Yambani ndi nokha
Ku America, m'ma 80s, kuyesera kwakukulu kunkachitika. Gulu la anthu anasankhidwa kuchokera kwa anthu 30, aliyense anapatsidwa ndalama zofanana (zambiri). Kenaka m'chaka adatsatidwa. Winawake pa nthawiyi anatsegula bizinesi yawo ndikuchulukitsa ndalama zoyamba, wina adayambanso bizinesi ndipo adalandira ndalama zochepa koma zowonjezera, ndipo wina mwamsanga anataya onse akukhala pafupi ndi umphaŵi. Komanso, anthu osauka adati: "Ngati ndikanakhala ndi ndalama zambiri, ndikanapotoloka!" Anthu osasokonezeka anasonkhana pamodzi, nawapatsa ndalama zomwezo. Chaka chotsatira, palibe aliyense wa iwo amene anali wolemera. Izi zikutanthauza kuti anthu amachitanso chimodzimodzi, monga momwe adawonongeramo likulu lonse ndipo anasiyidwa opanda kanthu.
Tsopano kumbukirani nokha. Kodi nthawi zambiri mumalota bwanji kuti Cucadeneg mwadzidzidzi inagwa kuchokera kwinakwake. Ndiye inu mukanakhala opambana ndi olemera, mwakwaniritsa mapiri aakulu ndipo munali okondwa. Ndikhulupirire - izi siziri choncho. Kupambana sikuli mu thumba la ndalama - liri pamutu. Tifunika kukhala ndi makhalidwe ena mwaife tokha, kukhala okhoza kudzisamalira tokha ndi - pokhapokha padzakhala bwino, ndipo sipadzakhalanso moyo wathanzi pa kuyatsa.
Kodi ndi makhalidwe otani omwe amafunikira kuti apambane pazochita zonse? Choyamba, kudzidalira. Popanda izi sikungatheke kukwaniritsa chilichonse. Luberesheniya kwa moyo umakhala wolimba mtima, osalole ngakhale dontho la kukaikira kuti likhazikike mkati mwa iwekha. Chidaliro chimagwira ntchito pa malingaliro osadziwika - mphamvu ya autosuggestion siidakonzedwe panobe. Khulupirirani luso, khalani ndi lingaliro kuti chirichonse chidzachitika - mudzadabwa momwe bizinesi yanu idzasinthira mwamsanga.
Chikhalidwe chachiwiri ndi chiyembekezo. Maganizo abwino amagwira ntchito zodabwitsa, chinthu chachikulu - kokha patsogolo, musataye mtima. Anthu onse opambana kwambiri anaona galasi la moyo "lakhumi", amakhulupirira zam'tsogolo ndipo adakwaniritsa zomwe akufuna. Kulimbikira kwina ndi khalidwe lofunika kwambiri la munthu pazovuta zonse. Mphamvu, kukwaniritsa zolinga, sizitha kuchepetsa zida, ngakhale kuthamangira ku khoma lolephera, kusamvetsetsa ndi kunyoza. Gwiritsani ntchito zomwe mumakhulupirira mukugonjetsa nthawi za kusimidwa - izi ndizofunikira kwambiri pa mawu oti "chipiriro".
Makhalidwe onsewa angathe ndipo ayenera kukhazikitsidwa mwadzidzidzi, ngati amaletsedwa ndi chikhalidwe chawo. Ndipo chifukwa cha ichi simungakhoze kuchita popanda khalidwe lalikulu - khama. Anthu onse opambana adavomereza kuti amayenera kugwira ntchito mwakhama. Zinali zovuta poyamba. Ambiri sanagone masiku, akulitsa ntchito zawo. Kotero, ngati ndinu waulesi mwachilengedwe ndipo mupeze zifukwa zambiri zoti musamangoganizira mopambanitsa, ndiye kuti mukungodziimba nokha kuti simukupambana.
Musadziteteze kuti mukhale wopambana
Chodabwitsa kwambiri, koma ambiri a ife sitingalole kuti tikhale opambana ndi olemera. Munthu akhoza kuyesetsa kuchita khama kuti akwaniritse zolinga zake, koma chidziwitso chake chidzakana. Mwachitsanzo, anaphunzitsidwa kuyambira ali mwana kuti "si ndalama" zomwe chuma sichipatsidwa moona mtima kuti kuti akwaniritse chinachake, ayenera "kudutsa mandala". Kapena pali kukhudzika mkati kuti ngati mutapeza chinachake, ndiye chinachake chidzatayika mwamsanga. Kapena mwangokhala m'banja mwatengedwe kuti zinthu ziwayendere bwino ndi kukhala olemera ndi osakhulupirira ndi osakonda. Dzimvetse wekha. Ngati zakuya kwanu kumakhala kosiyana ndi wina, ngati pali zotsutsana ndi chikhalidwe, ndiye kuti kupambana sikungatheke.
