Funsolo ndi lakuti: Kodi chikondi chimakhala chotani, ngati mwamuna ndi mkazi amagwira ntchito pamodzi, angathe kuthandizira kapena kusokoneza ntchito ya munthu. Inde, pokhala pafupi ndi okondedwa anu pafupifupi maora makumi awiri ndi anai patsiku, ndizokongola komanso zachikondi. Koma, nthawi zambiri, kumverera uku kumangoyamba kokha koyamba. Chowonadi ndi chakuti ngakhale anthu achikondi kwambiri amafunika mwina nthawi zina kupumula wina ndi mnzake. Posakhalitsa, pakati pa awiriwa, mavuto osiyanasiyana a pakhomo amayamba. Pamene mnyamata ndi mtsikana onse amapita kukagwira ntchito mosiyana, amatha kupumula wina ndi mzake, kuganiziranso zochitikazo, kuganizira ndi kukambirana mozama za vutoli. Koma, chimachitika ndi chiyani pamene abambo amabwera limodzi? Amapitirizabe kutsutsana ndikukwiyitsana. Inde, izi zimakhudza zokolola zawo ndipo zimayambitsa chidani kwa akuluakulu awo. Ndicho chifukwa chake, amalonda ochuluka amaletsa kwambiri mabuku olembedwa pakati pa antchito. Koma, kwina, palibe amene angaletse anthu kukonda. Ndicho chifukwa chake, malemba ovomerezeka amakhalapo ngakhale m'magulu, kumene amaletsedwa ndi lamulo la mkati.
Nchifukwa chiyani anthu amayamba kukonda kuntchito? Mwinamwake mfundo ndi yakuti antchito ambiri alibe nthawi yochuluka yokomana kunja kwa ofesi. Loweruka ndi Lamlungu, nthawi zambiri, amalankhulana ndi achibale awo, mabwenzi awo akale kapena kusangalala kunyumba. Choncho, gulu la anthu omwe angathe kuonedwa ngati chinthu cha chikondi, chochepa kwambiri. Achinyamata ndi amayi amadziwa mosadziwa ndikuyang'anitsitsa anthu omwe ali pafupi nawo. Mgulu limodzi, anthu ali ndi mavuto ofanana. Chifukwa cha ichi, kulankhulana pakati pa anzanu kumakhala kochepetsedwa kwambiri ndipo kungakhale ubale wapamtima. Inde, ndi bwino pamene chikondi chimatha pakati pa anthu omwe ali ofanana ndi udindo. Ndiye, pakati pa mnyamatayo ndi mtsikanayo mulibe mikangano, yomwe ingakhale chifukwa cha mphunzitsi wa kaduka. Ndipotu, zikungowoneka kuti chikondi chimathetsa malingaliro onsewa. Ndipotu, anthu odzikuza omwe ali ndi udindo wosiyana, zimakhala zovuta kuti azigwirizana ndi wina ndi mzake ndi kuvomereza kuti wokondedwa wapanga zambiri kuposa momwe iye amachitira. Ndipo ngakhale ngati pachiyambi cha chibwenzi, sizilibe kanthu, pakapita nthawi, zinthu zingasinthe kwambiri. Inde, wina sanganene kuti uwu ndi lamulo ndipo kotero zimachitika m'ma zana zana. Pali anthu omwe banja lawo ndilofunika kwambiri kuposa ntchito ndi chilakolako. Amatha kukhala ndi chikondi komanso kumvetsetsa kwa zaka zambiri. Koma ngati si choncho, ndibwino kuganizira za musanayambe kumanga ubale wotere ndi mnzako.
Chiyanjano china chaukondano kuntchito ndi chikondi pakati pa abwana ndi abusa. Pankhaniyi, maubwenzi oterewa amachititsa miseche zambiri, zomwe zimakhudzanso maubwenzi mu timu. Pali milandu pamene bwana kapena abwana ali okwatira. Kenaka, mu miseche yamagulu ayamba kulepheretsa ulamuliro wa munthu amene ali ndi malo otsogolera. Zoonadi, zolemba zoterezi sizinso zachilendo, koma nthawi zambiri sizibweretsa ubwino uliwonse ndipo zingayambitse kuthamangitsidwa kwa wogonjera kapena wogonjera. Koma, ngakhale chikondi chimayamba pakati pa anthu aufulu, nthawi zambiri mumagulu maubwenzi amenewa ndi ovuta kwambiri kuzindikira. Komabe, nsanje ya anthu siinakwaniritsidwe. Pakati pa antchito, ndipo, makamaka antchito, padzakhala anthu omwe adzakambirane zonse zokhudza bukuli ndikubwera ndi maonekedwe awo. Choncho, gululi lakhazikitsidwa motsutsana ndi awiriwa. Anthu ayamba kuona zinthu zomwe sizingakhale zoona. Mwachitsanzo, mwayi wopatsidwa ndi wothandizana naye amene ali ndi chibwenzi ndi olamulira, chisankho cha antchito ena, ndi zina zotero. Ngati chibwenzi choterocho chimasungidwa mwachinsinsi, nthawi zambiri palibe chomwe chikuchitika. Ndipo pakakhala vutoli pobisala, posachedwa, nthawi zambiri, muwiri, kusagwirizana kumayamba. Chowonadi ndi chakuti ndi kovuta kuti nthawi zonse mupewe kudziletsa nokha nthawi iliyonse, kuti anthu asaganizire za momwe mumamvera, malingaliro ndi malingaliro. Kusagwirizana kotereku kumanjenjemera kungachititse kupsyinjika komanso ngakhale kupsinjika maganizo. Zoonadi, pakali pano pali zosiyana. Izi ndizo makamaka m'magulu ang'onoang'ono ndi ogwirizana, kumene kulibe kusiyana kwakukulu mu maudindo. Pomwe aliyense angadziwonetse yekha ndipo amalandira mphotho yokwanira yokhudzana ndi izi, zomwe zingakwanitse kukwaniritsa zolinga, gulu lonse likhoza kukhala lokhudzidwa kwambiri ndi ubale wa anthu ena. Koma, mwatsoka, palibe ochuluka chotere, ndipo makamaka, palibe zochitika zoterezi.
Wopatsa thanzi kwambiri, mwinamwake, akhoza kutchedwa buku pakati pa anthu omwe ali ndi udindo wofanana. Pankhaniyi, mpikisano siilipo. Ndipo, ngati anthu akugwirizana komanso osagwirizana ndi mabanja awo kuntchito, maubwenzi oterewa angakhudze kwambiri malonda, monga anthu amakhulupirira wina ndi mzake, nthawi zonse amayesa kuthandiza ndi kuthandizira.
Ngati tilingalira kuchokera pazifukwa zonsezi, tikhoza kunena kuti mwayi wa chikondi, ngati mwamuna ndi mkazi amagwira ntchito pamodzi, nthawi zonse zilipo, koma nthawi zonse zimakhala zovuta. Choncho, mwinamwake, musanayambe kukondana ndi mnzanu, ndi bwino kuganizira mosamala. Koma, tsidya lina, tonse timamvetsetsa kuti simungathe kulamulira mtima wanu ndipo ngati mutatsatira malamulo onse, mukhoza kutaya chimwemwe chanu. Choncho, ngakhale mutachenjezedwa, mwina nthawi zina muyenera kuchita zinthu momwe intuition yanu ndi moyo wanu zimayankhulira.