Inde, poyamba poyamba amayesera kulankhula ndi kufotokoza. Nthawi zambiri, kukambirana kumeneku kumathera kumatsenga, kutsutsidwa, ndikukhamukira ku malumbiro a chikondi chosatha. Khalidwe ili pambali ya munthu limakhala zovuta zenizeni za maganizo. Udani ndi chisoni zimasiyanasiyana, osalola mkazi kukhala mwamtendere.
Pali zochitika zenizeni zachipatala, pamene kuzunzidwa kumayamba, kudikirira pakhomo, kudalonjeza kubwezera chirichonse.
Izo zimawopseza ndi kutuluka kunja. Kodi mungatani? Momwe mungapangire kuti mnyamata wakale atseke m'mbuyo mwa msungwanayo, yemwe sakusowa kwenikweni?
Ngati wachinyamata nthawi zonse amaitana ndi kutaya mauthenga, mungathe kusintha nambala, koma, motero, mumadzipweteka. Choncho, ndibwino kuyesa kufunsa mnzanu kapena mbale kuti akalankhule ndi munthu wakale. Pachifukwa ichi, chitetezo chanu chingathe kudziwonetsera yekha ngati mnyamata wanu komanso moyenera (ndipo mwinamwake, molakwika kwambiri) kufotokoza kwa womvera kuti sakuyesanso kuyesa chimwemwe. Pazinthu izi zimagwira ntchito, chinthu chachikulu ndi chakuti munthu wamphamvu ndi wodalirika yemwe amadziwa kulankhula mawu amalankhula ndi akale, ndipo zoopseza za "Romeo" zotayika sizidzachita mantha.
Koma chiwerengero choterocho chikhoza kudutsa ndi anyamata omwe alidi oopseza ndi mawu okha.
Mwa njira, pali njira yina yowonetsera kuti "osati achiwawa". Inde, iye ndi wankhanza, koma pazochitika zotere, njira zonse ndi zabwino.
Tiyenera kubwerera kwa iye. Ndipo amupangitseni inu. Mukudziwa kuti zimakwiyitsani inu ndi atsikana ambiri. Choncho mumusonyeze zomwe sakufuna kuwona ndikuziwona kwambiri. Pano, chinthu chofunikira sikuti chiziwonongeke. Pambuyo pake, ngati mutayamba kuchitapo kanthu, adzakayikira kuti zonsezi zachitika mwachindunji ndipo adzangonyalanyaza khalidwe lanu. Kotero mukuyenera kuti pang'onopang'ono muwotchedwe mwa iye, ndikuchita zomwe sizili bwino kwa iye. Inde, izi zingatenge nthawi, koma ngati mumvetsetsa kuti palibe njira ina yotulukira, muyenera kupereka nsembe.
Okhazika mtima pansi, anyamata okhumudwitsa amachititsa mavuto, amakwiyitsa kwambiri. Komabe, kuphatikiza kwawo ndiko kuti akhoza kumenyana popanda kuopseza moyo. Njira ina yomwe nthawi zina imagwirira ntchito: kusinthasintha. Ngati muli otsimikiza kuti ndi munthu wabwino, yemwe chikondi chake chimangosokoneza malingaliro ake, onetsetsani kuti anakumana ndi mtsikana wina yemwe angamufunse. Aliyense ali ndi zolinga zake. Ndipo ngati mu bwalo lanu pali dona yemwe amasankha bwino zosowa zake, mukhoza kusintha maubwenzi awo. Chinthu chachikulu ndi chakuti mnyamatayo samaphunzira kuti izi ndi ntchito zanu. Ngati amadziwa zonse, ngakhale mtsikana wabwino kwambiri sangapambane mtima wake.
Chabwino, mungachite chiyani ngati mnyamata ayamba kuchita zachiwawa ndi kuopseza? Ngati mukudziwa kuti ziopsezo sizomwe zilipo, muyenera kuchitapo kanthu. Kuwonjezera pa kunyalanyaza kwathunthu mnyamatayo, ndi bwino kupempha thandizo kuchokera kwa abwenzi ndi abanja. Musaope kapena kuchita manyazi. Tonsefe timatha kulakwitsa, anthu apamtima adzamvetsetsa ndi kuthandizira. Ngati munthu akudziwa kuti muli ndi chitetezo chomwe chingamupangitse kuti adzalange ngati choncho, adzalingalira nthawi zambiri asanachite chinthu china.
Kuonjezerapo, yesetsani kukhala pamodzi ndi anthu omwe angakutetezeni, makamaka panthawi ina. Ndikuganiza kuti mnzanu wapamtima kapena mbale sangakakutengereni kunyumba. Musapatse munthu wakale mwayi umodzi wakupweteketsani. Ngakhale m'mikhalidwe yotereyi, kukongola kwa papa kungathandize. Ngati abambo anu amatha kutsogolera zokambirana, ndipo ngati kuli kotheka, ndipo gwiritsani ntchito mphamvu moyenera, omasuka kulankhulana ndi chithandizo. Kawiri kawiri kukambirana ndi abambo a msungwana wakale, kumalimbikitsa anyamata kulakalaka kuoneka mkati mwa makilomita khumi kuchokera kunyumba kwake. Komanso, mukhoza kulankhula ndi makolo ake, ambiri kapena kufunsa nokha. Zoonadi, ndinu wamkulu, koma ngati zikuwonekeratu kuti wanu wakale amatha kukupwetekani ndi kuvulala, musawope kapena manyazi kuti mutembenukire kwa akulu. Pamene mgwirizano ukufika pa msinkhu womwewo ndipo mnyamatayo amayamba kumvetsetsa kuti zochita zake zowopsya zimakhala ndi udindo walamulo, adzalingalira kasanu ndi kawiri asanakhale akudikirira pakhomo.
Ngati palibe zomwe zili pamwambapa zikugwira ntchito ndipo munthu wakale akupitiliza kukuvutitsani, kuwopseza, kubwezeretsa zipsyinjo ndikuyesa kubwerera mwamphamvu, muyenera kuganizira za thanzi lake labwino. Anthu odwala samvetsa mawu ndi makondomu. Njira zowonjezera ziyenera kugwiritsidwa ntchito kwa iwo. Choncho, sizodabwitsa kupempha chithandizo kuchokera kwa mabungwe ogwirira ntchito kuti alembe ndemanga ndikufunsani kuti mupangire chitetezo china kwa inu. Zikatero, njira zonse ndi zabwino kale, chifukwa thanzi lanu, ndi, mwina, moyo uli pangozi.
Chikondi cha amuna sikuti chimatibweretsera chimwemwe nthawi zonse. Nthawi zina zimakhala choncho chifukwa cha vuto limodzi lokha, mantha ndi kuzunzika - choncho mukufuna kuti chilombochi chigwere kumbuyo kwathu kamodzi. Ndikofunika kuchotsa chikondi choterocho. Mulimonse. Ndipo mwamsanga, bwino.