Ndalama ndi kupambana zimakhala zovuta kubwera kwa wamba wamba, yemwe dziko lake lauzimu ndi lolingalira kuposa munthu wogwira ntchito mwakhama, wotsutsidwa ndi zotsutsana. Musanayese kukopa kupambana, kuyeretsani malingaliro anu osamvetsetseka, malingaliro ndi mfundo zomwe zikuyimira. Kumbukirani kuti "ndi tchimo kukhala wolemera," kuti munthu wopambana ndi "mdierekezi m'thupi" kapena kuti, mosiyana, ndalama ndi "chinthu chofunika kwambiri m'moyo." Kuganizira chuma sikungakhale bwino. Ndiye chirichonse chimadalira ngati mudzatha kusunga makhalidwe anu auzimu, mukutsata njira yopambana. Koma izi ndi zosiyana kwambiri.
Kuthetsa "maphwando" awo
Kodi mukudziwa zomwe zidzachitike ngati ntchentche ikudumphira muzitsulo zovuta zogwiritsira ntchito makina oyendetsa makomera kuti zitheke? Inde, chirichonse, chirichonse! "Mbalame" zosawoneka zomwe aliyense wa ife ali nazo, zingasokoneze miyoyo yathu tsiku ndi tsiku. Mwa kugwira "mphukira" zoterezi zomwe zimakulepheretsani kuti mukhale okhoza, mwamsanga mudzaphunzira kuchita izo.
Tengani pepala, khalani pansi ndikuganiziranso zomwe zimagwira ntchito "zokhazikika" zomwe ziri mu malingaliro anu opanda chidziwitso kukutetezani kuti musapitirizebe kupambana bwino ndi chuma. Zomwe mungapeze - lemba. Zonse zomwe mudzatha kudzipatula mwanjira imeneyi zidzangoyenda kuchokera "osadziŵa" kupita ku chidziwitso chodziwitsidwa. Izi zikutanthauza kuti mutha kusankha nokha chomwe chili chofunika kwambiri kwa inu - kusunga izi kapena kuzikhazikitsa ndikupindula zomwe mukufuna.
Sankhani malo opanda phokoso komanso nthawi imene palibe amene angakusokonezeni. Ikani cholembera pafupi ndi icho ndi mapepala angapo. Khalani mwansangala kuti zinthu zazing'ono monga numb numb nogiiali kumbuyo kwanu musasokonezedwe. Progonite malingaliro akunja, kuganizira (ndizochinsinsi - chinthu chachikulu mu njira "yopindula" iyi). Lembani funso limene limakudetsani nkhawa kwambiri pa moyo wanu. Mwachitsanzo, "ndichifukwa chiyani nthawi zonse ndimasowa ndalama" kapena "chifukwa chiyani zinthu sizikundiyendera bwino"? Kenaka, tsambali lagawidwa kukhala zigawo zitatu ndipo timawatsogolera: "Ndikumva bwanji?" (Timagwira ntchito pamtima), "Ndiganiza chiyani?" (Timagwiritsa ntchito malingaliro) ndi "Kodi ndimachita bwanji izi?"
Chimene mulemba muzitsulo chidzakhala malingaliro anu, malingaliro ndi malo okhudza funso lanu panthawiyi. Pitirizani kuyankha mobwerezabwereza, kuyika mzere. Lembani mofulumira, osaganiza, mayankho akhoza kubwerezedwa panthawi yomweyo. Musasokonezedwe, pitani ku chiwonetsero cha mkati - kutayika kwa ndondomeko kudzachepetsa zotsatira zanu zonse. Kodi pamapeto otani? Mukuzindikira kuti vuto lanu ndilofunika bwanji. Mudzachotsa "maphwando" anu onse kuchokera pansi pa mtima, gdespravitsya nawo adzakhala ophweka kuposa kale lonse. Njira imeneyi ndi yothandiza kwambiri, koma iyenera kuchitidwa mozama - ndi sayansi, osati clownery.
Zonsezi sizitsogoleredwa bwino, zomwe zingakuthandizeni kukhala osangalala komanso osangalala. Aliyense amasankha njira ndi njira, zolinga ndi njira zowonjezera zomwe akufuna. Koma ngati mulibe makhalidwe abwino kapena mutu wanu udzakhala wodzaza ndi "mphuno" - simungathe kukwaniritsa chilichonse, musayese. Taganizirani izi, yesani nokha ndikuchitapo kanthu. Monga mukudziwira, "pansi pa miyala yokonzeka ..." Ndiye mukudziwa.