Chotsogozedwa Panopa
Matenda a milandu yowonongeka "panthawi ina", mpaka nthawi iyamba kukhala yolimba kwambiri ndipo sichitikakamiza kuchita mofulumira ndi mofulumira - khalidwe lachizolowezi la nthawi yathu. Kwa iye apo panawonekera ngakhale mawu apadera - kubwezeretsa. Dzinali likufanana ndi mawu odziwika bwino akuti "Banda la Procrustean" - chinthu chofunikira kwambiri kuti mupeze kukula kwake, ngati simungathe "kukakamizidwa" mwakutambasula kapena kudula miyendo yanu. Zimachokera ku mawu achilatini pro ("mmalo, patsogolo") ndi chiwonongeko ("mawa"). Kuzikonzekera sikungokhala kutayika kwa chiyambi pamphindi womaliza, koma kudzazidwa kwa nthawi pasanafike ndi nkhani zosafunika koma zofunikira. Kotero, mmalo molemba lipoti lofunikira, timawerenga nkhani, kumwa khofi, kupanga manicure, kuyang'ana zithunzi za abwenzi ku Odnoklassniki ... Izi ndizochitika zosangalatsa, komabe, zimatha kupatula nthawi ina yopanda ntchito. Zikuwoneka kuti tikudziwa izi, koma bwanji, palibe kusuntha? Ndipo chabwino, tikhoza kuchita ndi ntchitoyi, pamene chiopsezocho chimangokhala mu mkwiyo wa akuluakulu komanso kuperewera kwa bonasi ya pachaka. Kawirikawiri timachedwa ngakhale pamene thanzi lathu kapena moyo wathu umadalira bizinesi yatsopano - mwachitsanzo, timayimitsa ulendo wopita kuchipatala musanathe kupirira, koma zidzakhala zovuta komanso zovuta kuchiritsa. N'zochititsa chidwi kuti zifukwa zenizeni zowonongeka, komanso njira zothandiza za "mankhwala" ake, sizidziwika kwa akatswiri a maganizo. Zikuoneka kuti zimagwirizanitsa ndi nkhawa ndi nkhawa, koma izi ndizochitika mwangozi (amene sakugwedezeka pakalipano) kapena kudalira mwachindunji sikumveka bwino. Njira zosiyanasiyana za kudzidzudzula zomwe zafotokozedwa m'zinthu zogwira ntchito nthawizo zimakhala zogwira ntchito mosiyana, chifukwa kugwira nawo ntchito mwachindunji kumadalira mphamvu zomwezo kuti zisayambe kuyambanso moyo watsopano.
Chofunika kwambiri kuti chinsinsi chazengereza chidziwitso ndizofunikira kwambiri. Kutumiza mulanduyo panthawiyi "kumatanthauza kuti tikuganiza kuti" pambuyo "izi zilipo. Anthu okonda akuyembekezera nthano za "kudzoza", zina zonse ndizo "zikhalidwe zoyenera kuntchito ... Mwachidule, tonsefe tikuyembekezera kutali komweko komwe kudzatibweretsera kugwiritsira ntchito luso la siliva. Ndipo chinyengo ndi chakuti palibe wina ali kutali, ngakhale wokongola kapena woopsa, palibe. Pali lero komanso tsopano. Chinsinsi cha ubale ndi tsogolo chimakhala pakalipano. Pamene wothandizira amagwira ntchito ndi munthu yemwe sangathe kuyamba bizinesi yatsopano kapena kusintha chinachake m'moyo wake, ayenera kupanga zonse zomwe ali nazo pakali pano. Kodi munthu ali ndi chiyani, akusowa chiyani pano komanso tsopano, n'chifukwa chiyani akufuna kutenga gawo lofunikira komanso momwe akudziwira kuti chofunikira ichi chiyenera kuchitikadi? Kodi moyo wake ungasinthe motani ndi sitepe iyi? Ntchito yaikulu ndikuvomereza zomwe muli nazo tsopano, ndipo pangoganizani momwe zingasinthidwe. Ndipo kukhazikitsidwa kwa nthawiyi sikukutanthauza kuti tayanjana naye. M'malo mwake, muzochitika izi timayamba kuwona zochitika zolakwika za moyo wathu wamakono ndikumvetsetsa njira yowasinthira.
