N'zosadabwitsa kuti atsikana amaganiza za izi, chifukwa chakuti banja lolemera limapereka mpongozi wosauka kumadalira "nyengo" mnyumbamo komanso ubale ndi wokondedwa wake. Pofuna kudziwiratu momwe mtsikana angalandirire banja, muyenera kudziwa momwe anthu apindulira udindo wawo, chifukwa izi zimakhudza kwambiri maganizo omwe ali nawo kwa anthu omwe ali ndi ndalama zochepa.
Kotero, mwinamwake makolo a munthu wokondedwa wanu afika pamalo awo mu anthu ndi chuma okha. Pankhaniyi, ndithudi, iwo sadzapondereza ndi kuchitira chipongwe apongozi awo osauka. M'malo mwake, banja lotero nthawi zonse limayesetsa kuthandiza ndi kuthandizira. Koma, amatsimikiziranso kuti mkazi wa mwana wawo yekha akufuna chinachake. Khalanibe apongozi awo, iwo sadzatero konse. Chowonadi ndi chakuti makolo a chibwenzi chanu adapita ku cholinga. Pamene iwo anali ngati inu ndipo amadziwa kuti palibe choyenera kuweruza mtsikana wosauka. Makolo awo sankakhoza kuwapatsa moyo wapamwamba, koma iwo amawakonda iwo, chifukwa chisangalalo sichiri ndalama. Choncho, iwo sadzatsutsa banja lanu, amavomereza ndikuthandizira. Mfundo yakuti simuli olemera, sikofunikira kwambiri pamakhalidwe awo, malinga ndi zomwe amadziwa ngati akufuna munthu. Banja lomwelo lidzavomereza malo anu ndipo silidzatsutsa makolo anu zovala zosavuta kapena zochitika m'nyumba. Choncho musadandaule kwambiri. Komanso, onsewa adalera mwana yemwe akhoza kukondana ndi mtsikana wosauka, osamvetsera tcheru monga zovala, ndalama komanso zovala. Tsopano, chofunikira kwambiri, musawachititse manyazi. Ngati muwonetsa kuti ndalama ndizofunikira kwa inu, makolo a mnyamata adzakhumudwa. Anthu oterowo samaganizira zokhala nazo zomwe ali nazo, koma osati ndi omwe akufuna kukhala ndi ndalama zawo. Izi ndizolondola, sizongopanda kanthu kuti banja lino lagwira ntchito mwakhama moyo wanga wonse, koma tsopano wina akufuna basi kukhala mwamtendere komanso momasuka, osachita khama. Ayi, sakufuna kwenikweni apongozi awo aulesi ndi amodzi. Choncho, iwo adzatsutsa ukwati wanu. Koma, pano ngati muwonetsa kuti simusamala konse, mumakhala olemera bwanji banja lanu okondedwa, ndipo chofunikira kwambiri, mumakondwera ndi moyo wanu ndipo musaganizire za ndalama, zonse zidzakhala zosiyana. Ingokumbukirani kuti muyenera kusonyeza zoyamba ndikuwonetsa kuti mukufuna chinachake mwa inu nokha. Ndiye banja silidzakulandirani, koma limathandizanso. Koma musayambe kugwiritsa ntchito kukoma mtima kwawo. Anthu omwe, motero, amachokera mwa anthu, momveka bwino amamva komwe choonadi chiri, ndipo pali mabodza ndipo amatha kuthetsa kudzikuza. Choncho, ngati mutayamba kukhala opanda nzeru, iwo amakuwonetsani mwamsanga malowo. Kupanda kutero, iwe udzakhala munthu wobadwira amene sangadandaule nazo.
