Posachedwapa, magazini yodziŵika kwambiri ku America imasonyeza kuti ndi midzi yopanda ulemu kwambiri padziko lonse lapansi. Tsoka, Moscow inali mu malo amodzi kwambiri. Muscovites sakhala ndi chitseko, ogulitsa sanena "zikomo" kwa ogula. Ndipo ngati munthu ataya mulu wa mapepala pamsewu, palibe yemwe amamuthandiza kuti asonkhanitse. Koma izi ndi maluwa. Ngati ochita kafukufukuyu ayesa kuyankhulana ndi akuluakulu athu, apolisi oyendetsa magalimoto kapena madokotala polyclinic, sizikanakhala zokwanira.
Komabe, sikuti anthu okhawo okhala mumzinda wa Russia ndi amwano. M'midzi yambiri yambiri yomwe kale inali Soviet Union, nthawi zambiri kawirikawiri imafanana ndi mfiti. Kukwanitsa "kuchotsa" interlocutor, "kuika" kumakondanso. Anthu oterewa amaonedwa ngati "osalankhula", monga "osayika pakamwa panu". Pakalipano, palibe chinthu chonyada. Mwa njirayi, atatha kulengeza zotsatira za kufufuza, akuluakulu a boma la Moscow adapatsa ruble 700 miliyoni kuti "apange chithunzi chabwino cha likulu la dzikoli." Zoona, sizikudziwika bwino kuti ndalama izi zingagwiritse ntchito bwanji malonda ndi akuluakulu a boma kuti azikhala amwano, ndipo Muscovites wamba adzakakamizidwa kuti azigwira chitseko pakhomo la metro.
Anakwiya kwambiri
Mbiri yathu yonse ya Soviet inathandiza kutulutsa mtundu watsopano - "munthu hamyaschego." Kukwanitsa "kudula pamapewa" kunali chitsimikizo cha wogwira ntchito. Mawu olemekezeka a aluntha adanyodola. Zikudziwika kuti alembi onse amagwiritsira ntchito matata m'mawu awo. Iwo ankatsatiridwa ndi olamulira apansi. Panali ngakhale zochitika zoterozo: bwana akunyengani inu - ndiye iye ali mwakachetechete. Koma ngati simumva mawu oipa, dikirani chinyengo: sichidziwika chomwe chiri m'maganizo mwake.
Anthu ambiri anafunsidwa ndi asayansi kuti tsopano iwo anayamba kukhala achipongwe kuposa nthawi za Soviet Union. Mwinamwake, omwe akufunsidwa akulephera kukumbukira (komabe, mumasitolo okwera mtengo ndi mwakachetechete mwachisawawa mumakumana nawo), kapena mwina. Kupanikizika, chilakolako chodzidalira, kusatsimikizika m'tsogolomu - zonsezi sizimapangitsa anthu kukhala okondana wina ndi mzake. Asayansi ananeneratu kuti padzatenga zaka 150 kuti mlengalenga azitha kusintha ndi kukhala ochepa. Choncho, tidzakhala ndi chiyembekezo kuti panthawi iliyonse tikhoza kukhumudwitsidwa, kutinyozedwa.
Kutembenuka mwabwino
Akatswiri a zamaganizo amakhulupirira kuti njira yabwino kwambiri yodzichitira nkhanza sikumvetsera mwatcheru. Koma posachedwapa akatswiri a zamaganizo azindikira kuti njira iyi siyenerera aliyense. Anthu ena amayamba kudzikuza okha chifukwa chosadziwika ndi amwano. Ngati mumakonda ku samoedstvo, ndibwino kuti mum'dzudzule mwamsanga munthu amene anakuchititsani manyazi.
Zimene mungachite: Yang'anani mwatcheru ndi boor. Koma osati m'maso, koma kudera la mlatho wa mphuno. Apa, monga Amwenye amanenera, pali "diso lachitatu" kudzera mwachindunji chomwe chimapita mwachindunji ku chikumbumtima. Lankhulani ndi boor mu liwu lolimba, lotsimikizika, mokweza. Koma musapite kukafuula. Pitirizani kulamulira thupi lanu: musamangogwedezeka, kwezani chingwe chanu, ngati manja anu akugwedezeka, muyike m'thumba lanu. Nthawi zina zimakhala zokwanira, pogwiritsa ntchito njirayi, kunena mau amodzi: "Imani pamzere!" Kapena "Ndipo tsopano chotsani manja anga!" - ndipo hooligan amachotsa.