Ngati tikuzindikira kuti sitingakhale m'tsogolo, koma pakalipano, zidzakhala zosavuta kulimbana ndi kuchepetsa. Tidzadziwa kuti sipadzakhalanso "matsenga" amatsenga omwe angathandize kuti ntchitoyi ikhale yotheka, ndipo nyumba yosungirako zakale yomwe ili kuyembekezeredwa siidzabwera. Olemba ogwira mtima samadikirira kudzoza, koma amangokhala pansi tsiku ndi tsiku pa kompyuta ndi kulemba. Ntchito yatha pamene munthu amene akuchita izi ali m'nthawi yathu ino, osati m'tsogolo, komwe ntchitoyo ikuchitika, popanda khama lathu. Kuchita zinthu mwachizoloŵezi nthawi zambiri kumavutika ndi anthu opanda ungwiro: ndi chilichonse chatsopano, chimaphatikiza kuopa kuti zotsatira zake sizidzakhala zabwino, ndipo ziyenera kukhala zopukutidwa nthawi zonse. Ndi chifukwa chake amasiya ntchitoyo mpaka mphindi yotsiriza. Koma ndi zotsatira zabwino, zofanana ndi zam'mbuyo: palibe chomwe chiri changwiro, bwino pali "zokwanira". Pozindikira izi ndi kuzipanga kukhala gawo la moyo wa tsiku ndi tsiku, kusintha njira zamaganizo panthawi imodzimodzi, ambiri angwiro amafunikira uphungu kuchokera kwa katswiri wa maganizo.
Kumalo atsopano
Ngati zimakhala zovuta kuti tigwirizane ndi zochitika za tsiku ndi tsiku, ndiye kuti mwayi (kapena chofunikira) kuyambitsa moyo kuyambira pachiyambi, m'malo atsopano ndi mchikhalidwe chatsopano, kukhala mudzi wosiyana kapena malo ogwira ntchito, kungakhale nthawi yaitali kunja kwa ntchito. Izi ndi zachilendo. Musaganize kuti pali chinachake cholakwika ndi inu, ngati mutasamukira ku nyumba yatsopano simukutsutsani bwino ndi chilakolako. Pali vuto lalikulu lomwe zinthu zilizonse zimapatsidwa zowerengera pa msinkhu umodzi. Ngati imfa ya wokondedwayo ili ndi mfundo 100, kusudzulana - pa 80, ndi kukangana ndi wokwatirana - pa 40, kenako kusamukira kumalo atsopano kumakhala pafupi ndi masitepe 65 - ichi ndi chiyeso chachikulu. Kusintha kulikonse kumabweretsa mavuto, chifukwa kumaphatikizapo kulimbikitsa zinthu zonse za thupi, zomwe zidzasinthidwa ndi zikhalidwe zatsopano: kukhazikitsa njira zatsopano zothetsera khalidwe, kukonza chithunzi cha dziko lapansi, ngakhale kukonza biorhythms. Timakonzekera kuti mantha a nthawi ina yovuta ikhale yamphamvu kuposa zovuta. Ichi ndi chimodzi mwa mawonetseredwe a chidziwitso cha kudzipulumutsa: chikhalidwe chowopsa chimakhala ndi mantha kuti chinthu china chovuta chingathe kuchiwononga icho, ndipo amayesera kudziletsa pa milandu yonseyi. Choncho - chikhumbo chathu chosungira chomwe chiri, ngakhale sichingatiyenere ife kwambiri. Ntchito yosasinthika? Koma khola. Nyumba yomwe ili m'dera lamdima ndi lovuta? Koma zake zokha. Mwamuna woledzera? Koma pali banja, mwanjira ina. Pali mau akuti: Ndibwino ngati mawa zidzakhala zoipa lero. Mawu ofunika mkati mwake ndi "ofanana". Izi ndizo zomwe tili nazo kale zodziwika, ngakhale zingakhale zovuta kwa ife. Ngati chinachake chikusintha, zidzakhala zofunikira kuti muzolowere zatsopano, zomwe zikutanthauza kusokonezeka kwina. Kuopa kusintha ndikobwino, ndipo ngati muli nacho, muyenera kuyamba kuzindikira ndi kuvomereza nokha ndi mantha awa. Choipa kwambiri, pamene icho chikhala chotsogolera pakupanga zisankho zofunika ndikuyamba kuchepetsa kukula kwanu. Munthu akukonzekera kuti apange, kutsegula mwayi wake. Gawo lililonse la m'badwo limaphatikizapo kuthetsa mavuto ena a moyo ndi kusonkhanitsa zomwe zingatheke, zomwe zimapereka kusintha kwa mlingo wotsatira. Ngati pa nthawi ina ntchitoyo siidakwaniritsidwe, ndiye kuti sichimawonongeka ndipo ingathe "kutitenga" patsogolo pathu. Ngati kufunika kosintha chinthu kwa nthawi yayitali sikunakwaniritsidwe ndipo sikumayambitsa zochita zokhazokha, ndiye kuti amapeza chipata kudzera mu thupi - kotero matenda opatsirana pogonana amayamba.
