Kalelo, atsikana anali okonzeka kukwatira. Sizinapangitse chuma, komanso kudandaula. Amayi amenewa nthawi zambiri anali kuyembekezera ukwati wabwino. Tsopano pali zambiri zofalitsa mabuku ogwirizana pa mutu womwewo. Werengani mabuku abwino ndikudziphunzitsa nokha. Chabwino, ngati mumaphunzira zofunikira za kuphika kapena kupanga zojambulajambula. Koma musaiwale za masewera ndi maganizo. Mudzazindikira kufunika kwa maganizo a amuna - mudzaphunzira chinsinsi cha ukwati. Kuti musayambe kulakwitsa ndi kusankha, yesetsani kumvetsera osati maonekedwe, khalidwe labwino, koma kwa dziko lamkati la mnzanuyo. Amakonda zinyama, angathe kuthandizira pa zovuta? Kuti banja liziyenda bwino, zonsezi ndi zofunika. Mverani nokha ndi mnzanuyo, mumvetse zomwe mukuyembekeza muukwati. Pomwepo mudzaphunzira chinsinsi cha ukwati wabwino.
1. Khalani ndi chiyembekezo chabwino
Mwamuna nthawi zonse amamva bwino, ngati woperewera ali patsogolo pake. Ngakhale mkazi wokongola kwambiri amamukakamiza mnzakeyo ngati maso ake awerenga "Nthawi zonse ndimakhala wosasamala." Simungathe kukhumudwa. Samalani kupambana kwanu ndi kupambana, kumbukirani za kugonjetsedwa.
2. Kodi ndizofunikira kwambiri kuti mudziwe za mnzanuyo?
Kodi mukukumbukira mawu akuti: "Mukudziwa pang'ono - mumagona bwino"? Musayese kupeza zolakwika zake, pamene akuzunzidwa, angakhoze bwanji kuchita zimenezo! Machimo ake ndi mavuto ake. Ndi bwino kusamalira mitsempha yanu, ndipo nthawi imodzimodziyo ndi mitsempha ya mnzanuyo. Ndi bwino kufufuza mwa izo zabwino kwambiri. Ndani safuna kudziwa zonse zokhudza wokondedwa? Koma ndizosatheka kudziwa chirichonse. Ndipo chifukwa chiyani? Akazi abwino kwambiri ndi omwe amatsutsa chiyeso chowerenga kalata, zolemba, kapena kukwera pafoni. Ngakhale ubale wabwino kwambiri ukhoza kuwonongeka kwamuyaya mutatha kutero. Kodi mungasangalale kwambiri kudziwa kuti m'mabuku anu muli munthu wina amene akuyendayenda? Chikhumbo ndi cholepheretsa chimwemwe chanu.
3. Kodi mumamva nsanje?
Nsanje yanu imatsimikiziranso kuti mumakayikira wokondedwa wanu. Musathamangire kulowa m'banja. Chinthu chachikulu ndicho kuzindikira chifukwa cha nsanje yanu.
4. Musachite mantha ndi mikangano
N'zosatheka kukhala ndi moyo nthawi zonse komanso kusagwirizana. Koma phunzirani kukhala wolondola, woyenera kutuluka kunja kwa mikangano. Musapitirire kukongoletsa, musanene mawu achipongwe, omwe mudzadandaula pambuyo pake. Mawu oipa ngati amenewa akhoza kukumbukira kwa nthawi yaitali ndipo adzawononga moyo wanu. Tengani mkangano ngati "mdima wakuda" mu chiyanjano. Ndipo mikangano nthawi zina imathandiza mu kugwirizana kwa abwenzi.
Pokhapokha mutha kuthetsa kusamvana mumayamba kumvetsa bwino wosankhidwayo. Musanayambe, khalani okonzeka kuti posakhalitsa mukhala ndi zotsutsana. Mu ichi palibe chowopsya. Maubwenzi sakhala ophweka.
5. Kodi muli ndi mpikisano?
Kumbukirani, tiyenera kumenyera chikondi chathu osati mdani wathu. Akazi okongola onse padziko lapansi samawombera. Mmodzi adzalowe m'malo mzake. Musaganize za iwo. Kwa chikondi, kulimbana, kulimbitsa ubale, kumvetsetsa, kudalira. Palibe omenyana nawo omwe sangawopsyeze.
6. Sitampu mu pasipoti
Ngati mwaganiza zokwatira kokha chifukwa cha sitampu mu pasipoti yanu, ndiye kuti mumayambitsa mavuto kale. Inde, mudziko lathu, udindo wa mkazi wokwatira sungakhale malo otsiriza. Koma kumbukirani kuti kusudzulana nthawi zina kumakhala kovuta kuposa kukwatira. Sizitipweteka kuphunzira nkhani zokhudzana ndi ukwati.
7. Mukufunafuna nokha mwamuna
Musathamangire kuti mubweretse kuyesedwa kwa oyandikana nawo posankhidwa. Mverani kwa mtima wanu, osati kwa malangizo a anzanu kapena achibale anu. Pali zifukwa chikwi zomwe anthu oyandikana nawo ndi okoma mtima angakulankhuleni. Koma izi ndizo kusankha kwanu, moyo wanu. Ndi kwa inu kusankha.
8. Zokambirana Zogwirizana
Chinsinsi cha banja lopambana ndi losavuta: phunzirani kuti musakhale wokongola, koma khalani wothandizira komanso mlangizi. Dziwani zonse zomwe zimadetsa nkhawa munthu. Khalani othandiza kwa iye. Palibe chogwirizanitsa kwambiri palimodzi monga chifukwa chogwirizana.
9. Chilengedwe ndi kuwona mtima
Kuti banja liziyenda bwino, kumbukirani kuti amuna ngati atsikana omwe ali ndi chisangalalo, ali ndi khalidwe lachikhalidwe. Ndipo momwe amalemekezera luso lomvetsera! Zodzoladzola zamadzimadzi, zowongoka tsitsi, misomali yonyenga ikhoza kuopseza munthu. Khalani achibadwa ndi woona mtima. Musamakangane ndi munthu wokondedwa wanu. Kumuchotsa ku zodetsa nkhawa zonse, mudzakhala ngati mayi wokhumudwitsa. Ngati mukuganiza kuti muli ngati mtsikana wopusa yemwe amangoganizira za madiresi, musadabwe kuti sangakufunseni pazovuta. Khalani weniweni.
Mkhalidwe wa chimwemwe ndi kukhutira ndi moyo ndi chinsinsi cha banja losangalala. Zilibe kanthu,
zomwe ena akunena. Koma ngati mwa inu mulibe lingaliro la chisangalalo, ndiye ukwati sungakubweretseni inu. Musayese kuti mukhale osangalala, koma kondwerani!