Kodi mwazindikira kuti ana akukondweretsa makolo ndi anthu ena okha omwe angakhoze kuyamikira, kuyamikira, kukhudzidwa ndi mwana wawo? Sichifukwa chodziwonetsera (mu zovuta zotere, makolo amakula akudandaula komanso osasamala kapena osakwiya komanso osasinthasintha), omwe ndiwowona: kuwonetsa ndi kuyang'anira kuwonjezeka kwa tsiku ndi tsiku, chitukuko chatsopano ndi luso, komanso kusintha pang'ono pa nkhope, manja, mchitidwe. Musati muzindikire kusinthako nthawi ndi nthawi, koma muziwakonda. Ndizomwe tinganene motsimikiza: Ana okondwa ndi makolo okondwa.
Kawirikawiri ndimapeza kuti anthu ambiri samvetsa kapena kumvetsa tanthauzo la mawu akuti "kuyamikira". Kwa ife kuchokera m'mawu a lexicon omwe akulongosola ndondomekoyi yatsala pang'ono kutuluka. Poyamba, mawuwa anagwiritsidwa ntchito mochuluka ndi cholinga: "Inu ndinu chikondi changa," "wokondedwa wanga," izi ndi zina zoterozo zidagwiritsidwa ntchito kuti zikhudze okondedwa kapena ana. Koma liwu ndilo kukonda, liwu lochitapo kanthu ndipo limatanthauza kuchitapo kanthu kozizwa.
Kuti tifotokoze momveka bwino, zomwe tikukambirana, taganizirani chitsanzo ndi mitundu yambiri.
Ambiri ali ndi mapiritsi, koma si maluwa onse okondweretsa diso. Nchifukwa chiyani izi zikuchitika? Ngati muwona momwe amithengawo akuchitira maluwa awo, zidzawonekera bwino. Zomera, zomwe zimakumbukiridwa pokhapokha ngati pakufunika kuziwathira nthawi ndi nthawi, maluwa omwe amakhala ndi maluwa amakhala obiriwira, ndipo amafota kwambiri. Ndipo yang'anani pa omwe amwetsa ziweto zawo kuti azizivomereze, zindikirani ndi kusangalala ndi tsamba lililonse latsopano, masamba onse. Pezani mwachikondi ndi mwapang'onopang'ono masamba ndi masamba, kumwetulira, kuyankhulana nawo. Maluwa ochokera kwa eni eniwo amamera bwino: eni ake amakonda zinyama zokongola, mipesa yakale, maluwa okongola, kupanga chipinda chodabwitsa, munda wodabwitsa. Zomera zonse zimakhala ndi maganizo awo, izi zatsimikiziridwa kale ndi asayansi a sayansi. Maluwa, akumva chisangalalo mwa iwo eni, yesetsani kuti musangalatse iwo omwe akusangalala. Ndipo iwo omwe sali okondwa, samadziwa momwe angamere iwo kapena kufota.
Tiyeni tibwerere ku phunziro lathu la chikondi ndi kuyamikira kwa ana.
Kodi mwakumana ndi ana osangalala, otseguka, okondwa, osangalala? Kunena zoona kunali kofunikira. Samalani makolo a ana oterewa, chifukwa amamuyamikira ndipo amakhudzidwa ndi mwana wawo. Ndi chisangalalo chenicheni ndi chidwi chenicheni chimene amamvetsera, kuyesa kuyankha mafunso onse, amayankhula ndi mwana wake mozama, monga ndi ofanana. Ndimasangalala kwambiri amalenga, amagwira ntchito ndi iye, amasangalala masewera othamanga, amakonda kwambiri kukhala ndi mwana wake, kumuwona, kumuyang'ana. N'zosadabwitsa kuti mwana wa makolo otere amakula. Koma kodi sizingakhale choncho, chifukwa mwana wamwamuna kapena wamkazi amamva kuti amakonda makolo, kuti amasangalala kuti amafunikira?
Tsopano tikutembenukira kumanyazi, zobisika, osakwiya, ana okwiya. Ndipo, chofunikira kwambiri, yang'anani momwe kholo la mwana wotero limawonekera pa chilengedwe chake. Mwinamwake, iye samamuyang'ana iye. Makolo amenewa nthawi zonse amatanganidwa, atatopa, amada nkhawa, amakwiya. Makolo awa ali ndi nkhawa zawo, siziri kwa mwanayo. Komanso, mwana uyu amalepheretsa kusokoneza, kusokoneza, matayala. Makolo ena amakhulupirira kuti kudya, kuthirira, kuvala mokwanira. Kusangalala ndi moyo wamba, makolo awa aiwalika, koma kuti akondwere mwa mwanayo ... Kodi n'zosatheka kukondwera ndi yemwe amalira nthawi zonse, amalepheretsa, akuswa chirichonse ndikuwononga chilichonse?
Chochita ndi mwana wamkazi (mwanayo), ngati wamanyazi, wotsutsidwa, wokwiya? Ndikofunika kufotokoza mobwerezabwereza kuti kukonda ndilo liwu lothandizira. Izi zikutanthauza kuti chikondi chimakondwera nthawi zonse kuti zimakondedwa. Ndipo chofunika kwambiri kuti chikondi chiyenera kumverera, kudziwa kuti iwo amachoka, amasangalala kuti amavomereza.
Popanda chikondi, ana amakula namsongole, amakhala wamanyazi, okwiya, osatetezeka. Pambuyo pake, iwo samva kuti ndi osowa ndi okondedwa. Zikuwoneka ngati ana awa, motere: dziko lapansi likuwoneka mwachidwi, lopindika (kumbuyo kumakhala gudumu), akubisika kuchokera ku dziko lino lapansi. Ndi mosiyana bwanji, iwo sali okondwa, iwo amasokoneza.
Ngati mwana wanu ali wamanyazi, nthawi zambiri amawopa kapena amakwiya, kapena osasintha, ndiye kuti mumayenera kukonda mwana wanu. Tengani lamuloli tsiku ndi tsiku kuti mupeze 3-5 zifukwa zokondwera ndi mwana wanu, kumuyamikira, kumumvetsera ndi kumulingalira mozama ndi kumvetsetsa pazofuna zake.
Simungathe kumuchotsa pambali mwanayo, polemba zifukwa zomwe nthawi ina kapena kutopa. Ngakhale, simungathe kumvetsera tsopano mwanayo, afotokozereni chifukwa chake ndi mtsogolo, mutenge nthawi.
Mudzakhala womveka bwino pa zomwe ndikuzinena ngati muli ndi zokondweretsa zomwe mumazikonda. Kumbukirani momwe mumakonda kuchita bizinesi iyi, konzekerani ntchitoyi, yang'anirani ndondomekoyi ndikukonzekera zotsatira, ndi zabwino zokambirana za zomwe mumakonda. Umo ndi momwe mawonekedwe achikondi amadziwonetsera. Zosangalatsa zathu ndi zokondweretsa zimatipatsa chimwemwe ndi chimwemwe.
Chomwe mungabweretse ana achimwemwe ndi osangalala, muyenera kuphunzira kusangalala nokha ndikunyamulidwa ndi kulera, kupanga mwana wokondwera, ndiye njira yophunzitsira idzabweretsa chimwemwe ndi chisangalalo ndi kukhutira ndi zotsatira zake.
Mulole moyo wanu ukhale wodzaza ndi chimwemwe chochuluka ndi chimwemwe ...