"Kusintha kwakukulu kukubwera!"
Kufunika kwa chitukuko ndi mantha a kusintha nthawi zonse zimalimbana wina ndi mzake, ndipo pa mphindi iliyonse ya moyo wathu chimaposa chinthu chimodzi. Kupeza chiyanjano ndi ntchito yomwe imachitika nthawi iliyonse pamene pakufunika kusintha kapena kungoti tipeze chithandizo chomwe chiri chokhumudwa kukana, koma kugwirizana ndi koopsa. Palibe njira imodzi pano, komabe, kupatula nokha, palibe amene angakupangire chisankho. Koma pali njira zina zosavuta zomwe zimapangitsa ntchitoyi. Zindikirani kuti anthu omwe adayesa kulingalira zam'tsogolo m "mitundu yonse komanso zovuta zimakhala zovuta kwambiri chifukwa cha nkhawa zomwe zimachitika ndi kusintha. Chifukwa chowonadi, zirizonse zomwe akatswiri a "kukonda kuganiza" angatiuze, ndi zosiyana kwambiri ndi zongopeka. Kodi nthawi zambiri mumatchula mawu oti "Sindinaganizire"? Ngati inde, ndiye kuti mumagwira ntchito kuti musunge maloto anu, osati maumboni, monga zojambulazo: Mwachitsanzo, musamaimire nyumbayo komanso suti ya mtsogoleriyo, ngati mukufuna ntchito yatsopano, komanso kuti musaganize zokambirana ndi anzako, zolemba zawo. Nthawi zambiri timaletsedwa kuti tipewe chinachake chatsopano mu miyoyo yathu, chowonadi chenicheni: "Sitiyenera kuthawa kwinakwake, koma penapake." Zoonadi, zolinga zabwino zimakhala zogwira mtima kuposa zowononga, ndipo "kukwatiwa ndi wokondedwa" sizomwe zili ngati "kukwatira kuti achotse chisamaliro cha makolo." Koma nthawi zina zinthu zimachitika motero kuti mupeze chinachake chatsopano, m'pofunikira kuchotsa wakalewo. Mwachitsanzo, ngati tikukamba za kuthawa kwa mwamuna woledzeretsa, ndiye kuti palibe vuto kulikonse.
Njira inanso yolimbirana ndi kufunika kofulumira kusintha kanthu pakusowa kwazinthu zopangira kusinthaku ndikusintha zinthu zazing'ono. Ndondomeko yatsopano yamaluwa kapena zinyumba m'nyumba zimakhutiritsa chilakolako chathu chosintha chosasunthirapo kusiyana ndi kusamukira kudziko lina. Kotero sitimalowetsa chilakolako chenichenicho chokha, koma mosiyana - timachizindikira mokwanira, timangodziziteteza ku chigamulo chachikulu ndi chovuta, chimene sitingakonzekere. Ngati munayamba kuganiza za kusiya mwamuna wanu - izi sizikutanthauza kuti chisankho choterocho chidzasinthidwa. Koma panjira yopita (kapena kukana) mungathe kukhutiritsa ludzu la kusintha kwatsopano kwa tsitsi, maphunziro a chinenero chachilendo ndikulembetsa ku dziwe. Kupumula panjira yopita kusintha kwakukulu ndi njira yanzeru. Yankho liri ngati apulo: ilo liyenera kucha. Kotero, izo zidzakhala zolondola kuti musayambe chinachake chatsopano ndi chachikulu, popanda kuyembekezera kanthawi kwa kanthawi. Pause usanayambe moyo watsopano umayenera kuti upeze mphamvu ndi kuzindikira ngati ukufuna chisankho chomwe chatengedwa. Iyi ndiyo ndondomeko yomaliza yoyenera njira yanu. Ngati mukuwopa kusuntha kolakwika, pangani chisankho cholakwika, ndiye kumbukirani chinthu china chofunikira: kukonza chisankho sizingakhalepo m'chilengedwe. Pali kusankha kwanu nokha ndipo pali zotsatira zake, zomwe zimayenera kutengedwa kuti mugwire nawo ntchito. Mvetserani nokha, dziwani zomwe mukufunikira ndi momwe mungakwanitsire, ndipo padzakhalanso kukayikira musanayambe bizinesi yatsopano.
