Kodi mungapeze bwanji chinenero chofala ndi anyamata? Mwinamwake, muyenera kuphunzira kumvetsetsana. Kwenikweni, sikovuta monga zikuwonekera poyamba. Kulakwitsa kwakukulu kwa atsikana ndikuti amalingalira kuti kumvetsetsa ndi maganizo a anthu ndi ofanana ndi awo. Izi ndi zolakwika kwenikweni. Anyamata amadziwa ndikuzindikira kuti dzikoli ndi losiyana kwambiri. Ngati akazi nthawi zonse, amatsogoleredwa ndi mtima, ndiye kuti anthu amaganiza za kulingalira ndi kulingalira. Ngati mkazi ayesera kuchita zinthu pa mwamuna, kudalira iye ndi chisoni chake, nthawi zambiri zimakhala kuti iye amadzimva ngati wosazindikira, ndipo ali ngati mkazi wodetsa nkhawa. Pofuna kuti asamange mkangano, mtsikanayo ayenera kukumbukira kuti anyamata nthawi zambiri samawakonda pamene akupepesa ndipo samadziwa kudzimvera chisoni. Iwo akuyang'ana njira yeniyeni yochotsera mkhalidwe wawo, ndipo musalowe m'malo mwa kutengeka. Anyamata samvetsa chifukwa chake kawiri kawiri akufunsa momwe zinthu ziliri, ooh ndi, ngati simungathe kuchita chilichonse. Komanso, iwo sadzakhala nanu nthawi zonse, ndipo amatsutsa vuto limodzi maulendo zana, kukambirana mwatsatanetsatane mfundo zake, popanda kuyesa panthawi yomweyo, kufunafuna njira zowonongeka. Muyenera kukumbukira nthawi zonse izi kuti mupeze chinenero chimodzi ndi anyamata. Komanso, achinyamata samakonda kwambiri mitu yomwe imakondweretsa atsikana. Ngakhale ojambula ndi okongola samatha kulankhula maola atatu za zovala ndi zodzoladzola. Ngati mukufuna kulankhulana payeso lofanana, khalani ndi chidwi ndi makompyuta, magalimoto ndi masewera. Kwa amuna nkhani izi ndi zomwe angathe kukambirana masiku kumapeto.
Ngati mukufuna kukhala mabwenzi ndi anyamata, phunzirani kuwamvetsa ndikuwalandira monga momwe amachitira wina ndi mzake. Koma yesetsani kukhala ndi makhalidwe kotero kuti azikumbukira nthawi zonse: ngakhale kuti ndinu bwenzi, chimodzimodzi, poyamba, nthawi zonse mumakhalabe mtsikana. Ndichifukwa chake, mumayenera kuthandiza amuna pazochita zawo ndi zokambirana zawo, koma kuti asatembenuke kukhala mnyamata, pambuyo pake, nkotheka kuti ena mwa iwo mudzakondana.
Pofuna kumvetsetsa anyamata, mukufunikira pang'ono kuti mudziwe maganizo awo. Musaiwale kuti achinyamata amayesa kuwoneka bwino komanso molimbika kuposa momwe alili. Pamaso pa wina ndi mzake, nthawi zonse sakhala odzipereka kwathunthu, kunena za zomwe apindula ndi kupambana kwawo. Ndipo mnzako weniweni akhoza kukakamiza kuchotsa chigoba ndikuwonetsera moyo wako. Musasowe kuyika kukanikiza kwa anyamata ndikuwakakamiza kuti akhale chinachake chokopa. Achinyamata ayenera kudzivomereza okha.