Samalani katatu!
Komabe, ngati wachifwamba sakukuopsezani nokha ndipo ngati simukufuna kudzitsutsa nokha kuti simunamuike, ndibwino kuti musamamvere. Munthu amakukakamizani, ndikuyesera kumunyengerera kumalo ake akumenyako, kumene amamverera bwino. Ndipo kusakhumba kwanu kuti muyanane naye, iye amadziona ngati chonyansa chachikulu. Ndi nkhani ina momwe munganyalanyaze kunyalanyaza komwe kwaperekedwa kwa inu.
Zomwe mungachite: Kulandiridwa kwathunthu kwa "kuvala" kumathandiza kwambiri. Tangoganizani, pa basi yomwe iwe uli "kuyenderera" sikuli konse munthu wachikulire, wofuna kumupatsa malo ake. Chilimwe, onse ovala zovala zowala. Ndipo taganizirani zamwano mu chikhoto cha nkhosa, chipewa ndi khutu lakumutu ndi nsapato zogonera. Zomwe simukuziyembekezera - popanda kuseka kuseka - zidzasintha. Ndipo mukhoza kulingalira zonsezi mofanana ndi ntchentche padenga. Akuyang'ana pansi ndikuwona kuti "zimphona" akumenyera malo, mofanana, ngati anzake a dontho la uchi (kapena china).
Ndipo chinthu chabwino kwambiri ndikutumiza maganizo kwa munthu wokwiya zomwe sakusowa. Tangoganizani kuti ndinu amwano, mukumira m'mapando apamwamba. Ndikofunika kuti akweze bulu wake, ngati atsikana othandiza akuyika pansi pake mpando wokhala ndi maluwa. Mutumizeni chithunzithunzi ichi, ndikudzipempha yekha kuti: "Lolani mpumulo abwere kwa inu". Nthawi iliyonse pamene mumatha kunyalanyaza katatu "mwanyenga omwe amakukakamizani kuti mumenyane, tithokozeni nokha: mwakhala wamphamvu kwambiri!
"Musati muzinyoza ..."
Palibe ngakhale munthu wolemekezeka kwambiri wotchuka yemwe amaganiza kuti: "Ndipita tsopano ndikukhala wamwano kwa aliyense". Komabe, aliyense wa iwo m'mtima mwake amadziŵa kuti kukhumudwitsa ena n'koipa. Koma pamene munthu ndi wamwano, nthawi zambiri amaganiza kuti akubwezeretsa chilungamo kapena kuphunzitsa wina, wopusa, kuti azichita molondola. Ngati mumatchula zinthu mwa maina awo kapena kuyankha mwachidwi, mumasokoneza zolinga zake ndikumuika pamapeto.
Zomwe mungachite: Funsani amwano: "Kodi mukufuna kundikhumudwitsa?" Kapena kunena monyoza: "Ndipotu mungathe kunena zomwezo, mwaulemu." Mwachiwonekere, poyankhira mukumva kusinthasintha kopanda pake. Koma kutentha kwa chilakolako kudzangobwera pang'onopang'ono. Ngati ku funso lanu, komwe mungayikemo sitimayi, ofesi ya maofesiyo adanenetsa kuti sanali woyang'anira malo, ndikuthokozani motere: "Zikomo, mumafotokozera bwino kuti chilichonse chinawonekera mwamsanga." Izi zidzamubwezeretsa kumbali yake yakuya "I", kumene zikuwoneka kuti kukhala wamwano ndi zoipa.
Mawu amenewa akhoza kukonzekera pasadakhale, kuti azitha kuwonekera panthawi yoyenera. Ngati chirichonse chikuchitidwa molingana ndi psychology, kunyalanyaza nkhanza, mudzasunga mitsempha yanu ndi ulemu waumunthu. Ndikofunika kumvetsetsa ngati munthu akunyengerera, kapena ali ndi vuto la maganizo.