Taganizirani, zikutheka kuti mumayika chiyembekezo chachikulu pa mnyamata aliyense yemwe mumakumana naye, choncho mumadalira kwambiri. Komabe, sikuti aliyense ali wokonzeka kupirira kupsinjika, kuganizira za kukula kwa zolinga zawo, kuyamba kuyamba kufotokozera chinachake chofunika kwambiri ponena za mkaziyo, komanso kusonyeza zoyesayesa.
Yesani mwamsanga "kudzikongoletsa nokha" mkati mwathu, ngati "maloto" otsatirawa akuyandikira. Ngati munthu wabwino adawonekera, izi sizikutanthauza kuti muyenera kugwira manja ndi miyendo yanu ndikuyesa kuzisunga mwanjira iliyonse. Ganizilani makamaka kuti uyu ndi munthu wokonda, malingaliro, zolinga zake, ndi zolinga zake, ndipo 50 peresenti ya momwe tsogolo lanu lidzakhalire limodzi lidzadalira pa iye. Simusowa kuthamanga patsogolo pa injini, ingosiyani zochitikazo pang'onopang'ono - ziloleni kuti zonse zizipitirira monga mwachizoloŵezi, lolani kuti zonse zikhazikike, simukusowa kuti muwonetsetse. Nthawi zina, akatswiri a zamaganizo amalangiza kuti "kumasula chilengedwe chovuta" - apa ndi apo mukhoza kuyesa kuchita chimodzimodzi. Inu simukuyenera kudzipangitsa nokha - "ichi ndi chimene ndikusowa - maloto anga, ndikuyenera kuyika mphamvu iliyonse, iyi ndiyo yokhayokha." Tangoganizani- "hmm ... mnyamata wokondweretsa, tiye tiwone zomwe zimachitika pa izi" - ndipo imani pa lingaliro ili.
1. Lolani munthuyo mwiniyo kuti asonyezepo kanthu kenakake, onani momwe amachitira, zomwe amatha kuchita panthawiyi, ndiyeno awononge khalidwe lake: iye ndi wolimbikira komanso wogwira ntchito, wamanyazi komanso wamanyazi, kapena sakudziwa yekha, zomwe akufuna kuchokera kwa inu, ndipo mwachidwi amasonyeza chidwi chake. Malingana ndi momwe amakhalira, mungathe kumanga ndi khalidwe lawo.
Ngati iye mwiniyo akugwira ntchito, mukhoza kuvomereza kuti akukondana naye, koma musathamangire kuchitapo kanthu - mwinamwake iye angakonde kufunafuna chidwi cha mtsikanayo.
Ngati palibe njira yochokera kwa mnyamatayo, yesani mphamvu zake zonse ndi zofooka zake, ndipo sankhani zomwe mumakonda kwambiri munthu. Mwina, nkofunikira kuyembekezera pang'ono, ndipo "adzalumikiza" njirayo, kuyang'anitsitsa, ndipo mu chiyanjano chenicheni chidzawonetsedwa. Ndipo mwinamwake sakufuna kuti apitirizebe kugwirizana, sakufuna kuti awamasulire mozama, ndipo ndi bwino kuthetsa zonse mwamsanga, ndikukhala ndi malo atsopano, ndikuyesa nthawi zonse.
2. Ngati mwamuna sasonyeza chidwi pachiyambi cha chiyanjano - salemba, saitana, sichiitana, sichimatha, ndiye kukudziwitsani kuti sakufuna kwambiri. Choncho, musanayambe kulimbana nawo ndi mauthenga ndi mafoni, ganizirani kasanu ngati mukufuna chithunzichi, ndipo ngati kuli bwino kusokoneza zonsezi, kuti zisapweteke mutatha kuyembekezera kwanu.
3. Phunzirani kuthana ndi "kugonjetsedwa": sichikutcha, ziphuphu, sizidziwonetsera zokhazokha - ndiye, sizingatheke, sizikufuna, zikutanthauza, sizikufuna, sizikuyandikira, sizikukhudzidwa. ... Chabwino, mungachite chiyani? Kumbukirani, koma kodi nthawi zonse mumawabwezera mafani anu? Simusowa kuti mubweretse vutoli poti mumakhala "otoshyut" mosakayikira kapena kuyamba kunyalanyaza mwachindunji. Inde, mutha kukhala chete, mutakhala kuti "ayi", koma mungakhulupirire kuti simungamve bwino mumtima mwanu, koma mumadzimva kuti ndinu "wophwanyika" komanso "mukuchititsidwa manyazi" mutayesetsa kukhazikitsa ubale wabwino. Choncho, ndi bwino kubwereranso ndikusiya, ngakhale kuti simungadzipweteke kwambiri ndikusiya kuyambitsa. Pamapeto pake, ngati mwamuna akufunadi kupitiriza chiyanjano, iye adzakutulutsani pansi.
4. Yang'anani mwatcheru moyo ndi moyo wa wosankhidwa wanu, mosamala mosamala zochitika ndi zochepa. Nthawi zina, zomwe mukuchita sizingatheke ndipo zimamupangitsa munthuyo kuti asamavomereze, koma "otmashku" ndi kukwiya. Pambuyo pake, zikhoza kuchitika kuti malingaliro anu pa msonkhano, zokhudza zochitika zambiri, ndi zina zotero. adzapunthwa pa kusowa ndalama kapena zovuta mu maphunziro awo, ntchito, osati chifukwa chosowa chilakolako chokhalitsa chiyanjano. Pemphani, mnyamatayo posachedwapa adzatha kubwerera kwa inu ndi kuyamba kuyang'anitsitsa ndikuyambapo. Koma ngati nthawi yomwe mtsikana ayamba kumumzungulira ndi chidwi chake, ndiye kuti palibe chomwe chidzatsalira kwa iye, momwe angachotsere moyo wake.
5. Mwamwayi, palibe "Chinsinsi" chomwe chingathandize atsikana onse kutembenuza ma buku ndi amuna okondweretsa ku ubale wa nthawi yaitali - "amasankha ife, timasankha", monga akunena. Pachifukwa ichi, zidzakhala zolondola pamoyo wathu kuti tisamangoganizira zokhazokha ndi zolakalaka zathu, komanso kuti tifanane ndi zofanana, zilembo zoyenera ndi zilembo, zolakwa ndi mayesero, tsogolo la misonkhano, ndi potsiriza. Izi zidzakuthandizani kulingalira molondola m'maganizo mwanu ntchito yanu kufufuza theka lachiwiri, komanso nthawi yodzilamulira.