Ndikufuna kunena mwamsanga kuti padziko lapansi palibenso njira imodzi kapena njira iliyonse yolankhulirana ndi amayi, chifukwa mkazi aliyense ali wapadera m'njira yakeyo ndipo ali ndi umunthu wowala, womwe amayesera kusonyeza pokambirana, pamsonkhano, kudabwa kapena kudabwa wothandizana naye. Ndi wosadziwika, koma monga mkazi, zimakhala zovuta kupeza mutu wofanana pa zokambirana kapena zofuna zomwe zingagwirizane ndi zofuna zake. Ngakhale mphunzitsi wotchuka kwambiri wa masewera a anthu, mpira, mwachitsanzo, samavomereza kwa munthu tsiku loyamba za chidwi chomwecho (kupatula ngati iye sanali munthu wakale!). Kwa amayi onse osalongosoka, pokambirana ndi mwamuna ndikofunikira kuti asonyeze munthu wachikazi, wonyengerera, wonyenga, koma chokhumba sichitha bwino, chifukwa zimakhala zovuta kudziwa zofuna za wina ndi mnzake komanso kudziwa chikhumbo choyankhulana pa phunziro lina.
Amuna amakhalanso ochepa pa zokambirana ndi mkazi wosadziwika, popeza amadziwa kuti m'modzi mwa amayi ambiri amasangalatsidwa ndi nkhani monga kumanga thupi, makina atsopano a makompyuta kapena zipangizo zamakono, makina, ndipo nthawi zambiri amadana ndi ndale mutu. Zolinga za ntchito ndi maubwenzi apamtima zimakhalanso zokambirana pa tsiku loyambirira, popeza msonkhano sunakonzedwe kulira kochepa mu chovala kapena kukambirana za miseche yaposachedwa, koma kulankhulana, kudzera mwa wina yemwe angaphunzire zambiri za wina ndi mzake.
Zonse zimagwera pa imodzi - nkhani yotsutsana ndi nyengo, koma izi zikutanthauza kuti mkaziyo sali wokondweretsa ngati interlocutor ndipo amapereka chifukwa choti munthu amunamizidwe kukana kukhalapo kwa malingaliro a akazi.
Ngati tsiku likukonzekera kukachezera kumaseŵero kapena kanema, pakhoza kukhala mitu yambiri yopanga kukambirana za ojambula, mafilimu ndi oyang'anira omwe mumawakonda. Mwa njira, kupita ku chikhalidwe chilichonse chidzathandiza munthu kuphunzira zambiri zokhudza zofuna za amai mwachisawawa ndikuwonetsa kuthekera kwake kokambirana ndi kudziwa za mutuwo. Ngati mukufuna kukonzera masewero, kukambirana kapena kuyenda mumsewu, ndibwino kuti tizitsitsimutsa ntchito za masewero akuluakulu a ndakatulo kukumbukira - iyi ndi njira yabwino kwambiri yodabwitsa mtsikana ndikupanga chisangalalo chosangalatsa, chomwe, mwina, chidzakumbukiridwa ndi kutentha kwakukulu kwa zaka zambiri, mosasamala kanthu za kukula kwa maubwenzi . Kudziwa ndakatulo, ngakhale ngati kudziwika, ndi kale podnadoevshih, idzayankhidwa m'njira yabwino kwambiri.
Pomalizira pake, ziyenera kunenedwa kuti nkhani ya zokambirana, zoyamikirika ndi zofotokozera siziyenera kukonzedweratu pasadakhale, chifukwa poyankhula mwakonzedwe kotere, kukhumudwa ndi kusakhulupirika kungamveke. Kupititsa patsogolo, ngakhale pang'ono, kumakhala kosangalatsa komanso koona mtima kusiyana ndi chidutswa chilichonse cha "kunyumba". Ndipo lamulo lofunika kwambiri pa tsiku loyamba siliyenera kukwiyitsa ngati zinthu sizinayende momwe inu mumafunira, chifukwa asungwana ndizilengedwa zosadziŵika bwino ndi zosinthika zomwe zochita zawo sizikhala ndi lingaliro ndi kusanthula kulikonse! Ndikukufunirani mwayi!