Ophunzitsa a moyo
Pamene mavuto ndi ntchito zatsopano zimakulepheretsani kukhala ndi moyo, ndipo simungathe kupirira nokha ndi vuto ili - akatswiri adzapulumutsa. Wodwala maganizo angakuthandizeni kumvetsa chiyambi cha mantha anu ndi kudzidandaula, ndipo ophunzitsa moyo adzakuthandizani ndi makonzedwe a konkire a zolinga za moyo. Ntchito yotsiriza kwa ife ikadali yatsopano, ngakhale kutchuka kwa moyo coaching kumakula tsiku ndi tsiku. Mosiyana ndi matenda opatsirana pogonana, izi ndizoyeretsa madzi oyera. Akatswiri a zamaganizo amadziwa zomwe zimayambitsa mavuto, amakhala ndi chidwi ndi zakale za munthuyo, ndipo kuphunzitsa moyo kumayendetsedwa pakali pano komanso m'tsogolo. Zimathandiza wothandizila kuti adziŵe bwino za tsogolo lawo, kuti adziwe zolinga zake ndi zolinga za moyo wake, kuthandiza kupeza ndi kukhazikitsa zipangizo zamkati momwe angakhazikitsire. Ophunzitsa moyo - osati mlangizi wadziko lonse, sangathe kukhalira moyo wanu chifukwa cha inu, koma kuti mumvetsetse zomwe mukufunadi ndizokwanira. Zikuwoneka ntchito ndi Life Coach m'njira yotsatirayi. Choyamba inu pamodzi mupange mapu a tsogolo lomwe mukufuna - kamodzi zonse zamoyo kapena imodzi yokha. Mwachitsanzo, mumalota kuyamba bizinesi yanu, koma simukudziwa kumene mungayambe ndi zomwe mukufunikira pa izi. Mphunzitsi amathandiza kuthetsa zolinga zazikulu, padziko lonse muzinthu zing'onozing'ono, zomwe zingatheke pakali pano: kuitanitsa wothandizira, kubwereza ku malo abwino, kulengeza mu nyuzipepala ... Zitatha izi, ntchito ikuyamba: tsiku lililonse mumachita chimodzi kapena zingapo magawo ang'onoang'ono, ndipo mphunzitsi wanu amakutsogolerani njira yosankhidwa, kuthandizira ndi kuyesa zomwe mudachita lero ndi zotsatira zake. Ndipotu, "kupezerera" koteroko sikoyenera kwa aliyense, koma ngati mutathandizidwa kuchokera kwa munthu wapatali (komanso kuti ubale weniweni uyenera kukhazikitsidwa pakati pa mphunzitsi ndi wogwira ntchito) ndizolimbikitsa, ndiye zidzakupatsani mphamvu pazomwe mungakwanitse kuchita zomwe zili zoyambirira kapena idzachedwa mochedwa chimodzi chachikulu. Mwamtheradi, ndithudi, mphunzitsi wabwino kwa inu ndi inuyo. Ndipo kuzindikira kwa chinthu chophweka: kuti muyambe kuchita chinachake, muyenera kungochita chinachake. Chinthu chochepa kwambiri, chotheka. Monga momwe Chichina chakale chinkagwiritsira ntchito, "Ulendo wa li chikwi li umayamba ndi sitepe imodzi." Ndipo izo zikhoza kuchitika lero.