Wokwatirana zaka 30: zolephera
Ndili ndi zaka, maulendo a kulankhulana kwa anthu, nthawi zambiri, amachepetsa kwambiri. Ndipo ngati simunakhalepo moyo wokhudzana ndi moyo, ndiye kuti panthawiyi, nkokayikitsa kuti wina adzakhalapo, kupatulapo abwenzi angapo ndi anzake ogwira ntchito. Izi zimabweretsa kuwona kuti kupeza munthu wodzakwatirana naye kumakhala kovuta komanso kovuta, ndipo zikumbutso zochokera kwa achibale siziwalola kuti azisangalala.
Ngati mutha kuthetsa mavuto omwe akufotokozedwa pamwambapa, ndiye kuti muthokozedwa, sikuti aliyense ali ndi bwino. Mwatsoka, izi siziri zonse, mavuto akuyamba, mavuto a moyo wam'banja lino.
Choyamba, anthu omwe amakhala nawo zaka zambiri, zimakhala zovuta kwambiri kuti azizoloŵana wina ndi mzake, chifukwa aliyense amazoloŵera kukhala yekha komanso kutalika mosavuta ndi zizoloŵezi za anthu ena. Kodi mungathe kutseka maso anu kumalo okhumudwitsa a banja?
Ukwati ali ndi zaka makumi atatu amatanthauza kuti ana a uvas adzachedwa. Izi sizikutanthauza vuto lovuta la mkangano wa mibadwo, komanso kuti thupi la mayi wamkulu, lidzakhala lovuta kwambiri kuti abereke ndi kubereka mwana. Pa chifukwa ichi, lamuloli liyenera kuyamba kukonzekera mwamsanga pambuyo pa chikwati.
Tinabweretsa zinthu zovuta kwambiri m'banja mwatha zaka makumi atatu, tsopano mukhoza kulingalira zabwino zake.
Wokwatirana usinkhu wa zaka 30: ubwino
Pa zaka izi, monga lamulo, anthu amadziwa kale zomwe akufuna m'moyo, komanso kuchokera ku ubale wa banja, ndi kukwatira ndi udindo wonse, mosamala. Komanso, kawirikawiri munthu amadziwa kale momwe angapewere kusamvana, osayang'anitsitsa zofooka zazikulu - zonsezi zidzakuthandizani kuchepetsa chiwerengero cha mikangano ndi zoopsa zina, ndipo, motero, izi zikutanthauza kuti banja lidzakhala lamphamvu kwambiri.
Chofunika kwambiri ndi mbali ya nkhaniyi. Ngati mnzanuyo ali ndi zaka zoposa 30, ndiye kuti kale ali ndi udindo wina mumudzi, malo okhala, ntchito, magalimoto. Zikatero, mukhoza kumasuka ndi kulola kuti muzisangalala ndi moyo. Sudzayenera kuthamanga kupambana pofuna kuyesa tsogolo lanu, mutha kubereka mwana ndikumuphunzitsa. Ndipo ngakhale chinachake choipa chikuchitika, ndiye simusowa kuyamba pomwepo.
Azimayi ena amawona kuti ndizopindulitsa zomwe nthawi zambiri zimaperekedwa ku msinkhu woperekedwa, munthuyo "wayenda kale", komanso ion mwiniwake. Mikuntho yonse ya zilakolako ndi zokhumudwitsa zadutsa ndipo tsopano inu ndi mnzanuyo muli okonzekera ubale wa banja. Simudzakhalanso inu, kapena mwamuna wanu sangakuopsezeni chifukwa cha zokhumudwitsa.
Kawirikawiri muukwati wotero, kugonana kumagwira bwino mokwanira. Wokondedwa aliyense ali kale ndi zowonjezera zam'moyo wake komanso zomwe akudziwa, zomwe zimakulolani kuti muzisangalala, kotero mutha kuzibweretsa kwa mnzanu wina. Inde, wina sangathe kunena motsimikiza kuti maubwenzi apamtima adzakhutiritsa aliyense, koma mwayi ndi wapamwamba kwambiri.
Choncho, patatha zaka makumi atatu zakubadwa zili ndi ubwino wambiri - muli ndi maudindo ena, zokhudzana ndi moyo wanu, ndinu okondwa muukwati ndipo mukhoza kukhala mayi wabwino kwambiri.
Ziwerengero zina
Malinga ndi deta yoperekedwa ndi European Social Survey yomwe inachitika mu 2006, pafupifupi khumi mwa amayi a ku Russia omwe ali pakati pa zaka makumi atatu ndi makumi atatu ndi makumi anayi sanakwatirane kamodzi, koma ndi zaka makumi asanu ndi limodzi chiwerengero chawo chagwera pa anayi, Zidzakhala zovuta kusankha pa sitepe yofunika kwambiri komanso yofunika kwambiri.