Koma, momwe mungachitire pa nkhaniyi pamene banja la chibwenzi chanu liri ndi vuto lake silo mbadwo woyamba ndipo wakula kale kuyang'ana pansi omwe ali osawuka. Zikatero, inu, ndithudi, mudzakhala zovuta kwambiri. Koma, komabe, musataye mtima ndi kudzidetsa nokha m'maso mwao. Kumbukirani nthawi zonse kuti ndinu osauka, koma muli ndi chilakolako. Choncho musamachite manyazi ndi mbiri yanu komanso banja lanu. Komanso musadzilole nokha kuti muchite manyazi. Mwinamwake makolo aamuna akungoyang'anitsitsa kuti muwone ngati mukumuyenerera iye ndipo mukhoza kudzizoloŵera m'magulu apamwamba a anthu. Komanso, akufuna kudziwa ngati mukufuna kungolowera basi. Khalani oleza mtima, koma musalole kudzudzula, ngati palibe chifukwa. Kuwonjezera apo, m'mabanja otero nthawi zonse kumalera bwino. Salola kulekerera atsikana ochokera mumsewu, zomwe zidzanyoza banja lawo. Ngati mwasankha kukhala gawo la banja lotero, muyenera kukhala mayi weniweni. Ngakhale ngati simukuzoloŵera komanso simudziwa kukhala momwemo.
Ndikofunika kuphunzira, mwinamwake makolo a wokondedwa sakudziwa ndi kukuvomerezani inu. Komabe, pasakhale nkhondo m'banjamo. Kumbukirani kuti anthu awa, zirizonse zomwe ali, ali okondedwa kwambiri ndi okondedwa kwa chibwenzi chanu. Choncho, ngati mumatsutsana, mnyamata wanu ayamba kudera nkhaŵa. Koma simukufuna kumubweretsa ululu ndi kuvutika. Ndicho chifukwa chake yesetsani kukhala chomwe akufuna kuti mukhale. Koma, ngati mukumva kuti zofuna zawo zimadutsa pa chikhalidwe chovomerezeka, makhalidwe ndi makhalidwe, simukusowa kukhala chete. Pamapeto pake, inu munabwerera ku banja lawo osati monga antchito, koma ngati munthu wamphumphu, yemwe palibe yemwe ayenera kumukweza. Yesetsani kukumbukira izi ndipo musalole kuti muchite manyazi, makamaka, banja lanu. Kumbukirani kuti anthu omwe asiya makolo awo, ndithudi sadzachititsa kulemekeza konse komanso palibe.
Ngati mukumvetsa kuti ubale pakati pa inu ndi banja la mnyamata suwonjezerapo, ndi bwino kuchepetsa kuyankhulana kwachangu. Kambiranani izi ndi mnyamata wanu. Mwinamwake, iye adzakumvetsa ndi kukuthandizani. Chinthu chachikulu ndichoti chirichonse sichiwoneka ngati kuti mukuyesera kumulekanitsa ndi banja lanu ndikutsutsana ndi makolo ake. Aloleni alankhulane nawo, amamukonda komanso amuthandizira, koma samalola kulankhula za inu zoipa. Komanso, musatenge mphatso kuchokera kwa makolo a mnyamata kapena thandizo lililonse. Ngati mutero, ndiye kuti zidzakuchititsani kumva kuti mukuyenera kutero. Choncho, yesetsani kuchita zonse nokha ndipo musalole kuti zisokoneze moyo wanu. Ngati anthu amaweruza ena mwa ndalama zokhazokha, sangathe kulemekeza munthu wamba. Choncho, musafanane ndi maganizo a anthu oterewa.
Ingonyalanyazani iwo ndikuyesera kupewa mikangano. Chibwenzi chanu sayenera kuganiza kuti ndiwe amene amachititsa mkanganoyo, ndipo tsopano mukuwononga ubale wake ndi makolo ake. Khalani ochenjera ndipo musayambe kukambiranapo. Ndiye mwamunayoyo adzamvetsa yemwe ali wolondola ndi yemwe sali. Koma, mulimonsemo, ziribe kanthu momwe makolo ake amakuchitirani, nthawi zonse kumbukirani kuti ubale wofunika kwambiri ndi ubale pakati pa inu ndi wokondedwa wanu. Ndipo china chirichonse sichiri chofunikira kwambiri.