Kwadziwika kale kuti akazi amakonda makutu, ndi amuna omwe ali ndi maso. Izi ndi zoona ndithu. Koma ndi bwino kukumbukira kuti mawu azimayi ndi ofunika kwambiri kuti amvetsetse amuna. Mmene amalankhulirana ndi mawu omwe amamveketsa amavomereza chifaniziro chazimayi pazochita za amuna. Tiyeni tilingalire za mtundu wanji wa mawu omwe amakopeka kwambiri ndikukupangitsani inu kumvetsera ndi kumvetsera, ndipo mtundu womwewo umatsutsa.
Mmodzi mwa olembawo, mwa ntchito yake imodzi, adatsimikiza kuti mawu, kutsika kwachinsinsi, komwe kumatulutsa mawu otchuka, ndi okongola komanso okongola. Amuna amachititsa mawu amtundu wotere kukhala mkwatulo, chifukwa sangathe kupulumutsa chisangalalo cha liwu lodzaza ndi chidaliro ndi kukhutira. Mwini wa mtundu uwu, amapanga chithunzi chosatheka ndi chosasokonezeka, ndicho chomwe chimayambitsa chidwi chochuluka kuchokera kumbali yamwamuna.
Liwu lokhala ndi mpweya limawerengedwa mu mawu achikondi. Liwu la mtundu uwu limakondweretsa amuna, chifukwa mpweya ulipo mu liwu sizimveketsa chizindikiro chosonyeza kuti mwamunayo amamukonda.
Koma liwu lokhala ndi khalidwe labwino limayambitsa kugwirizana kwa amuna ndi anyamata, mkazi yemwe ali ndi liwu lomwelo akuwoneka kuti ndi wosayera ndi wotsutsana. Koma ngati, mwa njira ya mwiniwake wa mawu ngati amenewo, padzakhala mwamuna yemwe ali ndi udindo ndi wolimba mtima, wokhoza mu ubale wawo kuti atenge udindo wa abambo, ndiye mgwirizano wawo udzakhala wolimba ndi wosawonongeka.
Komanso udindo wotsutsa mu liwu la mawu umasewera ndi kupfuula kwa kudula. Chowonadi ndi chakuti mawu awa akuyankhula za kukhalapo kwa mphamvu ndi kupirira mu khalidwe la mkazi uyu. Mkazi wotereyu amadziwika ndi makhalidwe monga utsogoleri, ulamuliro, kulamulira nthawi zonse. Monga lamulo, anthu samakonda pamene wina ayesa kuwathetsa. Koma, chinthu china, ngati panjira ya woyimira mawu amtundu uwu, padzakhala munthu yemwe alibe chidziwitso, ndipo chofunikira mwa mtsogoleriyo, ndiye, ndithudi, adzakhala ndi mgwirizano wamphamvu.
Tsiku loyamba
Kukopa munthu ndi mawu, omwe amadziwika ndi makhalidwe amphamvu, muyenera kukhala ndi chiyankhulo ndi chidziwitso. Fomu yooneka ngati mauthenga idzakuuzani za munthu yemwe ali ndi chikhalidwe chomwecho akuyang'ana mwa mkazi. Uku ndi kusatetezeka, kufunikira kwa chisamaliro ndi kusamalira, kufunikira kwa womulankhulira. Mayi amene ali ndi chilankhulo chotere amakhala ndi chikhalidwe chosalimba komanso chosatetezedwa chomwe samalimbikitsa mwamuna kuti amusamalire ndi kumusamalira. Kulankhula koteroko kuyenera kuyesedwa bata. Ndikofunika kugwiritsa ntchito ziganizo ndi kutembenuka kofanana, pamene kusuntha konse komwekugwiritsidwa ntchito kumayenera kuyang'aniridwa.
Ngati pangakhale msonkhano ndi mnyamata wofatsa komanso wodalirika, nkofunikira, m'malo mwake, kusonyeza mphamvu ndi chidaliro mu mawu ake. Chiyankhulo-chotulutsidwa chiyenera kuperekedwa ndi kuwonekera. Chofunika kwambiri ndi kukhalapo kwa maganizo. Kuyang'ana pa mphindi ya kulankhula kumakhudzanso, ziyenera kufanana ndi kulankhula muzochitika zonse. Maganizo ayenera kukhala otsimikiza ndi omveka.
Kukondweretsa mwamuna wa maloto anu kudzakuthandizani kulankhula mokhwima. Nkhani yakuti "popanda kuima" sizingatheke kukuthandizani. Ndikofunika kupirira mapepala, chifukwa amakhulupirira kuti munthu amadziwa uthenga womveka kuchokera pamilomo ya mkazi kwa masekondi makumi awiri, zonse zomwe zatsala pang'ono kutaya chidwi, choncho ndikofunikira kusiyanitsa zolankhula zanu. Komanso, tiyenera kuzindikira kuti sikofunika kuti tizimvetsera kuposa kulankhula. Lembani zokambirana zanu m'njira yoti mwamunayo akhale ndi mwayi wofotokozera malingaliro ake, omwe muyenera kumvetsera ndikuwunika. Kutamanda kwa amuna sikudzapweteka konse.
Kulankhula kwamphamvu kumadzudzula
Mayi wodekha, wosatetezeka, zimakhala zovuta kuti udzichepetse wekha. Chimodzi ndi chofunika kwambiri kwa izo chimachitika chifukwa cha kusowa kwa zolankhula zolondola. Kulankhula momveka bwino ndi kosatsimikizika kumalepheretsa muzhchin.
Zomwezo zikugwiranso ntchito kwa amayi, omwe m'mawu amasonyeza kuti ang'onoang'ono amakonda kumvetsera amuna. Izi ndi zodandaula za miyoyo yawo, mavuto okhazikika komanso osasinthika.
Ndiyeneranso kukumbukira kuti kulankhula kotsimikiza komanso kukhudzika kumangokwiyitsa amunawo. Ndipo onse chifukwa mwa bwenzi la kugonana mwamphamvu, monga lamulo, akuyang'ana zofewa ndi zofewa. Ndipo apa chirichonse chimasintha chimodzimodzi mosiyana.
Mwamuna adzakondana kwamuyaya ndi mkazi yemwe ali ndi zofewa ndi zina zotero. Ndipo ngati zonsezi zili ndi mawu otsika, ndiye mkazi woteroyo ali ndi mwayi.