Kodi mfundo zazikulu ziti zolerera ana m'banja, kuganizira zenizeni za moyo wathu wamakono? Tiyeni tiyesetse kumvetsa zovuta izi, monga mawonetsero, funso.
Chinthu chofunikira kwambiri pakuleredwa, kuphatikizapo maphunziro apabanja, ndikuthandizana ndi mwanayo. Sipadzakhala kukhudzana, palibe mwayi womvetsera wina ndi mzake, khoma la kusamvana lidzawonekera, ndiyeno kusiyana pakati pa wamkulu ndi mwanayo. Izi ndi zoona nthawi zambiri zimachitika muunyamata, pamene pali kuphwanya mikangano yachikhalidwe pakati pa makolo ndi ana okalamba. Amayembekeza kuti adzione ngati munthu wamkulu wamkulu, koma makolo ake (nthawi zambiri amangozindikira kuti ali mwana), amapereka uphungu womwe amamuona molakwika. Zonsezi zimaphwanya chizoloŵezi chokhudza maganizo, chomwe chimalepheretsa njira yopitilira maphunziro. Ndipotu, imasiya.
Kuyankhulana ndi mwanayo (mosasamala kanthu kuti iye anakulira zaka zaunyamata kapena ayi) molunjika kumadalira khalidwe la achikulire achibale. Mwanayo ndikumayambira poyamba. Iye ali wotseguka kwa mtundu uliwonse wogwirizana ndi makolo. Chinthu china n'chakuti ife nthawi zambiri timalephera kugwirizana. Timakhumudwitsidwa ndi chidziwitso komanso kudzidzimutsa kwa ana, kukhwima kwa achinyamata komanso zonena zawo kuti ndi akuluakulu. Kawirikawiri, mmalo moyankhulana bwino ndi mwanayo mwa njira zosiyanasiyana za zokambirana kapena zochitika zina, timathawa kukhala "chipolopolo" chosafuna kugwirizana. Nthawi zambiri timalankhula chikhumbo chathu chokhala okha? Mawu akuti "ndisiye ndekha", "khalani oleza", "dikirani", ndi zina zotero. tipereke chikhumbo chathu chowonetsa malingaliro ndi kukhazikitsa mgwirizano wogwirizana ndi mwanayo. Ndipo mobwerezabwereza timafuna zomwezo osati mawu, mothandizidwa ndi nkhope, manja.
Ndipotu, mfundo zoyenera kulera ana m'banja
Zoyembekeza zathu zabwino za zotsatira za ndondomekoyi zili mzere. Kodi tikufuna kuti tiwone ana athu mtsogolo muno? Wokoma mtima, wokondana, womvera mavuto a munthu wina ndikuteteza malo awo m'dzikoli, lotseguka komanso panthawi imodzimodzi wochenjera ndi wanzeru. Koma pofuna kukwaniritsa zolingazi, ndikwanira kusonyeza ana makhalidwe amenewa tsiku ndi tsiku, kuwadyetsa chitsanzo cha zikhalidwe zoterezi. Koma zimakhala zovuta kuzizindikira izi, chifukwa ndife opanda ungwiro! Nthawi zambiri, m'malo molimbikitsa, zitsanzo zabwino zoyenera, ana athu amawona kuti ndife osayera, omwe angawafotokozere bwino momwe angakhalire, koma nthawi zambiri samatsimikizira mfundo izi pamoyo wawo wa tsiku ndi tsiku. Ndikofunika kuyesa kuchotsa mwambo umenewu. Ndipotu, ana athu ali okonzeka kuyankha kusintha kulikonse!
Zoonadi, mfundo zoyambirira za ophunzira onse (makamaka banja) ziyenera kukhazikitsidwa pa chikondi. Komabe, chikondi m'banja chimatanthauza kukhululukidwa kwa kulakwitsa, ndi chilango chomveka cholakwika; ndi ubale wamtendere, ndi chilango ndi chithandizo kwa ena; malo abwino komanso abwino komanso kusunga miyambo pakati pa anthu a m'banja. Izi zimakhala zofunika kwambiri kwa ana. Ndikofunika kwa iwo (kuti akwanitse chitukuko cha maganizo ndi kukula kwaumwini) kuti amve kuti papa ndiye mutu wa banja, wopeza ndi woteteza; Mayi ndi wothandizira wake wokhulupirika komanso wokhudzidwa mtima. Ana amatsatira miyambo imeneyi. Ndipo ziribe kanthu kuti mu banja onse abambo ndi amayi amagwira ntchito. Mosiyana ndi zimenezo, nkofunika kutsindika (pochita ndi mwana, makamaka ang'onoang'ono) omwe amapeza ndalama m'banja, ndiye kuti ayenera kumumvera chisoni, kumuthandizidwa ndi kumumvera. Amayi sagwira ntchito molimbika, udindo wawo ndi ana. Kumbukirani kuti mukangoyamba kupereka ulemu kwa banja mwanjira ina (amayi ndi ofunika kwambiri kuposa papa kapena iwo ali ofanana ndi ofanana), ulamuliro wa makolo awiri pamaso pa mwanayo udzagwa. Chotsatira chake, mungathe kupirira kusamvera (kuphatikizapo kuwonetsa), komanso kusokoneza mgwirizano wathanzi pakati pa makolo ndi ana. Mwachibadwa, simukusowa!
Inde, ndipo popanda njira zachikhalidwe zoberekera ana m'banja
sitingathe kuchita. Mafotokozedwe a amayi, omwe amapita kwa sukulu, monga momwe angakhalire komanso momwe angakhalire, akadali ofunika. Zingakhale zosayenera kwambiri. Apo ayi simudzamvekanso, koma mudzayesa mwamsanga kuiwala zolemba zenizeni za verbose. Monga lamulo, kugwiritsidwa ntchito kawirikawiri njira zoterozo kumayambitsa zotsutsana, ndipo kulera kumalephera.
Kupezeka kwa ana angapo m'banja kumathandiza kwambiri kulera. Akatswiri amanena kuti ndikokwanira kulera mwana wachikulire moyenerera, kuti agwire nawo chikondi chochuluka ndi kuthandizira (pokhalabe ndi chidziwitso choyenera komanso maubwenzi abwino). Ana achichepere, makamaka ngati alipo ambiri mwa iwo, adzalandira zitsanzo za khalidwe lake, kuzijambula m'njira yosavuta komanso yophweka, mosavuta komanso mwachibadwa kuphunzira mchitidwe wogwirizana ndi aliyense wa anthu, malamulo a khalidwe ndi ntchito yogwira ntchito mu gulu, ndi zina zotero. Chimodzimodzinso chimatsimikiziridwa ndi kachitidwe kazakale kamene kakulerera ana mu miyambo yachikhalidwe, kuphatikizapo kunyumba kwathu. Zingakhale zabwino kutenga chinthu kuchokera ku zitsanzo zabwino zomwe zinachitikira mibadwo yakale masiku athu ano!