake, munthu akhoza kuchita nawo mawonetseredwe m'mbali zonse za fanoli:
gabitarnom (mumayang'ana bwanji):
mawu (mumanena chiyani):
mawu (monga mukunena):
Kachibadwa (pamene mukuyenda);
zachilengedwe (zomwe zikukuzungulira);
kuvala (makadi a zamalonda, timabuku, zinthu zomwe mumapereka ndi zomwe zimapereka umboni wa umunthu).
Choyamba, ndi bwino kuika maganizo anu pa 1-2 malangizo. Kwa otchulidwa pa TV, mawonekedwe ofunikira kwambiri a chithunzithunzi ndi chigabit ndi chithunzithunzi chakunja, kwa wogulitsa malonda - gabitarny ndi mawu. Pamene munthu ali ndi chisangalalo - mikhalidwe yamphamvu ya munthu imawoneka maonekedwe, anthu amamvetsetsa bwino, zomwe zimapangitsa kukhala ndi chidaliro nthawi zonse.
Ntchito ikhoza kuyenda m'njira zosiyanasiyana. Katswiri wa zamaganizo nthawi zambiri amapereka malangizo ambiri, wophunzira akhoza kugwira ntchito ndi mawonetseredwe atsatanetsatane, zingakhale zabwino kuti afunsane ndi wopanga mafano, katswiri wamaluso, ndi zina zotero. Chinachake munthu akhoza kudzichita mosavuta pamene ayamba kukhala ndi chidaliro mu khalidwe latsopano.
Kufunsa kwa katswiri aliyense ndiwothandiza kwambiri, ndikofunika kumvetsa zomwe mukufuna. Muyenera kudziyankhira nokha ku mafunso awa: "Ndikufuna chiyani?" Ndipo "Ndi chiyani?". Ndipo pofunsa mafunso awa, muyenera kukwaniritsa cholinga chanu chachikulu. Mwachitsanzo, pezani munthu wapafupi komanso wosakwatira. Ndi ntchitoyi mukhoza kupita kwa katswiri. Izi zimagwira ntchito osati kokha kuululira zachisangalalo, zimakhudza cholinga ndi ntchito iliyonse.
Monga momwe chiwonetsero chimasonyezera , kwa amai ndizofunikira kwambiri kufufuza fano lanu lachigabitchi, kuwonetsa chisangalalo chanu kudzera mu zovala, zipangizo komanso zodzoladzola. Malangizo a kufufuza amathandiza kudziwa mayeso.
Kwa akazi, kufunafuna fano latsopano kuli kosavuta kusiyana ndi amuna. Ayenera kudalira chidziwitso ndikupita kukagula malingaliro. Yendani m'masitolo ndipo yesetsani kumvetsetsa kuti ndi zotani zomwe zimayambitsa izi kapena zinthu zina. Yesani kupeza zovala zomwe zimayambitsa mkati mwanu "Ooooo!". Zovala zoterezi zimasonyeza zomwe mumakonda, chisangalalo chanu, makamaka mukachiyanjanitsa ndi inu nokha. Yesetsani kumvetsetsa zomwe ziri, zomwe mumakonda - zakuthupi, kudula, mtundu, zizindikiro za kalembedwe. Musaope kuyang'ana m'mabotolo odula ndikuyesera kavalidwe kake. Ngati mumvetsetsa kuti izi ndi zanu komanso zomwe mukuziganizira, mumatha kupeza chinthu chimodzimodzi, koma ndi zotsika mtengo.
Njira iyi si yoyenera kwa anthu omwe ali ndi chitetezo champhamvu cha maganizo. Chidziwitso chosadziwika: anthu oterewa amakhala ndi chilumikizo chowopsya ku mtundu umodzi (kawirikawiri wakuda). Kuti mumvetsetse kuti mumagwidwa zingati, muyenera kusiya zovala zoyenera kapena mtundu wokonda kwa sabata ndikuyesera kupeza mitundu ina yabwino. Izi zikutanthauza kuti, mwadzidzidzi, yesetsani kuti mukhale osasangalala kuti mupeze chitonthozo chatsopano. Komabe, katswiri wa zamaganizo yekha angathe kuchotsa chitetezo chotere, popeza chikugwirizana ndi mavuto a m'maganizo.