Kawirikawiri, amadziyesa kuti izi ndizo zowona ndipo simukugwirizana nazo. Ndi bwino kuthandizira nthano ngati imeneyi, chifukwa achinyamata amakhumudwa pamene ayamba kusokoneza chifaniziro chawo chodziimira ndi kudzikonda. Kuti mukwaniritse kumvetsetsa, muyenera kumvetsera ndi kuyang'ana. Ngati mumamusamalira mosamala, mumatha kumvetsetsa bwino momwe angakhalire woona mtima, ndipo ndi bwino kuti musatenge choonadi kuchokera kwa iye. Kumbukirani zomwe achinyamata sakonda pamene akakamizidwa ndi mafunso ndi mafunso. Muyenera kungosonyeza kuti mumatha kumvetsera, kuthandizira ndi kuthandizira pazochitika zilizonse. Ngati munthu ali wotsimikiza izi, nthawi zonse adzabwera kwa iwe kuti awathandize, posachedwa kapena mtsogolo, koma ndithudi adzabwera. Ndiye mukhoza kulankhula naye ndikupereka njira zothetsera vutoli. Osangokhalira kukamba za zovuta za dziko lapansi ndi mavuto opweteka. Mvetserani nkhani yonse popanda kusokoneza ndikupereka malangizo othandiza komanso othandiza. Musati muumirire ndipo musayembekezere kuti mnyamatayo agwirizane ndi chirichonse. Koma dziwani kuti adzalingalira mawu anu ndikugwiritsa ntchito mfundoyi pamene apanga zisankho.
M'makampani a amuna, atsikana amakonda kukambirana. Ngati mukufuna kukhala "anu", muyenera kumvetsa izi ndi kuthandizira, kapena, dzipatule nokha. Pali amayi omwe mwachilengedwe amakhala ndi malingaliro aumunthu, kotero kukambirana kumeneku kumathandizidwa ndi changu komanso chidwi. Ndipotu, ndizovuta, chifukwa poyankhula za amayi ena mukhoza kuphunzira zambiri zosangalatsa ndi zothandiza kwa inu nokha. Choncho, sikuli koyenera kulumikiza milomo yanu ndikufotokozera "fi" yanu pamene anyamatawo akutenga wina kuti akambirane. Choyamba, iwo samvetsa moona zomwe zikuchitika ndipo amangoima momasuka pamaso panu. Ndi bwino kutenga chinthu china chosavuta ndikuyesera kuphunzira zinthu zothandiza.
Sikuti atsikana onse angathe kupeza chinenero chimodzi ndi anyamata. Wokondedwa ndi chinthu chimodzi, koma gulu la munthu ndilolanso. Osakhumudwitsidwa chifukwa cha izi, chifukwa ndi zosavuta kuti ena aziyankhulana ndi atsikana, ndipo ena - ndi anyamata. Palibe cholakwika. Chirichonse chimadalira pa chikhalidwe, malingaliro ndi chikhalidwe cha mkazi aliyense. Aliyense angapeze chinenero chofanana ndi wokondedwa, chifukwa chikondi chimatipangitsa ife kuyang'ana, kusinkhasinkha, kuphunzira ndi kusokoneza. Koma ngati mukufuna kukhala mabwenzi ndi achinyamata, phunzirani ndi anzawo kuti akhale ngati iwo. Anyamata amamvetsetsa atsikana omwe amamvetsetsa ndipo, mwa njira ina, amagawana malingaliro koma angathe kufotokozera ndi kufotokoza chirichonse chogwirizana ndi momwe amai amaonera zinthu zinazake. Pali makampani ochuluka omwe ali pakati pa anyamata ambiri omwe ali ndi msungwana mmodzi omwe amavala ndi manja awo ndipo nthawi yomweyo amalingalira bwenzi lawo lapamtima. Sitiyenera kuonetsa mopitirira malire kuti iwo ndi abambo achikazi, ngakhale kuti siziyenera kukumbukira. Yesani kukhala achilengedwe. Ngati malingaliro a anthu, zokambirana ndi malingaliro akusemphana ndi maganizo anu a dziko lapansi, simukuyenera kudzikakamiza.
Ngati mukufuna kukambirana ndi achinyamata, musaiwale kuti ndinu mkazi, kutanthauza nzeru. Ndi chithandizo cha malingaliro anu ndi chidziwitso, mumatha kumvetsa munthu aliyense, kumuthandiza ndikumupanga kukhala bwenzi lanu lapamtima. Ndipo, mwinamwake, ndi wokondedwa. Ingokumbukirani kuchokera pa izi ndipo kenako mukhoza kupeza chinenero chofala ndi anyamata.