Zinsinsi zokopana

Chinsinsi choyamba cha kupambana sichikhoza konse kudziwonetsera nokha ndi kukondweretsa, koma kukhoza kuganiza molakwika, koma panthawi yomweyi kumveketsa kuti wina wakonda izo. Ngati "cholinga" chikumva kuti chiri chokondweretsa kwa mkazi, ndiye mwayi wokamukonda iye ukuwonjezeka kwambiri.


Chowonadi ichi chawonetsedwa mu kufufuza kosaneneka ndi kuyesera, koma pokhala umboni wotsimikizirika sikuyenera kukhala katswiri pamphumi.

Pankhani yogonana, ambiri - makamaka amuna - onetsetsani pamaganizo a iwo: pokambirana, pakufunika kuika ndondomeko yoyenera pa nthawi yoyenera, kupeza mawu olondola ndi zina zotero.

Ndipotu, mawu osagwiritsa ntchito mawu achikondi - chilankhulo cha thupi, chilankhulo, chigamulo ndi kuthamanga kwa mawu, ndi zina zotero - ndizofunikira kwambiri, makamaka pachigawo choyamba.

Mwamuna akakumana ndi mkazi kwa nthawi yoyamba, maganizo ake oyambirira adzakhala 55 peresenti malinga ndi maonekedwe ake ndi thupi lake, 38 peresenti ya momwe akulankhulira, ndi 7 peresenti ya zomwe akunena.

Mofananamo, zizindikiro zopanda mawu zomwe zimatumizidwa ndi "wozunzidwa" zidzamuuza munthu za momwe amamvera kwa iye kuposa mawu. Anthu amavomereza zosamalidwa zawo ndipo samakonda ndi zomwe akunena, koma ndi momwe amachitira, komanso ndi maonekedwe, nkhope ndi manja omwe amatsatira mawuwo.

Chikhalidwe "chabwino kwambiri", mwachitsanzo, chingatanthauze chirichonse - kuchokera "u, ndiwe wotani!" kuti "n-inde, chabwino, chabwino ..."

Maso - ichi ndicho chinsinsi chofunika kwambiri chokopa. Kawirikawiri anthu amaganiza kuti maso ndi chiwalo chomwe chimadziŵa zambiri, koma kwenikweni ndizo zowonjezereka zopambana. Mwa njira yomwe anthu amawonekerana, amakumana ndi maso awo, amayang'ana kutali, zimakhala zosavuta kuona ngati akusangalala ndi kukondana kapena kumangokhalira kumangokhalira kumangokhalira kumangokhalira kukonda.

Maso ali m'diso - izi ndi zida zamphamvu kwambiri zomwe zimakhala zovuta, anthu amakakamizika kuti azigwiritsa ntchito nthawi yake. Kuyang'ana kwa nthawi yaitali m'maso mwa munthu wina kungangotanthauza chinthu chimodzi chokha: munthu amapeza poyerekeza ndi iye zosamveka zosiyana - chifundo kapena chidani. Kawirikawiri, amanyazi ndi mawonedwe a mphamvu zotere, anthu amayesa kuyang'ana maso osapitilira kachiwiri, ndi gulu lalikulu kapena akuzunguliridwa ndi alendo ngakhale pang'ono. Ndipo ambiri amayesetsa kupeŵa kuyang'ana maso.

Mwa njira, izo ziri m'manja mwa iwo amene akufuna priudarit kwa mlendo wokongola (kapena mlendo). Ngakhale muholo yodzaza anthu ambiri, kudzera m'mitu yambiri, munthu amatha kumuuza kuti asadziwe. Zonse zomwe muyenera kuchita ndi kugwira maso a munthu wokondweredwa ndikugwirapo kwachidule.

Ngati munthu apambana, ndiye kuti ali ndi chiyembekezo chokondana, kale m'thumba mwake. Ndipo ngati atangoyamba kukumana ndi maso akuyang'anitsitsa kamphindi, kenaka akuyang'ana kachiwiri, wina akhoza kukhala wotsimikiza: ali kale wosayanjanitsika. Chabwino, ngati atapatsidwa mphotho, ndiye kuti mukhoza kuyandikira moona mtima.

Ngati sakumana ndi maso, ndipo akakumana, nthawi yomweyo amayang'ana kutali ndipo saibwezeranso, zikhoza kutanthauza kuti chidwi cha munthuyo, tsoka, chinadza pa khoma lopanda kanthu. Komabe, ndikumayambiriro kwambiri kuti musataye mtima: chinthu chobuula chingakhale chamanyazi kwambiri. Kuphatikizanso, amayi ena amaona kuti ndizochititsa manyazi kusonyeza aliyense zomwe amakonda mlendo. Kodi ndi choncho? Kapena mwayi umenewo ulidi?

Mungathe kuphunzira za izi pokhapokha mutayang'anitsitsa momwe zolinga zimakhalira ndi ena. Kodi amapewa kuyang'anitsitsa maso ndi amuna onse? Kodi iye (chinthucho) amawoneka wamantha, akudandaula kapena, akunena, amadzikuza pamene amalankhula ndi amayi ena? Ngati inde, ndiye mwa (chinthu) chosafuna kuyankha malingaliro anu paliponse palibe kanthu, ndipo kuyesera mwayi wanu kungakhalebe koyenera, ngakhale kuti pali zodziŵika bwino.

Eya, munthu akafika pa nkhani ya chilakolako chake mofulumira, amafunikanso kuyang'ana maso - makamaka kuti ayambe kukambirana. Mukangomva maso anu, mukhoza kuyamba kuyankhula. Mukangoyamba kukambirana, mukhoza kuchotsa maso anu.

Ndikofunika kudziwa nthawi yomweyo kuti pa zokambirana wokamba nkhani angayang'ane paliponse; womvera nthawi zambiri amayang'ana interlocutor. Choncho, ngati munthu watha kumaliza mawu ake ndipo akufuna kumva yankho lake, ayenera kuyang'ananso maso ake. Ngati munthu akufuna kusonyeza chidwi pa zomwe akulankhula, muyenera kungoyang'anitsitsa mosamala kwa magawo atatu a magawo anayi a nthawi yonse ya zokambiranazo, ndipo nthawi yonse ya mawonekedwewo ayenera kukhala pamphindi imodzi kapena seveni.

Munthu wolankhula nthawi zambiri amamvetsera mwachidwi kusiyana ndi theka la nthawi ndipo amakumana ndi maso kwa nthawi yochepa - mpaka yachiwiri. Pamene mnzanu watsopano amatha kukambirana ndikusankha kuti apititse njira yolumikizana, iye (kapena) adzayang'ana mwachidule m'maso: tiyenera kutenga baton. Mawu ofunika apa "akuyang'anitsitsa" ndi "mwachidule": simungathe kuyang'anitsitsa motalikitsa cholinga cha kusaka, kapena kwina kulikonse.

Kulakwitsa kwakukulu kuti kukopa anthu kumawoneka ndiko kuyang'ana motalika kwambiri kapena kuyesera kuyandikira wina ndi mzake. Zonsezi, ndi zina, zoyamba, zimatsogolera kuti chinthucho chimasokonezeka, ndipo kachiwiri, amatanthauzira molakwika chizindikiro chovomerezeka. Amuna ena amaika chiyembekezo chawo pachiyambi cha kukambirana koyambirira, pamene amayesa kuti azitsogoleredwa ndi mkazi yemwe amamukonda, amaiwala ngakhale nthawi zina kukweza maso awo kumaso.