Ndipotu, kukhalapo kwa ubale weniweni mudziko lapansi ndi chinsinsi kwa ambiri omwe, pokhala atadzuka m'mawa, choyambirira sapita kukazitsuka mano awo, koma mutembenuzire kompyuta. Kwa anthu oterowo, ubale weniweni umayamba kuchepetsedwa kukhala mauthenga "Othandizira" komanso pamabuku, malemba ndi zizindikiro "Ndimakonda". Koma kodi pali maubwenzi omwe timawazindikira mwanjira iyi, kapena ndichinthu china chonyenga china.
Choncho, choyamba tiyenera kudziwa kuti ndi chiyanjano chiti chomwe tikutanthauza. Chowonadi ndi chakuti pali mitundu yosiyana ya ubale weniweni. Iwo akhoza, mwachitsanzo, kutchedwa: zokhudzana ndi chenicheni, zosagwirizana ndi zenizeni, zosagwirizana kwenikweni ndi zenizeni.
Kusiyana kwake ndi chiyani, ndipo ndi iti mwa iwo omwe angatengedwe kuti ndi weniweni?
Ubale wogwirizana ndi chenicheni. Kwa gululi, timayankhula ndi anthu omwe sakudziwika kokha, koma komanso kudziko lenileni. Mwachitsanzo, tili ndi mabwenzi omwe tinalumikizana nawo kwa nthawi yoposa chaka chimodzi, koma moyo unatibalalitsa ku mizinda yosiyanasiyana. Pankhani iyi, kuyankhulana kumayenera kuthandizidwa pogwiritsa ntchito malo ochezera a pa Intaneti, Skype kapena ICQ. Koma, polankhulana ndi munthu, kudzera m'makalata ndi zizindikiro, timadziwa zomwe akumva pamene akuwerenga uthenga. Kwa ife, anthu oterewa alipo osati mwa ma avatara okha. Timawakumbukira mudziko lenileni, timadziwa momwe kuseka, kukwiyitsa, momwe amasangalalira. Izi ziri, mwa kuyankhula kwina, iwo ali enieni, atatu-dimensional. Kulankhulana nawo, sitimasowa kuganiza chilichonse ndi kulenga chinyengo, chifukwa tili ndi zambiri zokwanira. Kuyankhulana ndi mabwenzi otere m'dziko lonse lapansi ndikofunikira kuposa chikhumbo. Sitingathe kukumana nawo mu dziko lenileni chifukwa cha zifukwa zina, kotero makalata, kumwetulira ndi zithunzi zimatithandiza kuti tithyane wina ndi mzake ngakhale titasiyana ndi makilomita mazana ndi mazana. Ubwenzi woterewu ukhoza kutchedwa kuti weniweni. Kuonjezera apo, sizili zenizeni, chifukwa zimayambira kulankhulana kwenikweni.
Ubale umene umagwirizana kwambiri ndi zenizeni. Gawoli limaphatikizapo milandu yomwe anthu amadziwira bwino kwambiri, koma samalankhulana kwa nthawi yayitali, ndipo, kenako akupitiriza kulankhula. Mwachitsanzo, izi zimachitika pamene anthu amadziŵa bwino sitima, masewera, maulendo, kutenga zofuna zawo, ndikusintha maadiresi awo ndi manambala. Zikatero, tikhoza kale kunena kuti tili ndi chidwi chenicheni cha munthu, koma sitinganene kuti timadziwa izi kapena munthuyo bwino. Chifukwa chake, tikamalankhulana pa intaneti, timadalira zomwe timakumbukira munthu ndikuyesa kutsanzira zochita zake ndi khalidwe lake. Zoonadi, panopa pali kale chinyengo. Komabe zimakhala zovuta kuphunzira ndikumvetsa munthu kwa masabata angapo, kapena ngakhale masiku angapo. Zonse zimadalira momwe munthuyo aliri woona komanso wotseguka pa kulankhulana kwabwino. Ngati achita mofanana ndi zenizeni, ndiye kuti, pogwiritsa ntchito malipoti ake, munthu akhoza kupeza mfundo zomveka bwino zokhudzana ndi mtundu wa munthu. Koma zimachitika kuti mu makalata omwe munthuyo amatseka, kapena, mosiyana, amakhala ndi ufulu wambiri, osati mu moyo. Pachifukwa ichi, tifunikira kudzizindikiritsa tokha momwe ziliridi komanso ngati zili zoyenera kukhulupirira chirichonse chimene munthu uyu akulemba.
Koma, ndithudi, pali nthawi pamene munthu amachitira zinthu mofanana mu zonse komanso dziko lenileni. Zimadziwika ndi zomwe amalemba, momwe amachitira ndi mawu ndi mawu. Choncho, ngati muli bwenzi ndi munthu wotero, ndiye kuti ubalewo, makamaka, ungatchedwe weniweni. Chinthu chachikulu, musayese kupanga chithunzi ndi cholinga cha interlocutor. Ngati mumadziwana bwino mokambirana momasuka, musaiwale nkhaniyi ndipo musamusiyane ndi munthu amene mumamufotokozera pa intaneti.
Ubale umene suli wosiyana kwathunthu ndi chenicheni. Gawoli likhoza kufotokozedwa chimodzimodzi ndi milandu imene anthu sawoneke m'moyo nthawi imodzi, kudziwa bwino pa malo ochezera a pa Intaneti ndikulankhulana wina ndi mzake. Kodi ubale umenewu ndi weniweni? Mwinamwake izo zimachitika, koma osati nthawizonse momwe ife tingafunire. Chowonadi ndi chakuti, podziwa bwino munthu amene alidi chithunzithunzi kwa ife, timadziwa kuti sitingagwirizanane nawo, choncho timalingalira kwa iye zomwe timaganiza kuti ziyenera kukhala zothandizira. Kawirikawiri, izi, ndithudi, si zoona. Koma, dziko lapansili limatithandiza kupeza chinyengo cha ubwenzi komanso kukonda maubwenzi, omwe iwo omwe sadziwa kulankhulana kwenikweni samafuna kuphwanya.
Choncho, kawirikawiri anthu omwe amadziwana ndi kulankhulana kokha, samatsutsana ndi chithunzi chopangidwa. Intaneti imawathandiza kukhala abwino, okongola komanso okhulupirira kwambiri. Zomwe zimachitika kawirikawiri pamene munthu sakuyesera kuwoneka ndi wina kuti akondweretse interlocutor kapena, mosiyana, kutsimikizira mphamvu zawo ndi ukulu.
Ngati tikulankhula za chikondi chomwecho, ndiye kuti kumverera kotereku kungatchedwe kwenizeni pokhapokha. Vomerezani, ngati mumaganizira mozama, munthu wamkulu sangakonde chithunzi chabe. Iye akuyenera kumverera munthu, kuwona kumverera kwake, kumangomverera wokondedwa. Tsoka ilo, zithunzi "VKontakte" sizingatipatse malingaliro awa. Choncho, pokamba za chikondi chenicheni, timangonena za maloto athu ndi malingaliro, omwe sitingathe kuwazindikira m'moyo wathu.